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BabyyMamma
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bare bumps offensive?
BabyyMamma
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Ive heard some people say that bare bumps are offensive. What exactly is offensive about it? I think its a beautiful thing. anyone offended by it? and why?
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Re: bare bumps offensive?
i agree about hanging maternity pic on the wall thats just weird
i think bare bumps are way cute
but what im getting at is why would it be offensive? maybe people are modest or whatever but do they freak out and get offended at people in bathing suits?
This exactly.
This.
No need to show it off bare, everyone knows it's what's under my shirt...
Modesty is sexy...
oh yeah to each their own I would feel comfortable doing it but some people dont and thats fine.....but some people just think if someone does it its gross ( for example the lady on 3rd tri)
I see what you're saying, but it works in reverse too.
I wear a bikini swimming when I'm not pregnant, so why should I wear a 1 piece now that I'm pregnant ??
I know this isn't what you're saying specifically, but I just don't see why some people see bare bellies as taboo...
Lord knows I wouldn't show mine off anymore if I had stretchmarks that looked like a Canadian roadmap though!! lol
that is exactly how I feel about it
I saw that. I feel bad for that girl. She went against the grain & posted a bare bump pic & was teased about it.
Nothing wrong with a bare bump & good for her ! However!! While showing a bare bump it should be kept in mind that it may not be received how you think it might, no matter where you want to show it off.
I never had a problem with bare bumps until I saw a pregnant teenage girl at the mall, wearing cut off shorts and a teeny tube top ... had to be 3rd tri.
There's a time and place for everything. I wouldn't have found anything wrong with that at the beach.
teenage girls in tube tops always bother me haha I always think...."my mom would have killed me!" who lets their little girl walk out of the house like that i see 12 year olds walking around with what looks like t-shirts and no pants!
I agree that they're a beautiful thing and that I wear a bikini when I'm not pregnant so why should I be ashamed that I am? I will be all up in my student rec center swimming pool in my bikini come fall semester.
But I will admit... some girls look really cute with their baby bumps... some girls are just plain gross. But normally those are gross to me because the mom was gross to me pre-pregnancy.
I hope that makes sense? haha
Pregnant or not, it's nms. If you're going bare belly, you should do it when your belly is cute. After 35 weeks, I don't think many people's bellies are cute. No matter what you looked like pre-pregnancy (obviously, there are excpetions).
IMO, you should just cover it up! I love that maternity clothes are wandering away from the empire waist and tent like fit. They are a bit tighter and actually show the form of a pregnant woman's belly. That's a much more modest way to show off the belly!
I don't think they're offensive, but sometimes baring them in a certain way is tacky. More, that the outfit is tacky. I was at the hospital yesterday. There was a girl there (she may have been in her early 20s, but to me that's still a girl) with a good portion of her belly showing. She was wearing maybe a size 3 or 5 just butt-cheek-covering jean shorts obviously from pre-preg, and a shirt that was no doubt NOT a maternity shirt, since it wouldn't have reached the top of "normal" pants. I'd say there was easily 4 inches of bare skin showing between the bottom of her shirt an the top of her non-existant shorts. Definitely tacky. All I kept thinking was "and her mom let her out of the house wearing something like that?!"
But maybe that's just my mom mentality kicking in since I have kids of my own.
I don't think it's offensive- I just don't see the point in it. And you really can't compare it to wearing a bathing suit- because at least when you wear a bathing suit you're generally wearing it in context. (IE Swimming, sunbathing, etc).
We're a bunch of strangers- why do we care what anyone's bare stomach looks like? It looks the same with a fitted shirt over it if you just want to AW your bump. I guess it just fits into the tacky category for me.
AND, the girl on 3rd tri wasn't made fun of strictly for the bare belly. It was a hyper-cheesy picture. I'm sorry, but maternity pics like that make me point and laugh. If you post pictures of yourself on here, people are going to make comments and they might be comments you don't like. If you only want to hear good things about your pics- stick to showing them to your friends and family.
This.
Connor - 12/15/10 Abby - EDD 11/29/13
I'm with everyone who thinks bare bumps are appropriate 1. at the beach (if you could wear a bikini pre-pg), or 2. on The Bump. Some women like comparing bellies, even bare ones. If you can't feel comfortable showing your bare pregnant belly on a pregnancy message board, where else can you?
I personally will not show anyone my bare belly unless it's flat, but for those of you with cute bumps, more power to you!
And yes, I agree with PP. In the case of maternity shots, the bare bellies are not the issue really--it's more the cheese factor of some of them.
Isn't that the point of TB ? That we are all strangers and can post and say things on here that we might not be able to show or say to other people?
