Considering I have had a ton of drama with my hostess and her freaking out over the RSVP's, I was wondering what RSVP means to all of you.
Too me, it means I RSVP whether I am coming or not. What does it mean to you? RSVP only if you are coming, RSVP only if you are not or do you RSVP one way or the other? TIA
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To me it means whether you are coming or not. Most people wait till the last minute or totally forget.
It drives me a bit nuts especially if people show up without calling at all. I worry there won't be enough food, etc. My hostess is acting like she has never thrown a party where people don't RSVP. I am sitting here going, it happens all the time. Plan accordingly, have a few extra favors and a little more food.
This.
I am glad I read this... i though it was only if you were going... or if it said regrets only..
I will start saying for both... Thanks.
In my opinion, definitely RSVP one way or the other. That way the hostess knows for sure you are coming or not and can plan accordingly.
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People in arkansas can not grasp the concept of RSVP. Not only do they not tell you if they're coming, they don't tell you they're bringing 10 friends. It's rare to even see a RSVP in an invite around here.
Oh man....that must be hard. You have a party planned for 25 and you have to plan for 75 coming.
RSVP means "reply, please" and that means let someone know either way. It's important so the host/ess knows how much food and drink to provide.
Ugh, I hate how slack the world has become with manners and social graces.
I agree 100%! I had about 12 invitees fail to respond to our wedding invitations FFS... unbelievable. It's so rude to not respond to an invitation at all!
Where I am from there are two ways to do it
RSVP means, respond either yes or no,
RSVP, regrets only, are for only "no".
If the event is very food dependent and need a head count, then RSVP is used. if it is a generic event, then the 'regrets only ' is typical to see
RSVP actually stands for the french expression of "please respond" - it's true meaning is that you should respond whether you're coming or not (I learned that from Dear Abby...) BUT so few people seem to understand it these days. Most people only send positive RSVPs, which can be really frustrating.
For both my wedding and baby shower, I ended up calling or emailing a bunch of non-responders anyway just to make sure. Lots of people also did things like tell me or a relative that they were coming but not the actual hostess (?!). So, generally people are clueless, and you can assume you or your hostess will be making some calls either way
Also, for anyone who hasn't sent out their invites yet, I strongly encourage putting an RSVP date on the invite, it gives you a solid time after which you can start to make calls, and helps spur people to let you know in a timely manner.
RSVP = Respondez Sil Vous Plat (sorry if I misspelled the French there)
In other words, respond Yes, I'll be there! or So sorry I'll miss it! That is unless the invite says 'Regrets Only' or something to that effect. I rarely see those though. I hate when people don't RSVP. Pet peeve of mine.
My hostess did this and supposedly 3 people RSVPd out of 25 by the deadline. IDK. I ended up calling or emailing people to get an answer. I tried to tell people to call the hostess and let her know that they were coming but I don't think they did. I ended up telling her people were coming, they RSVPd to me and that pissed her off even more.
this exactly. for my shower, if we didnt get an rsvp, we assumed the person wasnt coming. i think we only had 1 person show up who didnt rsvp.
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