I know this will sound trivial, but I'm very blessed and only work part-time now (Mon and Weds in the office and from home on Friday). So Tues and Thurs and all weekend I spend all of my time with DS. My husband is working about 60+ hours a week 6-7 days a week. It sucks but he'll be laid off in a couple of weeks (he's in the trades, so we expect it).
Anyways--my issue is that my hair needs to be done SO bad. The roots are icky and the style is grown out and I just feel disgusting and icky. Going to get it done in the evenings is out b/c of when DH gets home from work. I would use my mom who has a day off this week to sit, but that's the day I'm getting my wisdom teeth pulled (4 of them)---so I'm sure I'll be out of commission for a few days.
I'm debating putting DS in daycare an extra day (tuesday) instead of just Mon and Weds which are his normal days. I know----sounds silly to have him in a full day of daycare for a 2.5 hr hair appt--but it would also allow me to get some last-minute things done before I get my teeth yanked --and also be able to purchase a last-minute b-day gift for my mom, clean the house, etc. BUT I FEEL SO GUILTY!!!!! Do you think this is dumb to put him in an extra day? I could wait until next Tuesday and my MIL can watch him for a couple of hours. She's good with him, but I wouldn't say he gets the same attention he would from daycare.
I hate hate hate mommy guilt!!! When does it ever go away??
Re: Having mommy guilt--- wwyd?
Everyone has mommy guilt. I'm a SAHM and sometimes I feel guilty for cleaning up the kitchen & not being with DD. Talk about silly!
I'd do it. We all need days to ourself. But don't feel guilty!
MIL really gives him less attention then daycare??
LOL- I work p/t T & Th and dd goes to MDO those days. I am totally sending her tomorrow so I can go to the office for like 2 hrs and then go shopping all afternoon. And I don't feel one bit guilty. She loves school!!!
Hmmm... maybe I should feel guilty for NOT feeling guilty or even thinking twice about it.
Good thinking!!! That's a good idea and gives me even more permission to have a 'mommy' day. Hmmmm.....now what to cook ahead???? Even planning slow cooker meals helps---I do love my slow cooker
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No--I wouldn't say less attention so much as she's basically just running around after him b/c he LOVES to tear their house apart. It's comical and scary at the same time. You'd think they would 'child proof' the place a little more LOL. I'm talking glass everything....but I digress. It's just a different type of attention. But I do love her and I feel comfortable with him there--just thinking I'm not sure my roots can take another week of growth. I know--sound dumb.
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take advantage of nap times, and locking them in the stroller lol thats how ive gotten through several dr appts for me when i've had to watch my 3 yr old niece at the same time. be prepared with coloring books, blocks, snacks, something easy to keep them busy that doesnt require you to do a major clean up when your done
as a busy almost mom i have noticed the easy way to keep the house clean is to clean in increments, like the living room one day the kitchen the next the bedrooms the next and so on
but if you want to put him in daycare for one extra day i dont see a big deal with it, its no worse than having him there while your working or having ur mom or mil watch him, your gonna be busy, give yourself some me time and relax
hope this helps
It?s common for mothers to feel guilty, threatened by - and envious of - their nanny or daycare provider. It?s often difficult to leave your kids to go to work, and here?s this ?other woman? who gets to do all of the fun stuff that you?re missing - playing with your kids, teaching them new things?even being there for their milestones. Talk about major mommy guilt!
It?s natural to feel possessive and protective of your kids - that?s the maternal instinct. It?s also OK to need help with childcare - it takes a village to raise a child, right?
Mommy guilt isn't going to stop.Even though I'm 25, married, and have a two month old of my own, my mother is upset she won't be with me for my birthday this year.
My daughter and I have spent a few hours apart already for Dr's appointments, grocery shopping, ect. I also get Daddy or my father to watch her so it isn't drastic. If he's already in daycare, he'll have a lot more fun running around for an extra day with his friends. My daughter already seems miserable when I take her to the store. She can't talk yet but you can tell that she'd rather be somewhere else. Actions speak so loudly.
I wouldn't feel terrible about it. If you do, chocolate always seems to solve my guilt problems. After your wisdom teeth and the new addition, when is the next time you can really say you'll have some time to yourself again?