2nd Trimester
baby nurse experiences
We live in NYC with no family around, and many people have told us we NEED a baby nurse for at least a week or two after the baby comes. Just curious if anyone has used one, and if so, for how long, and did you think it was worth it? Thanks!
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Re: baby nurse experiences
I guess my question would be - will DH be around to help - and how long will he be home?
He may be home for two weeks. He may get to take one week right away, then have to go back and take another one later. We're not sure. Will depend on what's going on at his company at the time.
I swear, only people in the NYC area are convinced that you NEEEED a baby nurse!
My office mate had one for a few days after she got home and she said it was great.
I am not planning to get one since a) my MIL can come over a little bit and help and b) I plan to breastfeed so I don't know exatly what the nurse would be doing.
I'm going to be breastfeeding too, but I've heard they still help put the baby back to sleep after/change diapers in teh night, etc. I've also heard they help A LOT in getting the baby on a sleep schedule.
I also have type 1 diabetes and I know my numbers are going to be a bit hard to manage right after the baby is born, especailly with the breastfeeding, so I'm a little nervous about that. Am afriad I'll need to be taking care of myself and then the baby will be crying and I'll have to wait until I'm ok before I can pick him/her up.
I don't know - I agree with the person who said they want to be taking care of their baby, but I just am nervous (it is our first).
This! I could feel my hormones shift when I was bringing Emma home. I went from feeling happy in the hospital with her to immediately territorial and didn't want anyone to hold her. She was my baby. My MIL nearly got her head bit off once. I had nursed Emma and put her down so we could nap, well MIL came in to get the baby....WRONG thing to do. I didn't care how much pain I was in from the c-section I would have stood in front of Emma's crib to keep anyone from touching her.
If he's around to help this much - I don't think you'd need one. We have family around - but besides bringing a meal over or something they didn't really help out with the baby much.
I'd save the money you'd spend on a baby nurse and if you feel like you need help get someone to come do dishes or make dinner.
I actually didn't mind if anyone held him...and actually we went to family functions the next day after we came home from the hospital. It is more of me feeling like I should be the one to take care of it "hell or high water" kind of thing.
I cannot even imagine such a concept and this is my 3rd baby. With my last one my ex-husband came to the hospital and picked us up then dropped us off at home (with my other kids) and went to work.
I think my boyfriend plans on taking a few days off but even if he didn't I wouldn't expect or want help with the baby even if I could afford it. Now the cooking and cleaning maybe. I would take the money the nurse will cost and plan for take out for a few nights and have someone come in and clean and do laundry.