OK, the last pregnancy, I couldn't stand hearing my husband chew, breathe or talk during the first tri (this is also how we knew I was pregnant--both times). This pregnancy, I just want to kill him even when he does nice things for me (yes, I'm the one who's DH is already planning an extravagant babymoon). I realize I'm spoiled but is anyone else just annoyed with their DH right now? I can't wait for second tri to swing around so I get super horny again. I feel so bad because he means SO well but I just can't stand anything about him right now (smell, voice, breath, the way he cooks my breakfast, the quickness with which he runs out to get my Subway sandwich or vegetarian sushi...) Grr.
Re: Disgusted by Husband -- Anyone?
Sad to say I agree with the PP...
I would love to have my husband doing those things for me. Hell, I would love to be able to see my husband everyday. (36 hours in the last two weeks.) you do kind of sound like you need to take it down a notch. Or else he'll stop doing nice things for you all together.
If you have to take your anger out on rude strangers, not someone who loves you.
I have no words that are nice so I will just say that no, I'm not disgusted by my husband.. I am blown away every single day with how incredibly sweet, sensitive, giving, loving, patient, thoughtful and strong he is.. while I'm pregnant or not.
I'm sorry for you and your DH that he disgusts you. I really hope you don't disgust him... but keep it up and that just might happen. good luck.
It sounds like you have a pretty wonderful husband. I think you deserve a big "fvck you - get it yourself" from your DH next time he jumps to make you meals or runs out to get you what you want to eat.
Gotta say I agree with this. I would give anything to have DH do more for me right now. Of course, I know he's doing what he can between going to school full time and working part time (and sometimes full time) hours. Frankly, I wish I wasn't so exhausted all the time so I spend more time with my DH when he is around, despite any annoying habits he might have--I can overlook those easily!
Dang, he's still married you and is even having another baby with you after your behavior?
Seriously, you need to get off your high horse.
BTW, this is AWESOME advice.
If you meant for this post to be sarcastic, well then you need to work on that.
Thanks for the advice.
Right? That's what I'm sayin'. A little whipping will do him some good.
Hope it passes soon so you can get on with your normal life
I don't have any complaints about my hubby.
1. The sarcasm was clear. It would appear that people have some serious difficulties discerning it, but Sarcasm and I are buddies, and it made me laugh.
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2. I can agree with your complaint. I'm getting super close to the 2nd trimester, but, unfortunately, this week has decided to be the worst of the entire 1st. I'm gagging myself on air. I actually had to throw away a half-eaten cupcake yesterday because I was positive it was going to get thrown out another way if I didn't. Feeling like crap all the time makes it painfully easy to take out frustration on those who care about you the most. My SO and I got into a stupid little argument just today...I doubt either of us could even tell you what it was about. The point is, however, that I love him dearly, and he tries so hard to make my crazy hormonal self happy. But there are just some times....
This. I even went back to re-read it. Not feeling the sarcasm so much, sorry.
OP, I feel you. I have been extra irritated by not just my DH, but just about everyone else too these days. I think it's hormones combined with lack of sleep from a toddler who is once again waking several times a night. Not a good combo.
Hormones are a powerful thing, and just so you know they swing both ways!Last pregnancy my DH traveled quite a bit for his job. I actually really liked when he traveled because it meant no cooking dinner, I could relax and watch movies or work late - whatever I wanted to do those night. And he only traveled a couple of times a month, so we still had plenty of time together.
When I was in the second tri last time he went to Europe for a week and I thought I was going to have a nervous breakdown. I cried almost the entire time he was gone, I missed him so much and almost felt like I was never going to see him again. It's like I was sure something was going to happen to him and I felt so out of control. Hormones!
So I think you should be gentle with yourself, try not to get irritated (easier said than done) and focus on the positives or spend time alone. If I feel myself getting irritated I'll go take a nap or go to the gym, etc. for a quick break.
morse sarcasm. probably. don't really give a flying f*ck though.
Heres the thing about sarcasm, unless you can hear the inflection in your voice, its hard to tell whether its sarcasm, or how you really feel.
Personally, I still feel like this post makes you sound like a rotten person. I would rather be pissed at the lady who cuts me off in traffic, or the idiot at mcdonalds who effs up my order over and over again, than my best friend. I guess thats just me though.
I'm sorry you feel this way.
Actually, My DH is my rock!! So many other people irritate me right now! The simple, "How are you feeling", "Do you have morning sickness?" and "When I was pregnant...." comments and questions DRIVE ME CRAZY. And of course the IL's have a speacial place in my heart (sarcasam) right now.
DH is about the only person that doesnt get on my nerves. He is caring, understanding and always there when I need him or need to vent.
Hopefully these feeling go away for you soon and you can try to treat him special for a few weeks during your second tri to make up for your first.
Wow, that's original.
Yep, it's just you.
Good call. I'll let him know.