"Good Boy/Girl Mom"
JessJones3645
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So please excuse my rant, but in the interest of not freaking out at people in real like I must get this out! If one more person says, "Oh, it will be a boy because you're such a great boy mom!" to me one more time I'm going to lose it! Yes, I'll be happy with a boy or girl, yes I would like to experience having a daughter, and yes I think it would be great for my son to have a brother, but NO I don't understand what being a "good boy mom" means! Isn't that just a good mom? My pregnancy hormones have me all in a tizzy about this one this morning and it's literally making my head go round in circles. Does that mean that I wouldn't do well with a little girl? Does that mean I'm in some way more masculine? Does that mean that I'm good with my pretty wild son and that I might as well have another and leave calm girls for the good girl moms? (Yes, I know not all girls are calm and not all boys are full of energy, but in my hormonal state rational thought is fleeting.) I always thought I'd have girls, but I LOVE being my son's mom and I know it would be great to have another boy. Really...I know it's ridiculous but I'm just perplexed. Okay. Rant over.
Any other "good boy/girl moms" out there?
Re: "Good Boy/Girl Mom"
I get "it would be so nice for you to have one of each"
Why? I don't plan on parenting them differently. My daughter plays with Thomas train and blocks predominately because that's what she likes, if I had a boy that likes dolls and hair bows i'd react the same way.
In addition to that, i'm the second of 2 girls. Does that mean my parents should have been dissappointed that I was born without a penis?
I'm with you! This is actually my first pregnancy, but all my friends kept saying I would be the perfect "boy mom", because I'm not a really girly-girl. At first, I actually really thought I was carrying a boy, but nope, she's all girl!!!
So now, it really irks me... it seems like some of my friends/family are disappointed she's not a he. All my friends have little girls and I think they were just hoping someone would have a boy soon, but its always a 50/50 shot. So it makes me mad that they think I'd be a good "boy mom" and don't seem as excited that she is going to be a girl.
MIL just keeps telling me she hopes I have a boy since our first is a girl. Because, you know, the ideal family is one of each. Even though she only had 1 (DH) and its just my sister and I.
I secretly hope I've got another girl baking just to spite her. lol.
DD1, Kathleen 9/15/2007