WDYT?
No offense to anyone who does this but I always find it a little weird when people do thinks like choose "CharliesMomma" as their SN on websites or have a FB profile pic that is of their child only. Have your kid IN the picture if you want but you don't cease to exist because you're a parent. Now I don't have kids so who knows, maybe I'll change that way but I always felt the same way about pets and when I got my dog I didn't start putting her pic as my FB profile picture either. And my u/s pic is not my profile pic either. It happens to be a picture of me with a baby bump.
Does anyone else think it's weird when parents seem to lose their identity when they have kids? Or will I overnight become "Brendan's Mom" (or whatever the eff we name him ha ha) once LO is born?
Re: WDYT?
As an "older" mom to be - I'll be 41 in August - I'm in complete agreement with you. I think most people will say, "Oh! You're Stacey's daughter" rather than the other way around.
I completely agree. It is a pet peeve of mine to put your child's picture as your profile pic on FB.
It is YOUR profile, put a picture of YOU as the profile picture!
The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.
I agree with the PP who say that adding a child to your life is "expanding" your identity, not replacing it.I own my own business and I am the face of that business and having a child will not change that. It can't -- not if I intend to support my child!
Personally, I wouldn't put my baby's picture up on the internet (no, not even the so-called "privacy" of facebook, especially with their abhorrent privacy record!) This is also why I don't have my own picture on my profile. I'm too much of a privacy freak. Yes, I know that if someone REALLY wants to find out my identity they can put together all my posts and all the different things I've said and probably figure out who I am, but... I'm doing the best I can. But to each his own. I know people in my industry that use their children for promotional purposes an they do so very wisely and well, and I respect that. But I am undecided on this -- and my husband, who is even more of a privacy freak than I, gets a say in that as well. What I really don't want to do is post anything about my child that becomes permanent record on the internet and that her classmates can use to ridicule her with later.
I'm torn on this topic....on the one hand, I totally agree that my identity should always remain Monica. It bugs me when people refer to me as "_____'s wife" or Mrs. Husband'sFirstName LastName. I'm not Mrs. "John Smith." I'm Monica! Same with being a mom - I'm not Gabi's mom, I'm Monica!
However. The pride you feel in your child is beyond anything I imagined and so sometimes, yes, I have my FB profile pic as a pic of my DD. Yet, I would never have my screen name be "Gabi'sMommy" or any other sort of variation. My identity is still me, Monica - who happens to also be a Mommy.
If any of that makes sense...