Before we had DS we said we wanted 2-3 kids, then after him we said 2 just because we couldn't imagine loving another baby as much as him (we wanted him to have a sibling & new we would love another baby). Now that we are developing a bond with this baby my husband and I are both thinking maybe we aren't done. I like the idea of a family of 4 for vacations, and 2 parents 2 kids but don't want to rule out more children because of it. So I just wanted to get your opinions.
Is this your last pregnancy? Are you unsure?
Do you know you want to have more children?
Does your family feel complete now or did it but after some time you decided you would love another baby.
Please share!
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This is my 3rd pregnancy. We have 2 boys, 3 and 5 years old.
Is this your last pregnancy? Are you unsure? Definitely. But I'll be 40 next month.
Do you know you want to have more children? We both said 2 before having kids. But after DS#2 was born we both were leaning towards a 3rd. We just weren't sure when. Then as 40 was approaching we knew it was "no or never."
Does your family feel complete now or did it but after some time you decided you would love another baby.
I went into TTC#3 knowing that if it didn't happen for us, we'd be happy and complete as a family of 4 but that we would love to have 3 kids.
All that said... I'm scared to death of having the kids out number us!
Is this your last pregnancy? Are you unsure? Yes, this is our last child/pregnancy.
Do you know you want to have more children? We always wanted 2 children.
Does your family feel complete now or did it but after some time you decided you would love another baby. Not sure yet, the baby is not here, but we are done either way. 2 is it for us.
Is this your last pregnancy? Are you unsure? Yep this baby factory is shutting down after this one...This is my 4th pregnancy, but only 2nd child.
Do you know you want to have more children? We always knew we wanted two...I really would like three but I will be happy with one of each.
Does your family feel complete now or did it but after some time you decided you would love another baby. We always knew we wanted two kids...we figured we would have them be 2.5 years apart and be able to still keep up with them when we are 30. I will be 39 and dh will be 42 when DS Graduates from HS so it will be perfect!
I really would like to have 3 or even 4. DH says he always imagined that he would only have 2, but he is open to the idea of more, just not decided yet. We will talk about a 3rd after we see what life is like with 2.
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After #2, we are done. We have so many goals for our future regarding money, travel, family vacations, retirement, job positions, etc.
I always knew that I wanted a sibling for DD. I wouldn't say we feel "incomplete" right now though. I would just say that we know we want to give her a sibling.
I can't wait to take them both on vacations, the zoo, etc.
But more than 2 really is just too much for me and DH.
After this baby, we are done. We both love the idea of 2 kids and will be happy with that. So sure that I am thinking of getting my tubes tied during my c/s because I know for a fact that I am done.
Is this your last pregnancy? Are you unsure? Nope, I always thought two would be a good number, but I just can't stand the thought of stopping at 2. We will definitley have a 3rd and if I can have things my way maybe a 4th.
Do you know you want to have more children? Yes, I am 100% sure, DH may need some convincing if this one is a boy.
Does your family feel complete now or did it but after some time you decided you would love another baby. I love our little family of three right now but no, it doesn't feel complete. We'll have to see after baby #2
This is my 3rd pregnancy and SURPRISE...TWINS!
We used clomid to get pregnant with our 2 boys so knowing that we were thinking 2 was our number. I always had it in my heart to have 3 babies.
Never did I think we would get pregnant on our own but we did and now expecting twin girls...so 2 boys and 2 girls is perfect for us...and our family will be complete!
Life will be CrAzY for sure with 4 kids 4 and under but also know we are not given more than we can handle.
You will know what is right for you!!
This is my last pregnancy. I always thought I wanted 3, but my DH always said he only wanted 2. The more I think about it, the more I feel like maybe 2 is the right number for our family. Plus, I am 35, I know that is not old, but if we waited 2 years and decided to try for another, I would be in my late 30s with a new born and that's not how I envision my 40's, chasing a toddler!
Plus, this pregnancy is kicking my butt! I think this has cured me of wanted to do it again, if you will excuse me now, I think I have to go and puke...
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I am getting such a kick out of this comment! You make 30 seem like 60! Yes, I do have to use my walker most of the day but thats ok. LOL.
To the OP, we have no idea if we are done now. DH would like to just have the two but I wouldn't mind a third in a couple years. We both came from big families and I love the camaraderie that having lots of siblings brings.
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This is our last pregnancy. We are very sure. We thought we were done last fall after having 2 girls but everytime I thought about it I got really sad. I talked to my DH about it and he agreed to try one more time. Now that I am pregnant I am confident that we are done and it feels right to me. We will either have 3 girls or 2 girls and a boy. Either way we are complete.
Good luck to you!
We are done after this. 110%. As in tubes tied on the table and then endometrial ablation as soon as possible.
But that is because I have horrible pregnancies, am high risk for a myriad of reasons, have had more m/c than living children, just to name a few.
If I got and stayed pg. easily and had a good time of it, I would want 3+
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We have one girl and one boy and after we had those two (kids are 15 months apart) EVERY one assumed we were done. "you have one boy and one girl, what more could you want?"
So now our youngest will be 5 in May and we are pregnant with #3! We are so excited. And we always wanted more than 2. In the beginning we though 6-7... then after we had the two so close together we though... 4- max! so here we are and because of the age gap we are looking at this baby and then more than likely #4. I would say we should be done after that. But we shall see. I believe God really has it all in his plan. But that's what we are looking at.
