Add us to the one and done club

Re: Add us to the one and done club

• CTri17 member

  March 2011

  oh, I'm so sorry. I just said a prayer for you, I hope you can feel good about this very soon.
  

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• vmm0016

  March 2011

  I am so sorry!  We are pretty much one and done and I am still hoping we can have another.  I keep wanting to try to be positive and say, "At least I have my sweet girl".  We just can't afford another one financially right now and I am 35.

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• mburkhe member

  March 2011

  I'm sorry. It is such a hard decision to make.

  

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• shoeboxx member

  March 2011

  I'm sorry...hugs. 

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• Novem06 member

  March 2011

  I'm so sorry:(

  

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• twoasone1 member

  March 2011

  Thank you everyone!  It was a very hard decision to make.  I am hoping for some peace about it real soon.

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• Shonanny member

  March 2011

  Such a hard decision. You should feel good that you looked at all the scenarios and made the best choice for your family. Things don't generally turn out how we pictured they would, but that is o.k. I am still agonizing over this one too.

  

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• pennylane2241982

  March 2011

  Im sorry... but just think you will give your one LO the best possible life you can give them
  

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• Shayna0182 member

  March 2011

  twoasone1:

  After much debate, we have decided that DS will be our one and only.

  It was a hard decision, but we know it is the responsible thing to do.  We have a very high chance (60%) of having another child with the same condition as DS.  Not only would that be hard in and of itself, it is also a huge financial burden that we wouldn't be able to handle well. 

  I am grieving right now for sure though.  For the large family we will never have that I always really wanted, for never being able to breastfeed (DS couldn't) etc. 

  Hopefully in a few days I will be able to focus on all the good things we will be able to do now that we wouldn't have been able to do otherwise. 

  It's a hard decision to make.  We're not part of the one and done club yet, but in a few years, unless a doctor tells me what is wrong, and what I can do to fix it, then I am part of the club too.  I have issues with placental abruptions and have had 2 losses and ds was a preemie.  I have definitely grieved over it,  but I am getting to the point where I am becoming ok with ds being the only child.

   

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• zeptattoo member

  March 2011

  I understand your sorrow, but let me say welcome to the club with big open arms!  We made the same decision for similar reasons, but before we TTC Snuggle.

  Have you considered maybe being a foster family or volunteering with children's organizations?  I might help channel your energy and resources to benefit children who need it.  Just a suggestion!

  

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