I was thinking that January is no good cause that's too close, plus people will have spent a boat load of money during the holidays so you know, less money, smaller gift. (Yeah I know but that is the purpose of the baby shower right? Otherwise I'd buy everything myself)
In December I'd have to do it like the first week so that it doesn't run too close to the holidays and again people haven't spent too much yet. However, the first weekend of December DH and I have our yearly tree trimming party where we invite all our friends and family to come and help us trim the tree. It's become a tradition since we bought our condo. People look forward to it all year, me included and we don't want to skip it this year as we hope to be in a new home and it would serve as our house warming.
So then what November? Before turkey day? Is that too early? It sounds like it. But then maybe that would be a blessing in disguise?? I wouldn't be HUGE and it will be easier to find something to wear and I'll probably be less exhausted. What do you ladies think?
Re: If you're due mid February when do you have a shower?
Whatever works for you and the hostess I would guess. Early to Mid-November is a *tad* early but if that is what works best for you, and you can guarantee the best attendance then, go for it. People get so busy close to the holidays. Just asking, but is your annual tree trimming get together an official housewarming party where people are expected to bring gifts? I am sure people are stoked for both of your wonderful life changes you are celebrating, but if it were me, I'd be a bit annoyed at having to buy two gifts :P Other people wouldn't care though, that's just what initially went through my head.
For my sisters shower, she was due in October, and we had her shower in June. She was expecting twins and was afraid she'd go into early labor or not enjoy it as much closer to her due date. Good thing too because a month later she was hospitalized for a month then had her twins 6 weeks early! (they're fine now
Naa I wouldn't expect a gift for my tree trimming. Although most people bring a different ornament each year, you can imagine how overloaded my tree is after 5 years of parties! I wouldn't even really call it a house warming, just that most people will see it for the first time then. HOPEFULLY we have the house, if not we will still do it at the condo.
My 2 closest friends and my mom have all chimed in and offered to do the shower. But really it will be a group effort as I don't want to have to charge for it and I don't want them to be burdened with the cost alone so we'll all chip in.
I was due on Feb 12 with my first son, and had the shower the second weekend in Dec.
It is a tricky time of year for sure
I hate to be negative...but this post sounds a bit ridiculous to me. You're concerned about when to have a shower because you don't want people to have recently spent a lot of money...so that they won't be able to buy you a nice gift? Is that the point of a shower? Call me crazy, but I thought it was to be able to celebrate a special event in your life with those close to you. Yes, the gifts are nice and helpful, but it's totally not the point. You also sound like you're trying to do what's most convenient for YOU, not the people planning the party, or your guests. You're sounding a little gift grubby...
Please tell me I'm not the only person who thought this...
Not to mention...no one is goign to go to a housewarming party without bringing a gift...
And you're concerned about what you're going to wear to your shower already? I think you're missing the point....
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I was thinking the same thing. Not like we're to that point yet, but I have been daydreaming a lot about how things will work out. It is likely that DH and I will be moving out of state - away from friends and family in a couple of months.
We want to have the same type of experience, but I don't know. Is it rude to come back home for a baby shower after we move?
I know this will get me flamed - but if not, I am afraid we're going to be screwed in the gift department. (I'm hoping for a shower because this is our first and we will have a lot of financial strain in the next year) Ah well, it will work out.
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Sorry to ask, but how in the heck do you have 2 showers already?
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Yeah - no dates are picked, but I guess I am just a little shocked that it's already been offered at 7 weeks. (although, like I said, I had already been thinking about it)
Oh and a sidenote (since I am full of it today) - if showers were not for gifts, then why is it tradition to only throw showers for first time moms?
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Believe me I was a little shocked too when my friend offered, but she was excited and I thought it was sweet. I hadn't thought about a shower until then, but hey, I'm just enjoying all this as it comes.
And as far as showers being for gifts...uh yeah...anyone who says they aren't is full of it. It's not ALL about the gifts, but considering how much stuff a baby needs it's only natural to get excited about gifts.
Traditionally, you'd do it in January. It's supposed to be about a month before baby comes.
Had you possibly said you didn't want to have it in January because people would have spent a lot of money and you don't want to burden them... cool. But worrying you'll get shafted on gifts is sad.
So... better you have it early and they shaft someone who should have gotten a Christmas gift.
Sigh...
My mom and I were just talking about when my shower should be yesterday! I'm pregnant with twins and due Feb 4. We decided that the first week of November would be a good idea. I think that is week 27 for me. If I were pregnant with 1, I would look into having it the first week of December. I had my bridal shower the first week of December, and most people were able to make it and it worked out well.
When is your due date?
My cousin, who offered to host my shower, asked me the other day about this. We were thinking that the first week of January would probably be a good idea. I'm due 2/12.
And I agree that the sole purpose of a shower is for gifts. That is actually WHY it is called a "shower". So those who care about the mother (or bride) to be can "shower" them with gifts to start the new phase of their life.
We did November for my sister in law (who was due this past mid Feb.) for all the reasons you mentioned... the holidays, plus we had people traveling from PA and we wanted to get it in before the bad snow storms!
Good thing we did because it was a bad winter.
Nobody thought it was weird or had anything to say!
it's pretty easy. IF someone offers to throw you a shower, you pick a date that works for both you AND your hostess.
If she wants to throw it in January, you'll have it in January.
This. The weather in Pa and NJ around that time is so unpredictable, its better to have it earlier so your guests don't have to worry about snowstorms. If this year is anything like last year I don't think I will leave my house!!!
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