WWYD? re: induction and DH
CaitlinJ22
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So I had contrax all day when I was 36w3d. They had to stop them, and not sure if it was going to work, DH came home from the rig a week early.They stopped.
His normal schedule is 3 wks on 3 wks off. He was scheduled to come home the 4th and take off 4 wks, and then go back. Well he came home a week before that and so now his 4 wks takes him to June 24th---3 days after my EDD. He can try to take 5-7 more days off (they only travel out there on certain days), but its a matter of pay. We do have some money saved, but I dont want to stretch it.
I had DS at 39 w 2 d. Went into labor on my own. When I did, they gave me a little pit to get things going stronger. Well then DS's HR went down and they stopped it and let me go on my own. I didnt want to rush anything, but I really want DH home for 1-2 wks after i have DD. I will have my mom here for 12 days, but thats it. Then DH goes back to work for 3 wks, and I am alone with 2 kids (no family around).
My OB offered to induce me at 39w2d if I want. I REALLY dont want to mess with nature, but I also REALLY want DH home for a little after she is born. If they induce me it'll be on the 16th, and he'll be home a total of 8 days, and that includes my hospital stay.
would you go for the induction, or wait and hope baby comes the same time as last time??
FWIW I have dilated from a fingertip and 80% last week to 1-2 this week...I know that doesnt mean much. I am having contrax on and off and lots of pressure. I am also planning on trying reflexology to see if it works (the therapist here has had 35 sucessful inductions.)
Re: WWYD? re: induction and DH
If it were me, I'd do the induction and have DH there for the extra time. Personally, I'm really looking forward having the time with DH when our LO comes. I'm sure others will differ, but to me it's important to have that time to bond as a family.
Good luck with whatever decision you make!
I would be induced. There is no way I would go through child birth on my own if I had the option to induce so my DH could be there with me.
I'm very strongly anti-induction personally, but this is a tough situation. Honestly, the thought of giving birth and being on my own with a newborn without my husband scares me to death, even though I know people have to do it all the time. Considering you'll be over 39 weeks, I think it would be fine for you to go ahead and be induced, especially since you're already dilated some.
However, can you start the process with less intense methods of induction, such as stripping membranes a couple of days before to see if that kick starts natural labor? Or, start on a low dose of pitocin?
I think this might be one of the few situations I'd be ok with inducing a little early.
Ditto pp that suggested some alternative methods, which I think you're already considering. I'd also want to know my Bishop's score and the likelihood of a successful induction w/o c-section.
I face a similar situation: schedule an induction or risk DH missing the birth b/c of his work/travel schedule. And I have similar concerns about induction interfering with the natural process.
I plan to learn a little more from my doc about induction and then talk it over with DH. It's still early for us to decide-- an the possibility of a c/s isn't ruled out either for medical reasons-- but we are leaning toward induction.
Love, luck, and prayers to my BFPB Dr. SnowflakeBride
This. I would want DH there if at all possible. And he would want to be there as well.
I had my membranes stripped last week and a few days later i dilated more. So it helped some. I plan on sex, reflexology and just trying to relax to see if I can get the baby going (im very tense bc of this situation).
I highly doubt ill end up with a c/s since im favorable and I had DS already vaginally. We'll see. i would have to be dragged into the OR if that was the case.
Thanks for the advice ladies. Lets just hope I go earlier than the 16th, if not ill go for the induction.
I'm in a similar situation as well. My DH is starting a fellowship across the country 2 weeks before my due date. I'll be following him out there two months after the baby is born, but for now I'm not going anywhere. Luckily, he's able to take off a week whenever I go into labor to fly home, but there's no guarantee he'll make it in time for the delivery. I'm pretty terrified of doing it without him (I'm the type of person who just wants him in the room, not even my mom). This all might be irrelevant since at 35 weeks LO is still breech so a scheduled c-section might be in my future, although I really would like to avoid that.
Whatever decision you make has to be the right one for you and your family, and for me having DH there for the delivery and the week following would be so important. Especially since LO will already be 39 weeks. Good luck!