3rd Trimester
Is it normal to want to kick DH in the head?
I know he's trying, but he just keeps picking the wrong things to say. And then he really handles it bad if I cry. Is it just normal hormones making me want to kill him? It seems like all we've done is fight the last two weeks.
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Re: Is it normal to want to kick DH in the head?
BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence
DS Born 4/13/11
My husband and I have been fighting a lot lately too. Like I just feel completely gross, tired and unappreciated. Plus since I have been on bed rest since 32 weeks, I guess I get kind of jealous that he goes off and does whatever he wants while I'm stuck home alone! I feel better about reading your post because now I do not feel so guilty about wanting to shove him out of bed when he is snoring all night while I struggle to fall asleep at all!
(Lurking from late 2nd Tri)
"My husband and I have been fighting a lot lately too. Like I just feel completely gross, tired and unappreciated. Plus since I have been on bed rest since 32 weeks, I guess I get kind of jealous that he goes off and does whatever he wants while I'm stuck home alone! I feel better about reading your post because now I do not feel so guilty about wanting to shove him out of bed when he is snoring all night while I struggle to fall asleep at all!"
This is how I feel... I could have written this post myself! I am not on bedrest but I feel the exact same way... I hope this improves for us all!
I really do feel better knowing this is kind of normal. He really does try and he's working two jobs right now (new and old one overlapping until the end of this month) so he's tired and short with me as well. He just seems to pick the wrong thing to say or do and it sets me off. Last night he picked up dinner on the way home, and assumed what I wanted instead of calling me. Of course he got it wrong. We had a knock down drag out two day fight last week where I kicked him out of the bedroom. It only ended when he almost cried and begged me not to divorce him. I then found out that while I was sleeping he went outside and worked on some planter boxes I've been begging him to build for a month. That was kind of cute.
So, his heart is in the right place and he really is trying. But he just keeps saying stupid stuff that's warranting that kick in the head.
Last night my husband said I looked "tired" and "puffy." Then he said I should try to do more exercise and asked me if I was exercising at lunch time like I said I was going to try to do (of course I haven't been doing this, I am exhausted.) So I just started sobbing and like the previous poster said, HE gets annoyed. Instead of comforting me or being like "I am sorry, I didn't mean to hurt your feelings" he is rolling his eyes and asking me why I am getting so upset.
I am really angry at him. All he has to do is keep his mouth shut - is that really too much to ask? He gets really stressed out at work and then he takes it out on me with rude comments and a general grumpy attitude, but if I point out that is what is going on, he doesn't believe me/he gets annoyed. I am so over it. He is a doctor and he has to sleep at work tonight so I am hoping that a couple of days apart will help the situation. I am just so pissed off about it!! I also work full time and I do all of the housework as well - get over yourself.