August 2011 Moms
Husband VS the Bump
Okay, So my question to you ladies is does your husband feel like the bump and this board is his enemy. Because Lately God forbid I mention that an opinon of mine has changed due to commments and stories that you all have shared, well he instantly gets werid. We have been doing a lot of talking about Breast Feeding and I value your personal exp with that matter and he takes it as I dont believe him. ugh..well I just wanted to share.
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Re: Husband VS the Bump
I don't mention things from the Bump to DH, just things from discussions with GFs he knows. Guys tend to feel "odd man out" during pregnancy, especially your first, so it's important to be careful to include him and value his opinion together as your own little family. BTW about breastfeeding, I nursed my daughter for 14mo (she weaned herself when she was walking and just too busy to be still) and loved it! Looking forward to nursing this one too. If no one's told you about them, get Lily Padz - they're wonderful and far more comfortable and natural looking under clothes than the cloth or disposable ones; I've used them all.
I've been on the boards a looooooooooong time, so there has been a LOT in my life that has been influenced by the women I've met here. Some of them are my dear friends now (and for some, actually them and their husband's are OUR dear friends now), so I think perhaps my H has eased into realizing that I'm not choosing what I listen to from a random polling of Internet weirdos...I'm actually listening to stories (on my local boards) from women I care about and respect, many of whom he has met and really liked too. So no...he's not weird about that at all.
If I had my mind changed about something, or learned (as, for example I did a looooong time ago by being on my local baby board a bunch) that BFing can be really challenging (some women say it's harder than all of pregnancy and labor/delivery to BF), I would probably tell my H that more in a way of, "I was reading some firsthand accounts today from some women who really struggled with BFing. I never realized before how challenging it could be...but some even say it's harder than pregnancy and birth...it really opened my eyes to the challenge ahead and how important it will be to have your support when the time comes. It doesn't always come naturally to all women...did you know that?" Anyway, I think that way it comes more off as you read some stories and formed an opinion, rather than, "The bumpies said BFing is hard!"...I could see how to a husband not totally sure of who we "bumpies" are, that just sounds like a bunch of anti-BFers trying to wear you down, rather than sharing their stories and influencing how you're feeling, kwim?
Anyway, HTH and GL! My H is long used to it by now, haha
Your right I think I may keep my bump stories on the back burner.
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DS1 born 08.02.11
DS2 born 12.05.13
I don't tell my husband how often I am on here. He definitely wouldn't understand. I do foward him the weekly updates with my new fruit, but thats about it. When I talk about specifics on here I just say "I read on the baby website."
As for breastfeeing, it grosses my husband out when he see's other women do it, but we both think it is really healthy for the baby and I'm a fan of it helping me to lose the baby weight too. So if I am able to, I am 100% doing it.
This! DH thinks we gang up on people and that cracks him up.
My DH is use to it because I was on the bump 5-6 months before we even started trying...lol.
I do get this...
every once in a while.
DS#1- Born August 2011
#3 BFP 11/17/12 EDD 8/5/13 Born 8/4/13
#4 BFP 1/26/14 EDD 09/29/14 Born 10/01/14