3rd Trimester
gift for DH on day LO born
anyone planning on doing this/done this is the past? if so, please share some ideas! i have such a horrible time coming up with gifts for DH on any occasion and with the baby coming, we're trying to keep huge expenses to a minimum. however, i'd still like to get him something "nice" to commemorate the birth of his first son (but it won't be a tag like i wish it could be).
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Re: gift for DH on day LO born
I am giving my husband a beautiful baby boy. That is gift enough.
I feel the same way about a "push present". This baby will also be my gift. And I don't see the point in spending money on each other at a time when we really need to focus finances on our new baby.
I bought DH a 'big' book (all you other teachers out there know what I mean) which will be from Kayleigh. It's title is 'I Love You, Daddy!' It cost me all of $3 (if that). I thought it was cute.
Last time, I bought DH a book -- "I Love You Through and Through" -- and signed it to him and DD1. I think I gave him another book but can't remember. This time I bought "How Do I Love You?" and plan to sign it to DH and DD2. I chose both those books because the titles and stories work for both DH and our girls. Plus I don't think you can ever have enough children's books!
Bwahahaha! This made me laugh!
I'm giving my DH a baby as well.
He has told me that my "push present" is going to be a black eye for driving him nuts over the past 9 months. (He's kidding, obviously.) He's been great and I've been, well, a spaz. And an ultra-whiny spaz at that. His patience amazes me. I deserve two black eyes, lmao.
i found a cute poem to give him...i'm just printing it on my printer! lol. i may go to the dollar store and put it in a frame...but that depends on how i feel!
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LO will be present enough. I did, however, get him a cross necklace for Christmas from LO. It is white gold with a small diamond, and on the back it says Love, Ella. Very simple and he adores it!
I would suggest a watch and maybe have the back engraved with "All our love - (your name) & LO's name(s)."
It's something he'll have forever but he doesn't have to tell his beer drinking buddies about the mushy saying on the back.
I second the watch idea (it's actually what DH is getting me). Doesn't matter what pricepoint--it's the idea behind the watch itself. This is a time when your lives change forever. A time when you become a family, instead of just a couple. And every time he looks at "the time," he'll think of you and of the moment your child came into the world. You can engrave baby's name and his/her time of birth on the back--VERY special.
My husband? I'm getting him a necklace/chain to hold his wedding ring--he's a surgeon, so he takes it off every day in the hospital, and he wants to keep it on his body. I'm going to have a dog tag-like charm engraved with all 3 of our sets of initials in a tic-tac-toe pattern, so it's not super obvious what it says. The charm will catch the ring when he slides it over the chain.
And will people get OVER the push present debate? I LIKE to give presents. I give them all the time, to all sorts of people. I don't know why it rubs people the wrong way. If you don't like them, don't do it! In my family, it's a tradition.
The "Push Gift" thing is not new; it's more common for some people than others. It's even discussed in "Girlfriends Guide to Pregnancy", "Dad's Pregnant, Too", among others. I've mostly seen it in reference to the sig-o giving the gift to the mother, not the other way around.
That being said, it's not for everyone. Like many have said here, the baby is the gift and gift enough! But for others, it's a symbolic gesture of thanks to commemorate a huge occasion, and maybe something that becomes an heirloom that can be given to the baby when he's old enough, for his/her 18th birthday, whatever. It doesn't have to be expensive (watch, ring, vacation), but rather something personal and meaningful.
And, I don't think it makes a person materialistic to give a gift as long as the thought and intent are genuine. But that's just me.