Baby Showers
Babyshower for a 2nd pregnancy
I am curious if having a baby shower for my second pregnancy is ok... My sister wants to plan one and I just do not want people to think we are greedy.
We have a (almost 3 year old) boy and are now expecting a girl. Most of the things we need we have been buying ourselves. It would be nice to have a few extras like diapers, and possibly some of the bigger items like car seat and sit n stand stroller.
Let me know what you think and your experiences... thank you!
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Re: Babyshower for a 2nd pregnancy
I've never seen one IRL. A shower celebrates a woman's transition to motherhood, which only happens once.
You can certainly celebrate, though, with a "Meet The Baby" party after the birth or a no-gifts get-together.
Your sister offered and if it's somewhat "done" in your area/group - I'm not going to out and out say this is wrong.
However, I agree- keep it SMALL. Immediate family and your CLOSEST friends only. The people who you may know would gladly love to come to a small gathering in your honor.
Or, as Roxy suggested, have a "Meet the Baby" party afterwards.
In the end, I always give a gift for a new baby the first time I meet the baby. So.... having a shower/sprinkle where I'm basically told to bring a gift - I dont' see it as necessary. I'm going to give them something no matter what.
And that's what I feel most peopel do anyhow, and why I just feel additional showers aren't necessary.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
You are definitely ok to have another baby shower. Especially since its now a girl! And it's been 3 years... it is definitely ok!
This. I was going to suggest a diaper and wipes party. People will inevitably bring pink outfits, too.
We had a "sprinkle" for my girlfriend when she got pregnant with her second. I agree that if you keep it small and low key it's not a bad idea. We had a few friends meet her out for lunch and surprised her with some gifts but an in house brunch or something would be nice too!
I say go for it!
This.
Meet the baby parties are awesome.
My baby is two!!! Baby girl 9/17/09
My other baby is still a baby! Baby Boy 11-30-11
This.
But you know you're group and if they're going to be bothered by it. Has any one else in your family had a 2nd shower before? Ask a few close relatives what they think.
Go for it.
I don't think it is a huge deal based on what your circle/region does, but people generally do not buy large gifts for second babies, so if you are expecting/wanting bigger items, you probably won't get them.
From what I have seen, unless your children are WAY far apart, you will end up with lots of clothes and maybe the diapers.
In our area, unless the second (or more) child is spaced far apart, you have a sprinkle for the 2nd - so necessities - diapers and such.
I'm pregnant with my second - but it's my husband's first, and my first is 7 years old. So we have no baby things at all. Any baby things I had (or maternity for that matter!) I have given away to foster children and social services.
so it all depends on your circumstances. Just like my husband and I didn't register for our wedding when we got married - we both had houses, and we joined everything - so we didn't really need anything. With this baby, we need everything!