MIL and birthday cake problem--clicky (long)
ryry1977
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So DH and I have had Cedrics birthday cake all planned out for his 'Green Eggs and Ham' birthday party. I plan on making cupcakes to look like the green eggs and a small green ham smash cake (in the shape of a ham).
So the problem is this...my MIL makes wonderful cakes (she even made our wedding cake as well as a lot of other peoples) and now wants to make Cedrics cake. I was very insistant on making his myself, and DH told me from the begining that I would have "to share", but he is now behind whatever I want. She was over today and was asking about his cake, I explained what I was planning on making, and she asked to make his smash cake. Not the one that I was planning...she wants to make a small sheet cake with a design of my choice on it. She was very insistant that she needs to make it, that everyone would be asking why she didn't make his cake (and her family probably would ask). She went on that she made all the kids cakes and needs to make Cedrics as well. I really want to make his cake myself, I have always enjoyed making fun cakes and even though they are nothing like hers I still wish to make his cake and cupcakes as planned. But we have a good relationship and hate to tell her no when she so obviously wants to make it. I am getting upset thinking about what to do...so wish she didn't ask and waited to see if we would ask her:( Her cakes are always the rich wedding cake icing that I don't care for (although a lot of people love it), and she needs to use that icing to decorate with.
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Re: MIL and birthday cake problem--clicky (long)
If you really want to make the cupcakes and smash cake then do it. Tell her "Thanks, but no thanks."
Like PP said, just explain that you feel, as a mother, you want to make his 1st birthday cake. End of story.
I think this is a good compromise. Tell her that it's important that you make the cakes, but that you would love her help with them and would like her to teach you her tricks! If she's not up for that then that's her problem!
Ditto.
I think this is a great compromise. My MIL is also a big cake person and her cupcakes are equally tasty and elaborate. She should do a great job making little "egg" cupcakes. Very cute theme, btw
I would have her make a smaller sheet cake and his smash cake. You should still make your cupcakes as well. There is no problem with having a variety.
As for the icing, I would ask her to use whipped icing (like the dairy free coolwhip kind) for your LOs cake. I think really rich icing will be too much for him.
This was my thought too.
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"She went on that she made all the kids cakes and needs to make Cedrics as well."
Kids as in her kids? Or other grandkids?
Try to help her to understand that as it was important for her to do this, it's important for you also. She's had her turn with her kids. Your turn with your kids.
I understand though. My mom makes great cakes and I have inherited that love from her. It's hard to not let her do it but I want to do it too!