DD will be about 20mnth when BIL is getting married, his fiance told us didnt even ask us that DD will put a wagon down the aisle. DH and I agree she wont be able to pull a wagon. I think she will still be too young to even walk down by herself. The bride doesn't want one of her best friends daughter in the wedding because she doenst think she can do it, and she is 2yrs older than DD.
Its no secert I dont really like BIL fianace (a lot of past issues) but that is not why I dont want DD in the wedding, but MIL is going to think that is why. The last wedding I was in there was so much drama I said after that no more being in weddings unless my little sister ever gets married.
Am I the only on that thinks DD is too young?
Re: BIL wants DD to be in his wedding
At 20 months old E had just started walking. I cannot imagine a 20 month old would be able to pull a wagon in a wedding. Maybe she meant your DD could be PULLED in the wagon?
I agree with you that weddings are full of drama and stress. I would probably say no as well.
At first thats what I thought she meant but then she said they wanted her to pull it.
There is already a jr brides maid and a flower girl....I know BIL wants her in it because she is his niece but I just don't see the point,
I think having any child under the age of 3 be part of the wedding party is ridiculous. I've seen way too many youngin's freaking out and crying the moment they see all the people and then the mom or dad sheepishly grabbing their child and finishing the walk. I know they make for cute flower girls/ring bearers but I'd much rather have a 3 or 4 y/o (who are just as cute) have the ability to walk on their own without mom and dad's prodding.
Oh, and if it isn't a secret that you don't like the fiancee then who really cares what people think is the reason why you said no.
I was 5 and my cousin was about 2 when we were in my uncle's bridal party. I had to lead my cousin down the aisle and he was not happy about it!
I don't think your daughter is too young but I think your BIL and his fiancee need to have some more realistic expectations. I've seen a 6 month old act as a ring bearer before...someone had to carry him down the aisle.
Go Phils!!
My 14 m.o. is going to be in SIL wedding in 2 weeks. I'm the MOH, so I will just be walking her out holding her hand down the aisle. SIL is also having FI's niece in the wedding and she will be just 6 months. the Best Man is going to carry her out with me walking Julia. Julia does really well walking hand in hand, if I just let her walk, I'm not sure she would make it down the aisle without a detour.
The only thing I'm worried about is the fact that SIL is getting married on a beach, so we'll have to do some practice walking in the sand, or else I'll just carry Jules, NBD.
Our flower girl was 13 months at our wedding. We just had her mom walk with her down the aisle and that worked fabulously. She did great and just waved to everyone as she passed them.
I do think that she is too young to pull a wagon though, most kids that age get distracted pretty easily so having them just focus on one thing at a time is best.
You might want to check to see if there's a park nearby with a play structure that has sand. Hopefully she won't have any trouble! My DS didn't have to adjust to walking on sand at all. Within 2 weeks of walking he figured out how to navigate our very uneven backyard and sand. So I don't think sand is too hard to walk on for toddlers (though it still sometimes hard for me! lol)
I guess it really depends on YOUR daughter. My DD would be ready to by then. I think she could pull a wagon down the isle now so long as she was shown over and over what to do. DD has been walking full time for about 8 months now so that may be a lot different. If you are stressed out about it then decline and have a free conscious but I don't think the age is too young unless it is specifically for your kiddo.