Okay No, some people on here might not CARE about seeing anyones bare belly, or might not care that someone has heartburn, cramps, an upcoming U/S, if your hormonal, or are getting stretchmarks...
But I'd like to think that strangers or not, the INTEREST&concern in how each other is doing is present, and it's nice having a place to go to relate to others with minimal fear of judgment.
Even if someone posts something that they KNOW no one else here will care about, TB is a nice outlet for people just to vent sometimes too.
Just sayin' .
No, that's not the point. This is still a public forum filled with all different people with all different opinions. I don't have any obligation to anyone who posts a super-corny maternity picture to make them feel good about themselves- that's what their friends and family are for. They can tell them how touching it is to see them wrapped in a creepy flesh-toned sash with flowers draped around them, gazing off into the distance- likely daydreaming about the future of their child. I don't have to.
I get what you're saying- and you're right in the respect that it is a place that you can vent about the thing we all have in common. However, you still have to do it with the understanding that just because we're all pregnant doesn't mean everyone is going to agree with you and it doesn't mean everyone will react the way you want them to. I think bare belly pics are tacky. Does that mean I want everyone to stop posting them? No. I don't really care what people do. If people want to post a picture of themselves naked with woopie pies on their nipples and a flip flop on their vaj- go for it. Just be advised that you may get some responses you don't love.
I tottally agree with you.
I didn't mean for my past response to sound like a rainbowy, puppies and rainbows type of post.
I'm fully aware that we have our own opinions and aren't afraid to keep them to ourselves whether it's about an ugly name or a horrid pic !
But I'd rather run an ugly pic or name through TB first , before deciing to put said pic on my work desk in a frame, or acctually following through with naming my child Cornelius Brutus LastName without honest feedback ! And sometimes the best place to get honest un edited feedback is from strangers !
I tottally agree with you.
I didn't mean for my past response to sound like a rainbowy, puppies and rainbows type of post.
I'm fully aware that we have our own opinions and aren't afraid to keep them to ourselves whether it's about an ugly name or a horrid pic !
But I'd rather run an ugly pic or name through TB first , before deciing to put said pic on my work desk in a frame, or acctually following through with naming my child Cornelius Brutus LastName without honest feedback ! And sometimes the best place to get honest un edited feedback is from strangers !
Hahaha, I gotcha.
BTW- If this is your way of asking what I think of the name "Cornelius Brutus"- it's nice, but I think, "Cornelius Optimus" flows better and adds a modern edge.
SEE !! THIS is exactly why I post here !!! I would have never thought of Optimus as a mn !!! Youre right it does sound a little edgier with nicer flow. With Cornelius as a fn it satisfies my need for a classic throwback name that should have been buried 100s of years ago, while Optimus satisfies the bf's wishes of a fictional robot name, which happens to be from the same movie as his one true love stars in *Megan Fox*.
I think this has put our name debate to rest. PHEWF.
Thanks Juliet!!
I think the thing we have to remember is, if it's okay for one, it has to be okay for all. So, if we think it's only okay if it's "cute"... well, that doesn't work, because that's not only biased, but also an opinion and nothing we can measure from person to person.
If you're okay with it, you're okay with it. If you're not, you're not. There are going to be some people that find it gross, just like there are people that find bikinis as a whole gross, or (as most of us do) find muffin-topping in any clothes gross. If it's not okay for a teenage mom to do it, then it's not okay for an adult mom to do it, and doing it might encourage a teenage mom to start. If it is okay only at the beach, then only at the beach for all!
I wasn't going to put anything personal in, but I thought the woman painting her tummy like a pumpkin for Halloween was pretty cute.
I think the people who find bare bumps actually offensive are the same people who find bare bellies in general offensive. And I agree with what everyone else said about baring your bump when it's a cute bump and not a huge, stretch-mark covered, about to split open bump. I personally don't bare my bump, but I also would never bare my belly otherwise. I think the same goes for swimming suits too. If you would wear a bikini not pregger, then you probably can pull one off pregger. I would never wear a bikini not prego, so there's no way this big ol' butt is getting into one while pregnant.
Maybe the bare bumps get so much more attention because they stick out more (quite literally), and some people still have an issue with the whole 'pregnancy is sexy' thing.
i dont think they are i wouldnt be running to the store in a tube top but ill admit it do it around the house n in the yard alot since im 3rd tri in augest lol. but then agian its all about taste bare bump in a swimsuit you bet wearing the equivelent of a bra out n about just dosent look right once ur so big. but then agian in summer even i have had that idc moment nbeen so hot n sweaty that ive gone around in a swim suit top! and bare bump maternity pics are cute but i wouldnt hang them up on my wall lol. but im kinda shy about it. if u got it n wana rock it more power to you! your body your decision
destney