Is anyone done having kids?

twh2006 · December 2010

I was curious if any of you had finished your families and how you deal with it?

taylormillgirl · December 2010

I'm done!

How do I deal with it? That implies I'm unhappy with my situation. Quite the contrary--I'm thrilled to be finished. Three kids is sometimes more than I can handle. If by some freak of nature (DH had a vasectomy two years ago) I became pregnant, I'd probably cry...and not the good kind of cry.

Read2Me · December 2010

We are done! Eva was a surprise- we hadn't planned on having any children but we are thrilled that she came along. That said, it's not a road we want to travel down again. My DH is in his 40s and I am not in the best health so it's just not worth it to us to try and have another. Our little family of three is perfect for us.

citychicks · December 2010

I'm done after this one is born. Though I am really excited about this baby, I am also really excited to be done with maternity clothes, pregnancies, ttc etc. My kids are so much fun and I can't wait for this one to start showing it's personality.

twh2006 · December 2010

I didn't really mean to imply it in a negative way. I guess what I meant is like me personally 99% of the time I'm very happy to be done. But I get kinda sad when I realize this is the last of the bottles until grandkids, or the last time I'll nurse someone, etc. But seriously almost all the time I'm fine which lets me know I don't want another. I just wondered if I'm alone with this?

Like you I'd probably break down in a bad way if we got pregnant again. I'm just too old for the middle of the night crap.

Daisy77 · December 2010

We just decided that our house has 4 bedrooms and we wanted each kid to have their own room so 3 was our limit. Plus, I wanted to be done having kids by the time I was 30. DD#2 was born and I turned 30 5 months later:)

Sometimes I get a little sad at the idea of not having any more, but then I babysit my nieces or nephews (5 are 6 months or younger) and afterward I'm glad we're done, lol. Don't get me wrong, I love babies but I'm happy to have no more bottles, formula, spit ups, car seats, and big baby stuff around. Plus, I was happy to drop the baby weight for good!

ali-1411 · December 2010

We're done. I have mixed feelings about it. There are a lot of reasons why I don't want any more kids and then I still get the urge to get pregnant again. But I don't think having another baby would be the best decision for our family.

Personally, I think the saying "You might regret not having another, but you'll never regret having it" is complete crap. Obviously, nobody would ever wish they didn't have one of their children. But sometimes you should just stop while you're ahead. Having another child would add a lot of stress - emotionally and financially - to our family. Of course we would love that hypothetical baby but we are better off with its nonexistence.

eaglesfan700 · December 2010

I go back and forth a lot. My H is totally on board with a 3rd and even a 4th, but he is 41 and I turn 38 next week lol

I do think we will have a 3rd because I don't feel quite done, but we wouldn't even TTC until next year. I have a girls Vegas trip and a trip to Miami for the Eagles-Dolphins next year already planned.

But then I think by that time next year, I might be in such a great place with the two, will I really want to start all over?

tabi_ja · December 2010

We are fairly certain we're done. I used to think I wanted 3 or 4, but now that Miles is here, our family just feels . . . complete. I think we're done, and I'm completely okay with the thought of never having another. I have plenty of girlfriends who can have all the kids they want. I'll borrow them from time to time when I'm feeling nostalgic.

cepcep · December 2010

I am done. Of course we would have loved a boy but we joke my husband is the girl-maker I just feel done and that our family is complete. If I had started younger I might have gone for 3.

I do feel a bit sad sometimes about being done but 99% of the time I am happy about it. I love that the girls are older and we are having so much fun. I just love watching them grow and I try to appreciate every age.

lujain · December 2010

DH and I decided a while back that it would be easier to have only one kid. Now that DD is here and we know about all her developmental delays, we definitely don't want more kids. Our little family is perfect.

Randy'sgirl52409 · December 2010

It is our plan to only have one and that's what we have so yes, we are done. To us our family is perfect with the three of us and our 2 furbabies.

SpartanGirl · December 2010

This baby will be our last.

I feel like you. I'm very at peace with our decision, but I still feel sad knowing this is the last time I'll feel the baby kick while pregnant, the last time to snuggle a newborn, etc. I think it's normal. When I feel that way I try to focus on what I'm looking forward to - more space in the house when we get rid of the baby stuff, sttn, more independent kids (who can dress themselves in the winter!)...

