We just found out this saturday at 15 DPO that I'm KU (hooray!). I'm super excited and want to tell everyone on the planet, but at just over 4 weeks, that seems like a risky proposition.
What did you do to ease the wait? I'm having an AWFUL time not telling anyone yet. I just don't trust anyone to not tell one more person, and then that person tells one more, and then that person...
You see where I'm going with this.
Re: so hard not to tell.
I told my mother first... then a few weeks later I told my dad... it was nice having someone to talk to about it who could relate, but I also worried that she wouldn't be able to keep a secret well... she did very well actually! We still haven't told my husbands family, or my sister... I'm waiting it out until Wednesday when we (hopefully) get to hear the heart beat for the first time... THEN we'll tell more people because we'll know something is actually in there!
Long story short, it's nice to have at least one person you can talk to... it makes keeping the secret a lot easier.
We aren't telling anyone this time because last time we told our parents at around 6 weeks and told them NOT to spread the word, but I had people coming up to me at work, like the next day, saying congrats. MIL just HAD to tell her friends. I was so pissed. Random people knew when my siblings didn't even know. I thought about telling everyone BUT her because they can keep a secret, but I think we will wait.
How long are you planning on waiting? Will you tell everyone at once?
I don't know how long we'll wait. I'd LIKE to wait til the end of February but not sure that's going to be possible! Eric's birthday is February 20th and I thought it would be fun to announce it then. But then, trying to get everybody together is another story. AND waiting another month! Ack!
Man, I'm glad I'm not alone!! This is impossible! Especially when I'm trying to think of reasons why I'm not drinking. I told my mom and that is it so far. I'm just going to try to wait as long as possible. I just don't want to jinkx anything.
btw, I also found out on Saturday, what a great day for all of us!
We initially planned to wait until end of 1st tri, then quickly amended that to after the 8wk US when we'll (fingers crossed!) be able to see the heartbeat.
I love my mom--I really, really love her--but I don't think I'd want her to be my support person if something went wrong. She would be so sad and I don't think I could handle her sadness on top of ours.
And it feels kind of wrong to tell other people if we aren't telling our parents.
We also have several close friends and family members who have lost pregnancies and want to let them know from us directly and privately before they hear it from someone else, but we most want to tell people who will just be excited, not sad, so then the group expands, and we're back to not telling anyone.
I am DYING to tell someone in real life.
Congrats to all the 1/15 BFPs and all the girls on this board!
I agree. I got my BFP today and I wanted to call my mom almost immediately but I don't want to excite her just in case.
Luckily though...to ease this urge, I did tell some people... but they're people who can't for instance accidentally out me too early at work or something of the like.
I told the two friends that knew I was TTC because I felt they had the right to know and I knew they'd be excited. I also told one of my closest friends who would never tell a soul anyway and besides, she lives in TX. As far as family goes, we told my sister in law. Her daughter's 2nd birthday is coming up very soon and we knew she'd be so excited. It'll be great to have her to talk to when I start feeling more symptoms.
All these people know that at any point, my body can reject the baby and I can have a miscarriage...as long as I'm in my 1st trimester...so I told them none of this is set in stone although I am hoping against hope it is!!!
Still, I urge to just go ahead and tell my parents and my grandma but I'll just have to keep it quiet until I know it's safe!
Also, writing in a journal will probably help. Instead of telling the people I trust and like the most at work, I wrote in a journal on my break and it helped a lot. I feel like it'll continue to be of aide throughout my entire pregnancy.
Sorry, I'm no help.
I told EVERYONE at like.. three weeks.
Congratulations!
I really did think I'd be excited to have such a great secret. Instead, I am like a small child about to burst at the seams.
Everone's different. First time around we told everyone way too early and it was awful since we ended up miscarrying.
This time around we've waited. After a strong h/b at 8wks we told close friends and family but thats it until the 2nd tri.