Babies: 0 - 3 Months
Knottie19075384
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LO is getting spoiled already!
Knottie19075384
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i know they say you can't spoil a newborn, but i think that's bull. LO will not go to sleep unless she is held or rocked in her bassinet, or most disturbing, unless there's a bottle in her mouth. we use a pacifier but there's no fooling her! i don't like this habit and it worries me... anyone else with a similar problem or advice on how to change it? other than letting her cry it out (last resort) TIA!
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Re: LO is getting spoiled already!
There is a reason babies like to be rocked... not because they think its fun and want to manipulate you into doing it. It is because it is comforting! Your LO has only been in this big scary world a few short weeks, and being held or rocked reminds her of your comfortable womb. As your baby gets more awake and alert, you will probably find that you will have to actively *put her down to sleep*... if all you have to do is rock your baby to make her comfortable, consider yourself lucky. She is not spoiled or manipulating you... she just needs certain comforts, and will probably be much better off if you provide them.
Also, if she wants the bottle and not a pacifier, she may be hungry and want to nurse to sleep? IDK how it works with a bottle, but I nurse my baby almost to sleep, then swaddle, rock for a few minutes, set her in her crib and she sleeps really well. I don't think its a bad "habit" this young.
GL!
I sooo agree with the previous posters! She is 3 weeks old...If she wants to be held/rocked to sleep let her! As for the bottle issue, she IS probably hungry. Newborns get "milk drunk" and VERY sleepy when they eat. If she wants to eat and just so happens to fall asleep then let her.
My 2.5 month old still falls asleep with a bottle. Granted it doesn't happen always but she does.
All this and my baby sleeps really well. She has her times but I do whatever it takes to soothe her...I have heard it too many times, a child this young cannot self soothe. It is up to you!
Good Luck and Be patient...It DOES get better!
Your baby isn't spoiled. She had needs, needs that maybe aren't convenient for you, but needs non the less. They probably aren't the same needs your other children had, doesn't mean she doesn't need these things.
I promise you that in a few months you will not wish you held or rocked your baby less.
Do you know how many people have done this through the ages? Your mom probably did it to you. My mom did it to me. I love my mom.
okay maybe it was a poor choice of words... i know you can't really spoil a baby, i guess i meant about forming habits. with DS i did everything to keep him calm; rocking, walking, singing, swinging, vibrations, floor fan, swaddling, and those preferences stuck with him til he was over a year old! it was only recently that he'll go to sleep on his own, and its still only in a quiet room by himself and the slightest noises wake him up. it makes things very difficult when traveling or at someone else's house or when people are at my house.
i just don't want to start LO with habits that will stick with her and be hard to break. obviously i'm not going to deny her any cuddling or rocking if thats what she needs, but when do you really start weaning them off of these kind of comforts? i know she needs to learn to self soothe, when do we start that?
and my main concern with this whole post was the bottle in mouth thing. she'll sleep content as long as that bottle is in her mouth, she'll suck a couple times, then sleep, then a few more times, then sleep. i'll try to wake her up more to eat but she just wants to sleep. but if i switch the bottle with a paci she wakes up and starts crying. i don't know if "bottle mouth" applies this early, but it worries me!!!
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OP, read Secrets of the Baby Whisperer. It talks a lot about teaching your baby to sleep sensibly (i.e. fall asleep independently). She does NOT advocate crying it out. She tells you to comfort your LO every time she cries. But she also suggests ways to help LO learn to fall asleep without props (props being you and the bottle). We're on day 2 of trying her methods and LO is currently sleeping in her crib and hasn't cried once since I put her in there an hour ago. 2 days ago, she would need to be held to fall asleep and would wake up and cry within 10 minutes of being put down.