3rd Trimester

TMI, but how often are you having sex?

Since being pregnant, my husband and I have both become ... nuns. He's too afraid of throwing me into labor and I just find it flat out akward and uncomfortable.  I wanted to try again tonight and totally got shot down for those exact reasons. ego flop, anyone? Is this happening to anyone else?
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Re: TMI, but how often are you having sex?

  • We haven't had sex since I was about 14 weeks. We plan on doing it like bunnies starting Tuesday, when I'm full term. :) We just decided to abstain because of some past experiences regarding sex and pregnancy.
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  • Due to pelvic joint pain, we have been nuns since i was 14 weeks along.
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  • DH would love to do it all the time - he's not scared at all!!  But I find it uncomfortable so it's only happening about once a week.
  • We don't have sex to often. Mostly cause i just feel unattractive and just gross. But when we are both in the mood (we have to wait till DS goes down) we end up both to tired and say maybe tomorrow.
  • Thank God we aren't the only ones. I feel so guilty though! Should I be stressed he might cheat (he is NOT the cheating type.... but I still worry).
  • Once, maybe twice a week, and it usually is in the morning because I am too tired at night!
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  • We have managed to every couple of weeks...we have both just been so stressed with moving and getting the house ready that we are too exhausted at the end of the day. But now that we are all moved in we can't wait to get back to it!!
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  • Once every couple weeks if were lucky.

  • 2/week for the last 3-4 months? 

    Much more than DH ever expected. :) 

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  • I have asked about cheating and my DH said that because i'm pregnant he understands but if it was this way when i wasn't he prob would cheat or get rid of me. So i wouldn't worry at all. He is just worried and doesn't want to harm you or the baby. So in a way its sweet..... i guess 
  • We didn't have pretty much any sex during the first 25 or so weeks because I was constantly throwing up. After that it took awhile to get back into the swing of things but even then was just a couple times a week maybe. Lately with trying to get things moving we've been having sex at least every day. 
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  • what's sex? Crying What is it with the 14wk mark? I think that was the last time we did too. Same reasons as the OP, he is scared to death to do something to put me into early labor. SIGH......

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    I have asked about cheating and my DH said that because i'm pregnant he understands but if it was this way when i wasn't he prob would cheat or get rid of me. So i wouldn't worry at all. He is just worried and doesn't want to harm you or the baby. So in a way its sweet..... i guess 

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  • imageMrs.Wheeler06:
    I have asked about cheating and my DH said that because i'm pregnant he understands but if it was this way when i wasn't he prob would cheat or get rid of me. So i wouldn't worry at all. He is just worried and doesn't want to harm you or the baby. So in a way its sweet..... i guess 

    Nice.

  • This happened to me the other night and I was devestated!

    I told my H how I felt today and he explained that he is not initiating lately because he knows how uncomfy I am and said he wants to leave it up to me for when I feel like it, turns out the night I got turned down he had a stomach ache, so needless to say we did it this afternoon.

     

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    imageMrs.Wheeler06:
    I have asked about cheating and my DH said that because i'm pregnant he understands but if it was this way when i wasn't he prob would cheat or get rid of me. So i wouldn't worry at all. He is just worried and doesn't want to harm you or the baby. So in a way its sweet..... i guess 

    Nice.

    oh wow

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  • imageMrs.Wheeler06:
    I have asked about cheating and my DH said that because i'm pregnant he understands but if it was this way when i wasn't he prob would cheat or get rid of me. So i wouldn't worry at all. He is just worried and doesn't want to harm you or the baby. So in a way its sweet..... i guess 

    Um, wow.  How generous of him to give you a break from your duties while you carry his child.  Tongue Tied

    We were having sex at least twice a week for most of this pregnancy.  In the last two weeks, it's dropped to once a week.  My hip pain has been disruptive to our routine!

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    imageMrs.Wheeler06:
    I have asked about cheating and my DH said that because i'm pregnant he understands but if it was this way when i wasn't he prob would cheat or get rid of me. So i wouldn't worry at all. He is just worried and doesn't want to harm you or the baby. So in a way its sweet..... i guess 

    Nice.

    oh wow

    And the husband of the year award goes to.... 

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  • This post makes me feel like a nun, too....but even when I am not pregnant!

    We were usually only about 1x a week since DS was born two years ago.  Sex was still painful and uncomfortable since he was born. I am dreading that again with this LO.

    I think week 20 was when I put the moratorium on it. It was just too uncomfortable!

