Is your husband
octbride1234
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Is your husband going to the baby shower?
I would like for him to be there seeing it is his children as well so it would be nice for him to be part of this and second I need help with opening gifts because I am on bed rest and will be in the recliner. I would love for him to be in the pics that will go in the scrap books. It is something I want him to be part of and share it with him but I am so sick of hearing people say that it is just for women. I feel like that is so dated. I feel like It is a personal choice and anything goes these days. Our dads and my brothers will be there too. It is a special occasion and I want my loved ones there.. am I strange for feeling this way? Maybe I am being too sensitive. We tried for so long to get preg so I feel like this is a celebration for the both of us.
Re: Is your husband
My hubby's not going, but only because he really has no interest in it. I asked him if he wanted to be involved and he was like, "Uhhh. NO!"
It does go either way. Some people have it all their girlfriends and other people make it a couple's thing. It really just depends on what you and your hubby want.
Brady Phoenix, 8.29.09
Claire Zoe, 10.26.10
I've gone to showers where the husband was there and it wasn't a problem at all.
With that being said my husband isn't going to the first one, it's thrown by long-time family friends of my mother. But he is going to the co-ed one that's thrown by my best friend. IMO it just depends on what you want after all it is for your shower.
My DH didn't come to my showers. He came by afterwards when it was just a few family members to help pick up presents. He didn't want to be there with all the women and I had no preference.
Mine was expressly not invited. I was disappointed, but that's what the hosts wanted -- something "girly." He was relieved to be left out of it.
Thinking of making him do the thank you cards. ;-)
I had/am having 3 showers. My first was a my mom's family/FIL's family/close friends shower and it was all women. My DH hung around and watched the kids, ate, and helped out (brought in chairs, cleaned up, etc). My second was a church-wide shower and it was all women. My DH didn't attend. He took DS to do stuff during it. My next shower is another family shower and it is women, men, and kids (anyone who wants to come). This is my MIL's family. DH will attend and probably unwrap as I am massive (will be 32 weeks with twins - I am as big as an over-term woman right now).
I think it should be whatever you want it to be. If you want your DH there and he wants to be there, who cares. If you want all women, who cares. Make it what you want. I always thought showers were mainly women, but I've been to all kinds in the past few years. My DH would be uncomfortable if it was all women and just him (unless it was all close family and friends).
My mom threw our shower for us. From the beginning she knew we both wanted to attend and wanted everyone to be included. My SO was there the entire time. We had a "jack and jill" I guess you could call it. We both have large families and had about 80 ppl there at one point. All of our aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, etc. were there. It was held at a farm which had a pavilion with a stocked bass pond next to it so if the guys got bored they could fish, but most didn't even, everyone was entertained and into it. We served desert (the cake and some cheese cakes) while the gifts were being opened which was nice because sometimes watching someone else open gifts can get boring. (if you have a large shower.)
My SO opened all the presents with me and afterwards we took maternity shots under this arbor that was there and then took more with my family and his family. It was such a great day for both of us and our family and friends talk about it all the time. (the guys, too!) and I was so glad he was there because it was more for "us" not really for just me. I think it's your shower and whoever is throwing it loves you and will understand that you want him there! Hope it's a great day for you!
My husband went to my baby shower (and my wedding shower for that matter). I LOVED that he was there. I don't love being alone in the spotlight, and it took a lot of the pressure off of me. Also, we live across the country, and we need to make the most of our "visiting" time when we get home. I think it would be stupid for him to sit at my parents' house basically alone when he could get to know my family/friends better.
I'm not judging anyone who wants a "girls only" event because I can see how that would be fun. However, in my honest opinion, I think that the idea that babies and baby showers are a "girl" thing is antiquated (at best). To me, showers aren't about oohing and ahhing about onesies and little dresses and bottles. I think it is more about being with your family and friends during an exciting time.
I think that it made my husband feel like he was part of the pregnancy more than he had before. I think it made it even more real to him to actually talk to everyone and see all the gifts and how excited everyone was.
Good luck!
DD #2: BFP: 8-19-18 EDD: 4-30-19