So I KNOW DH will obviously be there... and I've decided to have my mom in there (not sure if we'll ask her to leave for the actual pushing or not- since that is something DH and I would like to be just the two of us).... but we can have one other person in the room with us.
We won't be able to have any visitors OTHER than DH and these 2 other people (my mom and one other if I should so choose) until ~2-3 hours after the baby is born and we're moved to our room. So that's a long wait for a lot of people.....
Among those considered:
1) Just me, DH and my mom (with her leaving when pushing)
2) me, DH, my mom, and my MIL (with both leaving when pushing)
3) me, DH, my mom, and my BFF (with both leaving when pushing)
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Re: Clicky Poll: Delivery Room??
I plan on just having my DH in the delivery room. I don't have a MIL, but I think if you have your mom in there I am guessing your MIL would be upset because she couldn't be too.
If you want to avoid hurt feelings, I would just vote you and DH.
If you want to make everyone happy, I would have your mom and MIL in there too...but it is your choice and only my observation.
Good luck!!
DS - 5/2010
DD - 6-2013
TTC #3 - Cycle #9
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I voted my mom & DH. I would NOT be comfortable with my MIL there.
I wouldn't mind having my SIL or BFF (who is like a sister), but I don't want both of them, and I don't want to choose between them. They'll come in during early labor before things get crazy and then after he's born.
My husband will definitely be in the room as I deliver. My Mom I'd like to be there, she has been in the room for 15 births, but she's a flight attendant and we don't know if she can be there.
Everyone else can wait.
Totally disagree. My mom birthed me and is my MOM, not my MIL. I LOVE my MIL but she has zero reason to be in the room when I'm pushing/delivering. My MIL would never expect to be allowed in anyways.
I didn't respond to the poll because I'm not sure if we're going to have my mom in there with us or not. She's traveling from far away, so if she makes it in time for the delivery, I think she would really appreciate being allowed in. No one else though.
We just found out that we can have 5 ppl (including DH) in the room prior to pushing & 3 ppl (including DH) in the room while pushing. Right now, DH & my mom are the only ones that will be in there.
I'm thinking I might OK my dad to come in for a bit to hang out & keep mom & DH company but he'll be kicked out before pushing starts!
DH and my mom will be there with me, for labor and delivery.
Our hospital only allows two support persons. It does end up being two or three hours before everyone else gets to join us, as our hospital gives us an hour alone with the baby in the L&D room before moving us to our recovery room, where we can have visitors. I'm pretty sure visitors can see the baby in the nursery as she gets cleaned, but they won't be able to hold her until she's brought to our room. (I vaguely remember DH taking my in-laws to see DD in the nursery while I was being wheeled to my recovery room, but that part was a bit of a blur. lol.)
When DD was born, I had DH and my mom with me through L&D. I was induced with pit, but had no other drugs so I needed the support in labor. My mom is an L&D nurse and she was super helpful, especially during pushing when DH started to lose some color in his face
This time, I hope to have my mom and DH again with me. My mom lives 2.5 hours away though and won't be coming down in advance unless I end up having to be induced again. Hopefully she will make it down in time to help me through the labor again.
This time it will be just me and DH. For my daughter, it was DH, my Mom and my Dad, and they were there for the whole thing It was not planned for my Dad to be there for the pushing part, but things happened rather quickly. DD was posterior (face up instead of face down) so I wasn't dialating, even though I was having steady contractions.. Once they got her to flip, I was all of a sudden at 10 and had the urge to push and he didn't have time to get out of the room. He just stayed up by my head, so I was fine with that. In all honesty, while I was pushing, the entire United Nations could have been in the room with me and I wouldn't have noticed or cared...I just wanted them to get the baby out!
The reason it is only me and DH this time is simply because my Mom and Dad will be watching DD...she is not quite 3 yet (will be 3 in June), so while she can visit me during the early stage of labor, she is too little to be in there for very long.
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Since I have to have a c-section, I will be experiencing it all alone. My husband will be busy keeping our 5-year-old daughter occupied in the waiting room.
I would like two people in the room.. I didn't want to make the non-chosen mom (my mom or mom-in-law) feel bad, so I am starting a new tradition... I'll have my husband and the godmother of the child in the room. I was a bit worried what the future prospective godmoms would think (grossed out, felt obligated), so I had to ask all 4 possible gm's if they would even be interested in that. My mom would have been too hyper through it all anyway, so I think it will work out for the best! She did claim the back-up role in case anything happens, just like she has for every doctor appointment I've had so far:)
We have an enormous family ALL locally, so we'll be packing the waiting room at the hospital when little one comes. The hospital and dr. have been really accomodating to visitors with my brother's kids in the past, so everyone getting to see baby once she arrives is a non-issue for us. After my SIL's c-sections we had 10 people in the recovery room at a time!
For my son's birth I had my husband, my mom and my dad! I know it sounds weird and it wasn't actually the original plan, but it just kind of happened! He came after I had my epidural (don't think he would have stuck around if he had seen the pain I had been in before) and the rest happened pretty quickly so he ended up staying through the delivery.
It was actually very special: my son was the first grandbaby and he's also named after my dad! I never would have planned to have him there, but I'm really glad I did!
On a sidenote, if you have someone besides your DH there, they can be in charge of snapping pictures so that DH can just be there with you and the baby! We have incredible pictures because of that!
For this baby I'll be having my DH and mom again, and my MIL, if she can make it in time (my dad will be watching my son, who is his best bud!). I've found I really appreciate having the support of my loved ones there with me, and it's also an incredible once-in-a-lifetime gift to give to those closest to you.
There were about 5 nurses and 2 doctors in there when I delivered too (I had some complications) so it was sure a full house! I was pretty much oblivious to all the commotion though!