Ok back story, my uncle has cerebal palsy. DH and I moved into the house my father inherited from his mother so we could help my uncle out. Cook for him and get the house ready to sell. He's really high functioning and has the mental development of about a 14 year old.
We are finding out the sex in just a few weeks and my uncle doesn't want to know. We obviously plan on doing the nursery before the baby arrives. Also we wanted to do a gender reveal at Christmas. Do you think its a ridiculous request of his to keep the gender a secret from just him? I mean it is my child and I shouldn't have to keep the baby items I purchase a secret. I shouldn't really have to sneak them into the house I live in. The nursery is right next to his bedroom. He can't really avoid it. Especially at family functions. We just shouldn't talk about the new baby?
Re: How do we keep the gender a secret from only one person??
I agree. He may just have to suck it up and know before the baby is born. The only problem with that is I wouldn't hear the end of it. He would talk about it for the following 20 weeks and probably then some.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
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I say do your best to keep it from him and if he ends up finding out, oh well.
We're in the same situation with DH's grandpa. We all went out to dinner last night (grandparents, SIL, MIL, Dh and I) and both me and SIL slipped with a "her" or a "she" like, 85 times. Good thing gramps is hard of hearing.
He doesn't get to see the room and obviously won't be at the shower. But he also lives an hour away, so it's a bit easier overall.
it's not really his decision, you know? i mean, if you want to find out, the fun part is then...knowing. and talking about it, and decorating and acquiring things for her/him.
i guess i would say that sure, i won't tell you, but maybe let him know that you don't want to have to sneak around for the next 5 months just to appease him. i don't know what else to say - it's just completely unrealistic on his part. and a tad selfish.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
Most of the time when people try to keep it from one person they end up finding out anyway. To make it easier you could "accidentally" let it slip.
If you are willing to try then go for it. I think it's kind of a hassle.
In my situation it is my MIL who does not want to know. She was really mad at us that we wanted to find out and then she wanted us not to tell anyone so that she wouldn't know....well, that wasn't going to happen! I explained that I would not tell her what the sex is and I would let other people know that she doesn't want to know, but that it the most I can do.
I, as nicely as possible, told her that I would be decorating the babies room and people coming to by shower will know the sex so if she really didn't want to know then it was her decision whether she sees the room, comes to my shower, etc.
It has been hard and I have almost slipped up, but so far we have kept it quiet for 7 weeks! I really just wish someone else would slip up so she's know and I could stop having to be so careful around her...I am contemplating telling my 3 year old niece who can't keep anything to herself.....I mean she couldn't get mad at her granddaughter!
My MIL doesn't want to know either... she just wants to know the name.
Uhhh? maybe i don't want to give my firstborn a gender neutral name JUST for her. She had her 4 kids, she got to name them.
Anyway, hubby and I decided that we want to find out the sex and tell people that. But not tell them the names we are thinking about, because everyone will have something bad to say about some name.
MIL is just gonna have to deal with it. Since she is already being super disrespectful to me about the pregnancy, hubby and I have no problem with our plan.
my dad didnt want to know, but it was really hard to call the baby an IT when i knew it was a she. this was all easily resolved as i invited him to an ultra-sound where he would have to find out what it was
i think it'll be impossible to keep it from him, so feel free to do your best but dont feel badly if he finds out
good luck :-)