We def. know that we are not done and are ok with that. My family does not feel at all complete. and we've already gotten "wow... 3 kids... at your age? good thing you'll be done after this one...." which urks me to no end... that's a post of another kind
Is this your last pregnancy? Are you unsure? I'm still unsure. I always wanted 4 and DH wants 2. I thought if this baby was another girl we would go for #3 but being it is a boy, I'm afraid DH will say this is it
Do you know you want to have more children? I would Love to have more kids, but we will see how it goes with 2 first. I love big families.
Does your family feel complete now or did it but after some time you decided you would love another baby. No it doesn't feel complete but it may after this one arrives, too soon to know. I always knew that I wanted more than one kid and would have had another sooner if DH was ready But I think this will be a perfect gap.
This is my 4th child. {6th pregnancy, 2 miscarriages.}
Is this your last pregnancy? Yes. This will be it for our family!
Are you unsure? I will never feel 100% because it's always been on my heart to have 6 children. But I would say I'm 98.9% sure that this is the right thing for us.
Do you know you want to have more children? I will always dream for a family with 6 children. But I can honestly say I'm okay having 4.
Does your family feel complete now or did it but after some time you decided you would love another baby. To be honest, I do finally feel complete. I think mentally preparing myself that this is the last one has helped so much. I am cherishing every moment, knowing it will be my last. I will have 2 boys and 2 girls, and I'm not getting any younger, nor is our house getting any bigger.
Also in a weird way, I feel like I have been given my family with 6 children. It just so happens to be that 2 of my babies are angels. I believe there will be a day when we'll be a family of 8.
I have 1 of my own and 1 SD....this is definitely my last pregnancy. I've always wanted 2 of my own, but 3 will be just as nice (and we only have her 1/3 of the year). We feel complete at 2 kids, but again, I really want my own 2 since there is such an age difference between my youngest and SD (7 years).
Is this your last pregnancy? Are you unsure? Yes. DH will be getting snipped after LO is home & healthy.
Do you know you want to have more children? No. I always said 2-3, MH always said 1-2. This is our compromise. LO will be it.
Does your family feel complete now or did it but after some time you decided you would love another baby. Once LO is here I will feel complete. I didn't feel complete after DD was about 2. Just took until she was 3 to convince MH we should have another, he was always on the fence. Seeing her interact with some of our friend's LOs got him to see she'd be a good big sister. Plus she started asking for a baby sister after her BFF got a baby brother.
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No, God willing, this is not our last pregnancy.
Yes, we both would like more children. We know we will try for #3 in a few years, if we don't wind up pg again before that. We're Catholic, and will leave the number of babies we have up to God. If that number is two or twelve, we'll be happy.
Our family feels complete in some ways, and incomplete in others. I've always envisioned a house busting at the seams with kids. I think I would feel more "complete" if we had a girl (one of each gender). Regardless, I'm content with what we have now, a year from now, etc. (At least, I try to be... before I got pg I had baby fever bad! lol)
(I'm more of a lurker on your board, but I've thought about this, too and wanted to share.)
Is this your last pregnancy? Are you unsure? Yes, we feel very sure this is our last baby. DH will likely get "the snip" after this one.
Do you know you want to have more children? We both come from family's of 3 kids, so 3 feels right to us.
Does your family feel complete now or did it but after some time you decided you would love another baby. This is the question I most wanted to answer. Yes. We definitely feel complete now. It's so interesting to me - since I've been pregnant before - how different I feel now. I feel done. I know this is the last time I will have a baby inside me and there's something kind of comforting about that. Like I can feel free to soak up every second of it. With my other babies, even while I was still pregnant with them, I was always kind of thinking about next time, or what name we could use for the next baby. This time is so different. I really feel like our we're getting the last piece of the puzzle and we'll now have our family complete.
Is this your last pregnancy? Yes. We have a beautiful boy and we have a girl on the way. Are you unsure? YES! The factory is closed after baby girl comes out!
Do you know you want to have more children? I wanted two since I was little and...
Does your family feel complete now or did it but after some time you decided you would love another baby. our family feels like 2 kids makes it complete.
Is this your last pregnancy? Are you unsure? As of right now, I'm planning this to be my last. I feel very certain, but don't want to close the door on the possibility of getting pregnant again.
Do you know you want to have more children? I feel very stronly that I'd be the best mother I can be to only two children, so no.
Does your family feel complete now or did it but after some time you decided you would love another baby. I've never felt uncomplete with just one child, but I felt that he needed a sibling and I wanted to experience parenthood again with a more seasoned perspective.
Please share!
We originally wanted three. After DD was born, we only wanted one b/c she was difficult. We may go back to three but we'll see how it goes.
1.) Yes. Nope, not at all. I never wanted more than 2, so it works for me, although I am a bit sad that I won't have a daughter. Dh always wanted 3 but we've realized that we will never be able to do the things we want and afford to put 3 kids through university.
2.) No, I don't.
3.) Yes, we feel that this is right for us.
This is my second and (hopefully) last pregnancy. We live very far away from family and I think 2 children is perfect for all the traveling we'll be doing in our lifetime.
DH wants more children. I told him not to pressure me and we'll see what happens. Neither of us are getting any surgical procedures just yet, I'll probably get a IUD so that gives us time to decide if we really are done.
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Is this your last pregnancy? Are you unsure? We are very sure this is it for us. It's my fourth pregnancy, third child.
Do you know you want to have more children? There are times when I think a fourth would be nice (because I like even numbers and am concerned about the middle child thing) but no, we're very done.
Does your family feel complete now or did it but after some time you decided you would love another baby. We felt complete with our two boys, but feel very blessed to be adding a daughter to the mix. I always felt very sure that I wanted a sibling for my oldest son, so although in some ways it was a hard decision to go for a second, it was important to me to do so.