Babies: 3 - 6 Months
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Do parents/in laws help out money wise? ($, gifts for baby, etc?)
aries21
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just wondering if your parents have been helping out by either giving $ to buy LO things, buying things for LO themselves, etc?
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Re: Do parents/in laws help out money wise? ($, gifts for baby, etc?)
No, nor would I expect them to. We got married on our own, bought our house on our own, and take care of LO on our own.
They do get gifts for her, like for baptism and Christmas.
We do mostly everything on our own. Our MIL is always buying stuff for DD. She is the first grandchild and she can't seem to help herself. She is always dropping off clothes. toys, etc. We don't expect anyone to do anything, but are grateful for the gifts we receive.
Not really. MIL buys random stuff that is not age appropriate at all! We tell her not to, but she doesn't listen. She did give me $ for DD's baptism dress, although I repeatedly told her not to and tried to give it back.
This.
No, they don't help out. I'm sure if we needed it they would.
They all buy her gifts and such all the time. She's the first grandchild on my side and second (and only girl) on DH's.
They're helping us out a lot right now with all sorts of stuff, but that's because we're both unemployed and pretty much bleeding money right now. Otherwise, we could handle it all on our own.
Kylie is very spoiled by both set of grandparents. She is the 1st on my side so my Mom gets a little too excited when she goes shopping and sees cute things. I have told her several times that we appreciate everything she does for Kylie but that she does not have to and I do not want her growing up thinking that everytime Nanny comes over she gets a present. My Mom promises to stop as soon as Kylie knows better but we will see how that goes...
Our families help a lot. Between the two sets of grandparents and some of the Greats, she has a couple $k in her 529 (we contribute monthly as well) and a few hundred in bonds. My mom buys her tons of clothes (she loves this part!) and both families are getting lots for Christmas so we won't be getting her much. I chose to stay home (much to everyone's delight) but it makes money tight, so they are all happy to help with fun stuff (and would regardless). As far as her necessities though we take care of that-diapers, wipes, food.
Edit: After reading some of the above I wanted to clarify that we don't ask for anything or really need it. We meet all of DDs needs. Would I buy her 5 dresses for no reason? No, she has them bc of Grandma. And the money in her 529 has been gifted for Baptism and Christmas, we can definitely take care of our family and do quite well on our own :-)
My mom will help out every now and then with little things: i.e. a sleeper, a couple of cans of formula, etc...
We never ask for the help, but we do appreciate it.
Her and my dad also bought our crib, but that was our shower gift...
No way!!
My grandmom buys outfits CONSTANTLY because she can't help herself, but we have enough clothes for them on oue own. She often buys wipes or diapers from Costco and refuses to ler us pay her for it but we don't need the help - she just enjoys doing things for her great grandbabies!
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No money, and not really very many gifts. Neither of us were raised with much materialistically though....
Recently we went to visit my family in Missouri for Thanksgiving and for my family to meet DD for the very first time. My mom presented her with a quilt that she hand-made.
My parents also gave us small gifts for my baby shower, and sent us home with a Christmas present for DD. That's it. (And that's cool with us.)
IL's have given DD a bouncey seat, our monitor, and MIL said she bought her a couple outfits. I believe they are also sending a Christmas gift. That's it from them. Again, we're cool with it.
We just don't have the type of parents who shell out gifts a lot. But, they do give Maddie a lot of love.
My father helped us for three months when DH lost his job in mid July. But once back on our feet it was not necessary. They do buy LO little gifts here and there.
DH's parents don't do anything.
Yup. My parents occasionally buy him a cute outfit and I'm sure will have some presents for him at Christmas, but we take care of all his needs. I like it this way!
I think my parents help us tremendously by being our go-to babysitters. They're the only ones who have watched DD really.
They also buy her things that they want her to have at their house, though they don't have to, and my mom bought a carseat for her car so we don't have to switch cars regularly. That said, it was technically her baptism gift to DD.
My ILs have always been more of the $$ type. Before MIL passed, she bought all of DD's furniture. It made her happy to know DD would have a big gift from her that would last a long time. Because of MIL, DD's 529 is also well taken care of.
FIL gives her big cash gifts for special events, so that $$ goes into her savings account. She will really appreciate it someday.
My MIL won't stop buying my DD clothes and toys. My own mother buys her diapers. I have not had to buy even one diaper for my own daughter yet! I certainly don't ask or expect these things, they both just do it on their own free will. I've told them to stop but neither one will listen to me. I'll take it!
My mom buys gifts for all the occasions, but she lives a few states away, so the drop-by-with-random-stuff-deal doesn't happen with her. She did sock away some cash in an account to jump start her college/wedding/first house down payment fund that DH and I also contricute to. MIL buys stuff at yard sales to keep at her house for when DD spends time there. Thing is, she's not allowed to watch DD. I think she does it to guilt us or to hold out hope we'll change our minds! FIL lives a couple hours away and does well to take care of his own needs. As I type this, it sounds really negative, but actually, I'm happy not to get all sorts of stuff from other people. I like chossing DD's things and we're blessed enough to be able to afford them, thankfully.
No and I would not want them too. He is our kid and our responsibility.
We did get a large ticket item from each side (high chair and carseat) at the shower and I am sure he will get some Christmas presents, but that is it. My sister, on the other hand, is a manager at Old Navy and can not help herself at 50% off clearance time. She buys him bags of stuff for like $10 after her discount.
My first son was not planned at all, DH and I hadn't been dating very long, neither of us had stable jobs, and I was only 19. My dad gave us a credit card to use in emergency/major necessity situations when something came up that we couldn't afford, but we always make the best efforts to pay him back quickly.
We have had to use the credit card for our second son's first few doctors appointments, because it took six months to work out his insurance, and each visit was upwards of $120. Other than that, we've been good to follow our budget and take care of our own expenses.
All of our parents do buy the children occasional gifts, clothes, etc., as well as keeping spare diapers at their homes and baby-sitting for free when we need it