We have a friend who passed away in February from lung and brain cancer. His FB page is still "active" with friends posting memorials and, today, birthday wishes. Every now and then I get a reminder from Facebook to "reconnect" with him. I am assuming his mom or other family member manages the page b/c "he" has recently accepted new friends. Would you post on a friend's page who has passed away? The memorials and pictures I understand. The birthday wishes are a little morbid to me.
Thoughts?
ETA: I am not trying to belittle anyone who uses this type of rememberance to cope with their loss. This is the first time I have ever experienced a "sad Happy Birthday" and, thus, the reason for my post.
Re: Wishing a deceased friend "Happy Birthday"?
A friend of ours died this past winter, and her family and boyfriend kept her FB page up.
I understood the reasoning behind it right after she died, because it was a nice place to keep the memorials and notes of condolence. But the boyfriend occasionally posts on it with stuff like "I went to the such & such yesterday; you would have loved it," which kind of creeps me out.
However, it's theirs to do with as they wish....I could see keeping it up to go back & look at the memorials, but maybe locking it so there wouldn't be any new additions?
I don't know...this is definitely a 'to each his own' type of thing.
I know what you mean...my pastor's wife passed away and people still post on her page.
I agree about the birthday wishes, it's a bit strange.
* Happy Birthday! I miss you!
* Thought about you a lot today! Happy Birthday!
* I hope your birthday was everything you wanted! Miss you!
* Happy Birthday! I heard your mom is taking you to the World's! Miss you everyday!
I guess this is truly a personal choice but I don't think it is for me.
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I think it sounds like the people who have posted believe in life after death. To them he is celebrating his birthday today, but in heaven.
And Ironically I have been thinking about this whole situation because DH's best friend passed away June 5th and his 30th birthday is Aug. 2nd. I wasn't sure if I was going to post Happy Birthday cause yes it does sound kind of morbid to other people or just, Thinking of you today.
Ditto others. If you don't feel comfortable then don't post but I bet that the family or whoever is managing it gets some comfort from it or they'd deactivate the acct. I don't know that I'd wish someone a 'happy birthday' but I could totally see making a comment about how you're thinking of them today.
I emailed my dad a few times after he died. It was my way of getting some feelings & things out but of course no one checks the acct, I dont think my mom does, or at least she has never mentioned it.
I think that is increadibly sweet.