If this is not your first pregnancy will you have another shower? what if it's the same sex as your first? I'm thinking I'd want a small get together celebration but no gifts unless diapers. then just food family and friends.....in that order. )
This is my 2nd as well and if it's a boy (we have a dd) and someone wants to throw me a shower i'm not going to refuse it. lol. But either way...girl or boy shower or no shower, we're planning to do a "meet the baby party at our house a few weeks after baby is born. We'll invite friends and family and probably just do a casual little lunch thing or something. Again, if people bring gifts im not going to refuse them but i do plan to put "no gifts" on the invites.
If someone offers, then I will probably have to accept it. I don't really want another one though. I think we will have just about everything except diapers and clothes if it is a different gender.
I think it really depends on what is traditionally done in your family and circle of friends. In my life, a second baby shower is usually a co-ed, casual thing, with no gifts expected. One friend of mine had a "shower" like this, and everyone brought gifts because her girls were eight years apart, and everyone was really excited for their new addition.
I think people (like a lot of women on the baby showers board...) sometimes go a little overboard in their snobbery, calling almost every second baby shower "tacky."
Like others said, if someone wants to throw you one, be a good sport.
I did not have a shower for #2 even though they were 7.5 yrs apart. I just did not want one and will not have one for this LO either. I don't have anything against it I just do not like to be the middle of all the fuss.
i am planning on having one for my #2, it has been 4 years since my last one so we dont really have any of her old clothes ect. plus, i just like the get together of family and friends, and it makes for a great scrapbook page
Here it is traditional to have a shower for each baby after the baby comes - so you are truly showering the baby with gifts - even though mom and dad get to open them, they are normally thrown about 2 wks after baby is born so everyone can meet the baby.
No, and is on my list of reasons not to find out the sex this time. I know some sneaky friend of mine will try to throw a surprise shower, but no one will know what to get
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If it is a boy, I have a DD, then yes we will have a full shower. If it is another girl it will probably be a "sprinkle" where all the girls get together to eat and mostly just bring diapers.
While I used to be in the camp of "every baby deserves a party" and probably still am, I would be mortified if someone threw a shower, especially if this baby is a girl.
If #2 is a girl, I would probably be mortified if my family back north threw another shower (nor would it be welcome, I have no plans on going up there, especially since last time MIL called everyone that morning and told them not to come because there was a chance of snow - only my side showed).
If my friends down here threw one, that would be nice, since they didn't go to my first obviously.
I'd be okay with a sprinkle if it's a boy since we have a girl. If it's another girl then no likely. Of course if someone offers then maybe. But we have all the baby gear we could possibly need!
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I can tell you that this is my second child, my first is 5 and a half (see siggy), weather this baby is a boy or girl I know that my BFF is throwing me a shower (she already told me). It has been almost 6 years. I have passed down everything I had through those years to family and friends who really needed them. So now I have nothing. And I know those same people will be there to help me.
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I say no - mainly because I don't think my friends and family should be obligated to financially supplement our major life decisions. I think a shower for baby #1 is more than appropriate. But a shower for each baby seems excessive and like you want others to pay for your big ticket items. For babies 2 and after, I like the idea of a sip-and-see, where mommy/daddy host host a party after the baby is born for everyone to meet the baby. If people choose to bring gifts as part of the celebration, it is their choice.
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I am used to going to sprinkles for 2nd babies. Which I think is just fine:) I love buying baby clothes & essentials. I'm having twins...but DH and I don't expect anything...we plan to buy everything ourselves.
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I think it really depends on what is traditionally done in your family and circle of friends. In my life, a second baby shower is usually a co-ed, casual thing, with no gifts expected. One friend of mine had a "shower" like this, and everyone brought gifts because her girls were eight years apart, and everyone was really excited for their new addition.
I think people (like a lot of women on the baby showers board...) sometimes go a little overboard in their snobbery, calling almost every second baby shower "tacky."
Like others said, if someone wants to throw you one, be a good sport.
If my friends down here threw one, that would be nice, since they didn't go to my first obviously.
I can tell you that this is my second child, my first is 5 and a half (see siggy), weather this baby is a boy or girl I know that my BFF is throwing me a shower (she already told me). It has been almost 6 years. I have passed down everything I had through those years to family and friends who really needed them. So now I have nothing. And I know those same people will be there to help me.
Missed M/C discoverd at 10w5d measuring 6w6d on 12/3/10 said goodbye 12/12/10 EDD 6/26/11 "this too shall pass"
DS Born 9/29/2005 via c-section (breech)
BFP #3 3/7/11 - EDD 11/17/11
Betas: @14dpo-182 @18dpo-854!! @21dpo-3124!!!
3-27-11 150 BPM!!!!
He's a BOY!!!! Kieran Thomas