Sex... OWWWCH! Why?

carpozi · May 2010

So sex hasn't been that comfortable for awhile, keeps feeling like there's less and less space in there for the last 2 months. But yesterday was finally tried it (after a 3 week hiatus from busy schedules) and OMG it was so uncomfortable I could barely stand it. I tried to relax and breathe... and I know DH is pretty large (both length and width) but I couldn't even do it without being in so much pain! It felt like the "hole" thing had closed up and there was about 1 inch of room in there! Also - we tried many positions to see if that would help, to no avail.

Anyone else? Is this normal? How do you keep doing it throughout the rest of the pregnancy (I'd like to if it didn't hurt so much) What causes this?

saturdaynightdoubletree · May 2010

Not sure, but it's worth bringing up to your doctor if you want to continue having sex throughout your pregnancy. GL!

VABride2008 · May 2010

I find the more frequently we have sex, the easier it is. Maybe try some lube?

mommashannon · May 2010

so missonary and on top are no nos for me, they hurt me soo bad. Well I have sucessfully had sex twice now that I could bare!! Ok so I dont know the name of sex positions very well...so try to paint a picture... DH will need to be on his side facing you. You will need to put the leg that is closest to DH over top of him (on his hipish area) put your other leg in between his leg... and ta da! So you'll kind of be in an "x" shape?? Sorry if you couldnt understand... I dont know what the heck its called

stephanieroyer · May 2010

i have given up on sex for the remainder of this pregnancy lol. its hurts very much. DH is quite large in that area as well and im not..so it always took a few minutes to get "settled" anyways, but since getting the belly i feel like it hurts and im just biting my tongue until its over, and i havent gotten any pleasure from it in a while. and afterwards i feel sore and almost swollen. so from here on out DH will have to settle with other things because it just aint workin anymore. but if it does help you for a while it was the most comfortable if i laid on my back over the edge of the bed and he stood and entered that way...thats stopped working now for us too tho haha

danienross · May 2010

sex has always been painful for me pre-pregnancy but towards the end of hubby's deployment i finally decided to seek treatment. turns out my muscles/nerves over respond upon penetration. well in the month before conception it had become pretty much pain free, then a couple of days before i tested...bam pain again and it has been painful this entire pregnancy. maybe your hormones just threw your nerves for a loop down there. but i would definitely talk to your doc since you didn't have the problem before.

Randy'sgirl52409 · May 2010

carpozi:

So sex hasn't been that comfortable for awhile, keeps feeling like there's less and less space in there for the last 2 months. But yesterday was finally tried it (after a 3 week hiatus from busy schedules) and OMG it was so uncomfortable I could barely stand it. I tried to relax and breathe... and I know DH is pretty large (both length and width) but I couldn't even do it without being in so much pain! It felt like the "hole" thing had closed up and there was about 1 inch of room in there! Also - we tried many positions to see if that would help, to no avail.

Anyone else? Is this normal? How do you keep doing it throughout the rest of the pregnancy (I'd like to if it didn't hurt so much) What causes this?

I've the same issue. I was able to have semi comfortable sex with DH up until about45 weeks ago.. then we tried in our usual position and it was bearable. I am currently 25 weeks. We just tried again this week and it was a no go! There was nothing I could do to relax myself or get into. It just plain ole hurt. We even tried manual stimulation with his hands/fingers to try to get me to realx and I guess open up and that hurt too. i'm like a closed clam in there I guess. LOL I feel bad for him but am a lucky one because I have a hubby who actually doens't require alot of sex! I was always the sex fiend which stinks because now that I am pregnant I am always horny for him! LOL. It's a no win situation. So I think until the end of this pregnancy I will have to put my teenagish raging hormones on hold! ha ha I think it's all the moving, growing and shifting inside down there that causes this to happen. If you really sit and think about all the internal change your body has gone through it makes sense. Until then buy him some porn! He might love your openmindedness!

thodges080789 · May 2010

DH is such a sex addict and seems like he wants it every night. There are very few nights that are okay and others are like oh no. Last night was horrible. I was crying the whole time and it seemed like he didn't care. He doesn't understand that it hurts me everyway we try.

MissNikki007 · May 2010

thodges080789:
DH is such a sex addict and seems like he wants it every night. There are very few nights that are okay and others are like oh no. Last night was horrible. I was crying the whole time and it seemed like he didn't care. He doesn't understand that it hurts me everyway we try.

Do what now?? Um, that's just wrong.

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