Temp174496125006552 · December 2010

We are done and I have finally come to accept it. It took me a long time to get here. My kids are 14 years apart. Jordan will be graduating from HS in June and then going off to college in the Fall. It makes me sad that it will be like Ben is an only child after she is gone...and I wish that he had a sibling that was closer in age and still here with him. Plus, I just really don't feel like I am done. However, another child would not be the best decision for us, financially and logistically, so we're stopping with the two kids that we have.

MamatoJackson · December 2010

We're done after baby girl. Two is just a good # for us. DH is turning 36 this month, financially two feels right, etc.

I'm VERY happy with it right now - But I'm at that "done being pregnant" stage.

I think it will be harder for me after we deliver... which is why I want DH to get his vasectomy ASAP after delivery.

MrsBalletStar05 · December 2010

I have no idea. I am glad that we have two though. I feel like my family is much more "full" with two rather than one if that makes sense???

Cameron is MUCH more work than Adrian ever was though, so that is why I just don't know if we are done or not yet.

Sage Mommy · December 2010

I have two and we are done. I dealt with it by squealing like a little girl after my HSG to confirm my Essure procedure was successful.

passar3588 · December 2010

I'm done at 3. I really enjoyed being pregnant and my labor/deliveries with all 3 of my kids were some of the best days of my life, so I'm sad that I will never experience that again. However, I can't imagine adding another child to the mix. Not a hard decision at all for us for various reasons! I did not feel this way when I only had 2 kids though. I really wanted a 3rd and I'm glad we had another.

littlelamb99 · December 2010

We are one and done. My DD is 2 and is amazing.

The only children boards on babycenter are super awesome and the women are all very very nice over there. I frequent that board at least a few times a day..

Sammysu · December 2010

I think I might be done. I have 3 and two I have delivered but since God gave me 3 girls, I am afraid that I will only have another girl. I am really having a hard time raising 3 girls. There is soo much involved with all their emotions. I have to go through it 3 times and I don't know if I can do 4! I also had difficult pregnancies and deliveries so that doesn't help with the appeal of wanting more.

I say that I am not sure because I am still in my 20's and think I am not ready to say DONE completly but I do feel like I just might be done.

istalkgeeks · December 2010

I am absolutely done. My DH and I were not 100% sure until we had DS, but now we are. We are thrilled with this decision. Unfortunately, because I'm in my 20's, everyone thinks that I am not really done and will have one later on. My DH is planning on a vasectomy soon, so we know for sure we are DONE. We haven't mentioned it as part of our "defense", because it is really no one's business but ours.

To be honest, I didn't like being pregnant. So, I don't feel that sad "I'm never going to be pregnant" again thing. Our family feels so complete though. All I wanted was a little boy and I have him, so I am happy.

saragus · December 2010

We are also one and done. It's nice to see more more one child families here, I don't know any in real life. DD is almost 3 and STTN about 30% of the time, still. I'm TIRED. I have never felt baby fever and have no desire for another child. I do feel a tiny bit sad that she won't have a sibling, but I'm not going to have another baby for that reason. We never had any ideas about how many kids we wanted, just had DD and then decided we were done.

detroitblondie · December 2010

Um, I can't really say 100%- BUT the way things are around here now, I would say I am FOR SURE done. HOLY FREAKING SH*T am I exhausted and I only have two. Granted, they are only 13 months apart (19 mos & 6 mos right now) but OMG is it a lot of work. My house is a total wreck which makes me feel like I've lost my mind and DH REALLY tries to help but it so isn't quite enough. I love my boys with all of my heart but I am definitely stressed, like, 80% of the time- it's just super hard. I need a freaking vacation. So, right now, I would say I am for sure stopping where I'm at- 2.

almostjennifer · December 2010

I was having this conversation with my aunt (she's 66 with grown kids) and she told me that little niggling feeling of wanting another baby never goes away. She said when going through menopause she thought she might be PG and was sort of excited!

I take that to mean that even though you rationally know you should probably be done, emotionally you are never completely done.

For me, I would LOVE another baby, but I know I am already running at capacity for my ability to cope with the children I have. Another one would really push me over the edge. And that makes me sad.

tiredmamma · December 2010

We're done, although I can't say that I am ok with it. DH has made it very clear that he is happy with two, in fact he would have been one and done if I hadn't really pushed for DD2. I would love a third, but he compromised for me and now I need to compromise for him.

savannahsmommy09 · December 2010

i am done and only have one

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