Looks like Mom and I will be having the talk...
About how DH and I don't want family at the hospital until at least 2-3 hours after LO is born. I posted a little while ago about how my mother thinks she will be at the hospital for hours on end until I deliver. I have left subtle hints here and there about how DH and I want it to be a private delivery w/o worrying about family coming in and out of the room and in the delivery room. But when I made the remarks she gives me the side eye and says "I will be in control of when I arrive at the hospital".
So I was going to take your ladies advice and just not tell anybody when I go into labor and call family after the fact. But my mom calls me everyday and checks in with me to see how I'm doing.... I don't know if I can lie to her and say one day oh I'm fine when I'm having contractions about about to go to the hospital.
So it looks like I'm actually going to have to sit down with her and talk about how important it is for DH and I to have a private delivery at the hospital. I don't want to worry about whos doing what in the waiting room either.
I just kind of feel really guilty because my mother has done SO much for LO and DH and I already. She threw an amazing shower for me, bought us the stroller and always wants to treat me to pedis. Plus shes given me a lot of emotional support along the way.
I know its not going to be a fun talk 
but I dont want to look back at the delivery experience with regret.
Sorry for the long post, just venting
Re: Looks like Mom and I will be having the talk...
Oh I agree. And while I have never given birth before, I'm sure the last thing you want is the added stress of worrying about visitors.
As someone who's mom never stood up to her own mother's controlling behavior, and suffered for it, I really think you're doing the right thing. It's awesome that your mom has paid for so much throughout the pregnancy, but if she really wants to show her support for you and your DH, she'll respect your wishes and give you the private delivery you want without a big drama-fest.
You're not keeping her from your LO, you're just doing what you need to do to make the delivery as smooth as possible. You're the only one who can make that call. 
Good luck!
Good for you! That is a very difficult situation, but in the long run I think you and your DH will be happy that you made it clear you just want that time for you guys. I am sure that even if she is frustrated by your decision, that once LO is here and she gets to see him/her, that any frustration that was there will be gone pretty quickly! And if it isn't, so what. You guys are starting your own new little family, and that comes first.
Good luck!
Good luck!!
There were a lot of things that I didn't stand up for myself about in my wedding. It's making it easier for me to realize that I NEED to speak up and be firm about things with LO. I'm not good at it, but it's so important.
You can do it!!
Me too.
I swore after my wedding that I will NEVER not voice my opinion again, and I will NEVER compromise my own wishes. This is your first birth, and you will only have one 'first', so make sure you do it without any regrets. This is you and your husband's child and birthing experience, not your mother's. She is the grandmother. Tell her she can sit in the waiting room for as long as she pleases, but you and your husband plan on spending at a minimum, 3 hours alone with the three of you (that would be mom, dad, and baby- NOT grandmother, daughter and baby!).
Anyway, what would her argument be? It's not her baby.
Ugh...these controlling mothers and MIL's are SOOOO annoying to me!!
Good luck to you...
Can you make some sort of compromise with your mom? I know she has to be really excited and just can't wait to meet LO, so could you let her come to the hospital but set the boundaries that she can't come in during pushing (or whatever you want to set as boundaries) and she has to wait until DH walks down the hall to get her?
My in laws waited in the waiting room for almost 12 hours to meet our first DD (they just realy wanted to be there - I didn't want guests inteh room while I labored and they just wanted to be "close"). They didn't come in until DH and I were ready for them to meet DD and DH walked down the hall to bring them in.
Just get the nurses on board with you and they WON'T let her in....