Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
Finally Did It
Well, on Sunday night I finally did it, I finally halfway broke down for the loss of my Angel. I wasn't able to do it for very long because my DH came into the room and I didn't want to bother him, he doesn't even like to talk about our loss, and since my DS was sleeping I wasn't going to cry long. But the few minutes that I was able to break down did help me quite a bit. Hopefully sometime in the future I will be able to completely break down and get the pain that I'm feeling out in the open.
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Re: Finally Did It
♥BFP #1 "Spawn"- 02/23/11 | EDD: 11/01/11 | natural m/c 03/20/11 @7w5d♥
♥BFP #2 "Offspring"- 11/10/12 | EDD: 07/25/13 | incomplete m/c 12/14/12 @8w1d | D&C 12/21/12♥
♥BFP #3 "Progeny" - 02/16/15 | It's a BOY!! | EDD: 10/17/15 | BD: 10/23/15♥
All AL Always Welcome
I cry while in the shower too. I don't know why but it is cathartic....
Georgia 3/15/2012 Matilda 6/12/2014 TWINS!! Babies 3&4 EDD 11/22/2016
BFP#1 EDD 11/8/11 - MC @ 9w6d, 4/15/11 we said goodbye
BFP#2 DD arrived 5/7/12
You are grieving and you need to allow yourself to do it. I understand that you don't want your DH to see it because you are afraid it will hurt him, but sweetie, you cannot keep it locked inside. It is only going to drag out the grieving process for you. You and your DH need to sit down and talk about your feelings, together. This is NEVER an easy subject to talk about, but it's necessary and is a part of the process. I wish I could give you a big hug right now!
♥BFP #1 "Spawn"- 02/23/11 | EDD: 11/01/11 | natural m/c 03/20/11 @7w5d♥
♥BFP #2 "Offspring"- 11/10/12 | EDD: 07/25/13 | incomplete m/c 12/14/12 @8w1d | D&C 12/21/12♥
♥BFP #3 "Progeny" - 02/16/15 | It's a BOY!! | EDD: 10/17/15 | BD: 10/23/15♥
All AL Always Welcome
I'm not much of a crier... its not easy, but someone once told me "Tears are Beautiful" when I told her the story of my loss. I didn't believe her, but couldn't stop thinking about it.
Finally, that night, I thought about it, wrote about it, and cried. I didn't cry all night, I didn't lose control, I just cried beautiful tears for my loss. I worried alot that I didn't cry enough, I still do. I have a wonderful therapist who is working with me, assuring me I won't go to some dark place I can't come out of and that it is okay. What I hold to is the idea that tears aren't for hiding and it doesn't matter if people see it and it doesn't matter in what amount they come out in.
You have enough emotion in your heart, don't let any one tell you how many or how few tears to shed. You know what is right for you - listen to your own heart.