Attachment Parenting
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How would you explain this to my husband?
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LO is very attached to me (which is great! ;-)
He claims I've spoiled her since I've always used a Moby wrap when we're out and about. He thinks this is why she always just wants me / freaks out when other people hold her and when I leave to the room.
I've been interested in getting a wrap since the Moby is not going so good now that she's heavier and he thinks it's a bad idea.
I don't know how to convince him since it is true she isn't exactly a "social" baby ;-)
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SAHM to two sweet girls, both born at home; Baby #3 in 2013!
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Re: How would you explain this to my husband?
She is probably having separation anxiety.
https://www.babycenter.com/0_separation-anxiety_145.bc
separation anxiety is a completely normal phase for infants. it can be anxiety at being away from the primary or both parents. or it can be anxiety when being around any new caregiver/person.
even at 1 year old, it took DD 1 week to get comfortable with her new classroom teachers at daycare when she switched rooms. your LO needs time to become familiar with the other people.
I've read before that biologically from an evolution standpoint it makes sense because it usually happens when LO is becoming more mobile. so it's kind of nature's way of keeping the LO close to you (as in, they won't tolerate you being far away) just at the time when their motor skills are kicking in and they have the ability to get into trouble if left alone - like crawling somewhere. kind of interesting.
wearing her when you are out and about has nothing to do with it.
regular babywearing has nothing to do with spoiling. trust me, the LO will let you know when they are ready to be put down and explore on their own.
Think about how frazzled she would be if she needed this closeness and she hadn't gotten it all these months.
You don't "toughen-up" a baby. You either meet their needs or you don't.
And if you don't, you have a miserable, crying insecure child. Not one that suddenly finds social skills and loves strangers and being apart from their caregiver. The social skills come after they have secure bonds and trust.
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