My parents never cussed in front of us, never. We were not allowed to say crap until we were teens and even then it was looked down on. Now my best friend was allowed to cuss around her parents at like 10 or maybe even younger, as long as she didn't say something like f**k you to an adult, but she could say stuff like "that's f**cked up" or "oh Sh*t".
I do not want to be as strict as my parents, but I will definitely set boundaries on what can and cannot be said. Of course I cannot control what they say when I am not around, but hopefully, I will lead by example and they will do what is expected of them when I am away. I will not let them be like my friend was...
Re: Will you let your LO cuss?
My parents would cuss in front of us but we weren't allowed to. And still now I don't cuss in front of them.
I don't like DD cussing, and I hope to teach her good manners and she will behave all the time (I'm so naive, I know). But sometimes we think one of her first words she will say is the equivalent of f*** in spanish
My mom was very strict with forbidding it as I grew up.. now I have a bad mouth lol.
I didn't want the same thing to happen with my kids. So my rule is: Once they are 13 and officially a teenager, they can say what they want with their friends. As long as I personally do not hear it, and it's not spoken at school or at future jobs. A time and place for everything. So far it's worked out really well with my teenager.
My friend's kids are allowed to say whatever they want at home, but not in public and not in front of other people. They're the nicest, most respectful kids you'd ever want to meet!
Not sure what I'll do. I'm quite sure my husband won't allow her to curse.
This.
I like this idea.
One of my friends parents let them pick one cuss word they could say each year, starting at 14. So, at 14yo they could say $hit, as appropriate (at home), at 15yo it was $hit and damn, at 16, $hit damn, and biatch. Never Fvck.
It worked pretty well. We'll see how it goes for us. DH and I both have potty mouths, and do little to curb it.
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No but if she does say a swear word, I'm not going to freak out about it. I also won't laugh. I'll probably just say something like "We don't use that word" and let that be the end of it.
Honestly though, I think we give too much power to words. What is that the difference between your child saying "that fvcking hurt" and "that freaking hurt"? They are saying the exact same thing. Just like if Natalie says to me "shut up" or "shut the hell up" she's getting punished either way. If I didn't think people would give me major side eye then I probably wouldn't have a problem with Natalie saying a swear word here and there.
It will be fine when she's old enough (teenager) and only says it in a "proper" context (if there is such a thing lol).
I was allowed to curse in front of my mom only. I was a very respectful kid and still am now. I know the right place and time to use them.
I don't get the big deal. Forbidding it is just going to add to the appeal. The kids that weren't allowed to speak their minds were the ones that ended up having the worst mouths.
This. My H and I don't swear either.