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Close babies...anyone else?
Me and DH are talking about trying for LO #2 towards the end of the year. Maybe around November when DS is about 9 months. I really want my first two babies to be really close and then maybe wait two years and see if we want another. Am I absolutely nuts to already be thinking about getting pregnant again? DH asked me, as we were leaving the hospital, if I wanted any more babies. I told him that I would probably be pregnant within the next year. lol I had a super easy delivery. I went into labor at 7am and had DS before noon. When I went in for my 6 week appointment, my doctor said that getting pregnant again wouldn't be a problem, and she would see me at my next first prenatal appointment. Is anyone else planning on having their babies really close?
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Re: Close babies...anyone else?
We are planning to wait about a year but we are hoping it happens right away. I ended up with a emergency c/s after being in active labor for several hours. OB recommended waiting at least a year before TTC.
We'll decide on #3 after we've had #2 and seeing how much sanity is still left.
Life with Blog
(m/c 1.17.07, m/c 5.15.07)
DS - 03.15.08
DD2 - 12.03.09
DD3 - 3.28.11
We started trying for #2 when #1 was about 5-6 months. It happened the first cycle. BFP when DD#1 was 7 months old.
It is hard to be pregnant with a toddler. I will say that. It has only been a month with both of them but I've had help. So far so good. We're already talking about #3...I'm not getting any younger. ;-) So far I think that it is easier with #2, like the crying hurts me a little less, and the other things don't make me as crazy as they did with DD#1 because it's like I don't have time to worry like I did with DD#1 so much.
the 2 under 2 board is a great help though. GL to you!
As you can see by my siggy, my kids are very close and I LOVE it
They play together so well and are best friends. I can't wait until Quinn is big enough to join in on the fun!!
my daughter was 9 months when I got unexpectantly pregnant. It is very exhausting to say the least. It can be a lot of fun too. I had two csections and I am healing very well. I will tell you that it is hard work the first few months..not going to sugar coat it. There is no sleeping when the baby sleeps because you have a toddler to take care of...not to mention if you get morning sickness you still have to function because you have toddler. It works out but sleep deprivation is definitely worse if you have 2 under 2. You also never know what kind of personality LO #2 will have. Mine had major gas and colic issues which made things a little more difficult.
I wouldnt change anything for the world. My girls are the best thing that ever happened to me. I am very happy they will always have each other and be close in age. Kind of can't wait till DD2 is sleeping 12 hour nights like her sister though!
DD - February 2011
A Frog, A Monkey and a Ladybug
1st pregnancy: m/c began 1/12/09 d&c 1/13/09 8wks. Baby stopped growing at about 6wks.
Delaney: Born 10/15/09
Gavin: Born 4/8/11
Baby #3: due July 10, 2014
That's what we did. I got pregnant when DS was 10 months. I'm definitely glad we're doing it this way. You know... get the baby/toddler stage over with relatively quickly and then take a little break. That way, they each have a playmate and if we want to be done for good, we can be. No pressure. I'm excited about them being so close in age so that they can be involved in the same play activities because they will pretty much be at the same level.
I'm not going to lie and say it's easy. It's definitely not easy right NOW... but it will get easier as the years go by (or so I've heard). It's a madhouse around here right now. But at least the ratio is even so we can each take one kid.
ETA: I should probably add that DS still goes to daycare so I'm only at home with DD during the day. I couldn't imagine staying home with both kids all day. Then I might be thinking I was crazy for wanting 2U2.
Matthew Kevin
7/31/83-7/20/11
Met 1/8/00
Engaged 4/21/06
Married 9/29/07
Two beautiful legacies: Noah Matthew (2 yrs) and Chloe Marcella (8 mos)
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there are pros and cons to having close in age. DS was a surprise but it has been a huge blessing to have them close in age.
Pros:
When I was pg DD was still on 2 naps a day. This was great because I could get a nap in and do housework during the other nap. Especially during 1st trimester.
She wasn't running like she is now. She was still crawling and not getting into everything (like now) so it was nice. I laid on the floor with her a lot playing and I could rest.
You are already in diaper-baby mode so it was an easy transition back to the newborn phase. Everything is very fresh in my memory.
This age gap (16 months) my toddler has no idea about jealousy. As far as she knows her brother has always been here. When we came back from the hospital she gave him a hug and has never had a problem with me holding him or nursing him.
Cons:
Going out is a HUGE challenge. DD doesn't take directions or follow me. Going to the supermarket takes some strategy of parking close to a shopping cart and wearing the newborn.
Both kids don't really wait for another. Worlds often start to collide and everyone is crying.
The house is always mess and I can never leave or trust my toddler around the newborn (not even turn my back to grab something behind me). She is impulsive, which is typical for her age.
Bath time has to be done separately for the same reason. DD will try to poke at her brother, climb ontop of him, throw a toy at him... who knows.... Also I can't take my eyes off of her to dress DS after the bath.
Overall I love having the spacing so close. I actually think we will have the 3rd when DS is about 16-18 months old. Even though I was freaking out for 9 months, It really was a blessing in disguise for us
AGREEEEEEDD. The amount of toys already chucked at my newborns head while she's in the swing is crazy. Even barricading her with a gate does nothing becuase she will throw things in to "share". SIGH. It will be great when they can play together.
1 and 2 are 17 months apart. I'm not going to lie, it was hard when 2 was a baby. But now it is wonderful that they are so close. They think they are twins.
2 and 3 are 2 years apart and I like that age spread. I don't think I would ever want them closer than this again.