     

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  • 2 or 3 weeks ago was the last time, and the motion of it made me sick quite suddenly, right on BF's face. I'm dealing with 3rd trimester all day sickness, so we are done until after LO is here.
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  • My husband would love to have sex all the time, but I just haven't been up to it.  It would be like a gazelle banging away at an elephant.  Not cute, since I'm the elephant.
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  • We had sex two weeks ago. I was put on bedrest the same day. I'm not allowed to have sex until I'm full term. I'm not on bedrest anymore but in order for me to stay that way I can't have sex.

    Up until then we had sex about once a week.



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  • Once a week at most.  A little depressing as newlyweds, but at least it's somewhat preparing us for the weeks after delivery when sex is totally off-limits!
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    imageMrs.Wheeler06:
    I have asked about cheating and my DH said that because i'm pregnant he understands but if it was this way when i wasn't he prob would cheat or get rid of me. So i wouldn't worry at all. He is just worried and doesn't want to harm you or the baby. So in a way its sweet..... i guess 

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    this. Really? 



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  • Once a week, sometimes twice. 
  • about once a week. i'm really not worried about going into labor from sex. it's the furthest thing from my mind when i finally decide that i'm up for it. 
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    Since being pregnant, my husband and I have both become ... nuns. He's too afraid of throwing me into labor and I just find it flat out akward and uncomfortable.  I wanted to try again tonight and totally got shot down for those exact reasons. ego flop, anyone? Is this happening to anyone else?

    I'm in your same place :( I am in your same place, dh gets turned on and when we are going at it he can?t concentrate thinking we are squishing the baby. I?m 33.1 weeks so imagine my bump is all around the place. Normal 0 false false false EN-US X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0in; mso-para-margin-right:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0in; line-height:115%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidi;}

    I am in your same place, dh gets turned on and when we are going at it he can't concentrate thinking we are squishing the baby. I'm 33.1 weeks so imagine my bump is all around the place.

     

  • The last time was somewhere mid-2nd trimester. I am trying to pump myself up for "full term sex", but I am so incredibly uncomfortable and feeling very unsexy right now, so I'm not sure how that will go lol.
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  • I would go psychotic if we abstained that long.... that being said starting early January when I got put on bed rest we only do it like once a week or so b/c he views me as "so breakable" and now it's just flat out awkward and hysterical when we do it LMAO!
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  • Sorry to be "that girl" but, honestly, we are doing it about 4 - 6 times a week. The whole pregnancy.
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    My husband would love to have sex all the time, but I just haven't been up to it.  It would be like a gazelle banging away at an elephant.  Not cute, since I'm the elephant.

    This; 2x/wk. He's in the mood ALL the time and I'm just not interested. Still attracted to him but sex is not on my mind....and then I go to sleep at night and have what I'm sure is the equivalent of a wet dream, LOL.

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  • Oh gosh, if SO could, he would keep me in the bedroom 24hrs and never leave again. Not only does he LOVE chubby girls (yay for hips!), he also (come to find out) has a thing for pregnant women, too! @_@ While it's amazing and lovely to feel wanted all of the time, and even managing to feel sexy a lot, my sex drive is utter poop. At the slightest glimpse of me being interested, though, we jump to it! I would say 1-2x a week on average, 3 if we're feeling it.

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  • Once or twice per week. Up until 20 weeks I wasn't up for anything so now I try to initiate some lovin' to thank DH for being so awesome through everything. I'm not super "into" it but it's keeping us intimate and close.
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  •   I get randy as a teenager when I am pregnant but I have pelvic pain issues and the last few times we tried I literally broke out in tears.  We couldn't find a great position (despite my diligent DH looking at pg porn for ideas- I nearly snorted with laughter when he told me this) and it was really painful for me.  Poor DH.  So we sort of stopped trying.  That said we have found showering together to be very, um rewarding.  Not sure there continues to be room for both of us in there though. 
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  • Thankfully I am still having sex atleast 4 to 5 times a week. I am not as into it as I was earlier on; however, I still am wanting it. The only time I am uncomfortable is after sex because I get a little sore down there.

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  • the last time we had sex we conceived this baby.  so.  end of july?  :)  due to a whole bunch of factors at various times throughout the pregnancy, it wasn't possible/enjoyable/desired, and now it's entered the "weird" phase, since he feels like our daughter is right there with us.  we're both ok with it, and will get back into the swing of things after she's born.

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  • We've been on about once per month or so since the second tri started.  I told him yesterday that we're going to have to start doing it every day and he looked terrified!  I still don't think he realizes I was serious!

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  • About 3x a week.
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    Once, maybe twice a week, and it usually is in the morning because I am too tired at night!

    This...EXACTLY! 

     

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  • Tongue Tied Not too often at all.

    DH has been super supportive of the fact that I've had such an uncomfortable pregnancy. I do know that I should make more of an effort for his sake though... I'm just so freaking tired all the time!

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