Are you not telling anyone at all or telling a select few? I went to my dr. today for viral conjunctivitis, and she asked if we had told anyone yet and I said no, we are waiting until 3 mos. Then she said rather surprised, not even your mom?
We are waiting in case anything goes wrong. But, I figured of all people who would be upset if something went wrong, besides us, it would be my mom. I don't want to get her hopes up as this would be grandchild #1 until further along.
So, I figured I would see what you all are doing
Re: Question for those waiting to tell others...
we told family. i will need my family to be there for us in the event that the worst happens. plus, my mom has been through two m/c, so she would be the person i would turn to first.
I have 1 friend IRL who knows because she is TTC right now as well. We will not tell our families/friends/co-workers until we have successfully moved to the 2nd Trimester.
We are not telling our families because our parents (specifically mine) wouldn't be able to keep quiet about it. As much as it is killing me not telling them, I just don't want to have to un-tell people I never told (if something were to go wrong), or have work find out before I say anything to them. If we knew our families would keep our secret we would tell them, but sadly they cannot so we are staying quiet until the end of February.
Ditto.
Family will definitely be there for us if something happens. I will tell my close friends after the 8 week ultra sound. After the first tri, most people we know will know.
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We told immediate family (parents, grandparents, and siblings) and a few of our closest friends that we see on a regular basis.
We've already been through a loss and they were all amazing supports for us, I couldn't imagine going through that without them. So we figure if we're going to share the bad news with them anyway, then why not share the good news with them too.
We told my family (mom, dad, brother)... we all work together, so they sorta needed to know. Plus, I'm a huge wino and the second I don't have a glass of wine with dinner, they would have known anyway.
With our first, we waited to tell select close friends until after the 1st dr. appt. We told the "world" after 12 weeks... which just so happened to be after the second appt.
We will probably do the same this time around. We don't even tell my ILs until after 12 weeks bc there is no way my MIL could keep this to herself... and it's not really fair to ask her to do so. Better to tell her when we're ready for everyone to know.
We have had a loss and I was so glad we didn't have to "untell" a whole slew of people.
We've had several losses, so I've only told the people who were our support system previously... parents, my sisters, & our two best friends. I don't plan to tell coworkers until 2nd tri, if I can help it. And no facebook announcements until we hit viability at 27 wks.
Sounds like you're pretty close to your mom... she would probably really appreciate knowing so that she can support you through everything
We haven't told anyone yet. We decided to wait to tell our parents via Skype (they both live 8-9 hours away) if I have good betas this week. I don't want to get their hopes up. We didn't tell our parents about our last pregnancy until my m/c and they were very supportive then so I'm glad we waited. To each their own though...
Personally - we aren't telling many people until 3+ mos. I'd rather just enjoy this little secret (with the very few that do know, including my sister, but NOT including my mom). If something were to go wrong - I'll enlist the support of my mom and others... that way - I dont get their hopes up - then dash them...
Good luck! :-)
We will tell my parents and my brother in the next couple weeks, but no one else until 2nd tri. After our loss last time it was very hard to tell everyone and have no one really understand. My mom was a god send though and, as well as DH, really got me through it. I'm sure I will end up having to tell work sooner than later but they would have to find out if something happened as well. I think it needs to be whatever you are most comfortable with.
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I told my BFF and DH told his cousin, who lives out-of-state. We want to wait until DH and BIL's b-day (they are twins) party and announce to immediate family then, since my first appt is on their actual birthday!
I'm only 4 weeks, so we are still in the disbelief stage. Maybe if we make it to 6 weeks w/o, god forbid, something happening, we will tell then.
DH and I are waiting until after the first appointment to tell my Mom, his mom may be a few weeks later. Ideally we plan on telling my whole family on St. Patrick's Day, as we all will be together & it will be TOTALLY obvious if I am skipping out on the Guiness. We are just being cautious optimistic & I really am enjoying having something special just between he & I. No one even knows we were trying!
I told a very very close friend and my boss. We just want to make sure everything checks out ok before getting everybody excited. My husband and BFF are all the support I need right now They have both been fantastic.
Ultimately, it's up to you and whatever you feel is right for you.
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with my daughter, we waited until after my first dr. appointment to tell the family. for some reason, i didn't believe it was actually real [no matter how many positive pregnancy tests i took]. i was a little under 2 months pregnant at the time. my friends at work knew immediately as i walk around the office with a coffee cup glued to my hand and then i stopped once i found out i was pregnant.
i'm not sure how long we will wait to let everyone know that baby #2 is on the way...
We are going to tell our parents and siblings this week. My parents are nearby so I'm trying to think of good way to get over there without giving it away (since we don't usually pop over or anything). Everyone else will be a phone call since they are further away.
I don't have an actual appt until 10 weeks (have an early u/s tomorrow due to some cyst like pain) and not only can I not keep it a secret that long but I do think my mom might be disappointed it she didn't know sooner. And as others have mentioned we'd absolutely want their support no matter what happpens.
DH and I are planning on waiting until about 16 weeks for family and hopefully, 20 weeks for work. We thought it would be nice to have something just between us to share.
Plus, once our parents know, EVERYONE on the planet will know and we aren't quite ready for that. I'd like to just show up one day to work really pregnant and have not said anything, like in Knocked Up, because my boss is going to freak out. LOL.
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We have told no one yet. After our first ultrasound (in the next couple weeks) we will tell a few friends and close family - they would be those that we would want support from if we miscarried.
Due to a number of losses, it just doesn't feel real yet ... and we just won't even go there unless the ultrasound shows a little beating heart.
We've only told one brother-in-law and his wife, because we needed their help covering it up at a wedding.
We're telling my family this weekend and his family the weekend after. But waiting closer to 3 months for family and others
We found out the morning we were driving home (6hrs away) to basically drink wine with everyone we know. DH told my brother and SIL the second we got to their house, which was fine. We managed to keep it from one group of friends, but the two couples we had dinner with on the last night figured it out (which I knew they would, but they can all keep a secret). After that, we figured we had to tell my parents (who we'd seen the week before, but who were OOT this time).
We haven't told DH's family (aren't on the best terms) or any other friends, even though I am DYING to. I figure if god forbid something happens, I'll tell people anyway, but might as well keep it under wraps for now. I've had one early u/s because of fertility issues, and then had a crazy high beta, so I'm worried there was a twin we didn't see. I go again on Friday, and after that it's going to be really hard to not tell. I'm trying to stay strong though! I never thought it would be so hard!