2nd Trimester
Will anyone be in the waiting room when you deliver LO?
I am only having DH in the delivery room, but I'm wondering if any of you will have parents, siblings, grandparents, friends, etc in the waiting room while you are in labor or delivering.
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Re: Will anyone be in the waiting room when you deliver LO?
I hope not.
All of our parents are OOT
I think my IL's and my Mom will be there, and I really really hope that my bff will be there. She's like my sister - bff for about 18ish years - and we've been through alot. I want her in the delivery room, but DH says no. We're placing bets as to what point he runs to the waiting room to get her though! lol
what about you?
For the delivery room itself, DH & my mom will be with me.
As for your original question, I'm not going to ask anyone to hang out in the waiting room. I figure if they want to come, they're welcome to wait there.
My only reason for not asking people to come is because you don't know how long you'll be in L&D. Some people it's very fast, some it takes a long time. I don't want mine to take a long time & have people waiting around forever.
Evelyn (3.24.10), Graham (5.30.13) & Miles (8.28.16)
My parents will probaby come when we let them know I'm in labor. They live about 4 hours away so it's not a really big deal. They will meet the baby, make sure everybody is ok, and then return for a visit a few days (or a week) later.
DH and I only in the delivery room though.
It's going to be just DH and I in the delivery room, but I think my parents and maybe my aunt and uncle will be in the waiting room. DH's parents live in PA, but if they'd like to come down and be in the waiting room, they're welcome. I don't care how many people in the waiting room, but no one but DH and me in the delivery room.
Nope we don't live near any family due to military and it will only be dh, myself and our doula in the room with us.
To those unsure of who will be in the room with you I would suggest checking with your L&D what their policies are. At my hospital I can only have two but you can rotate people. Some hospitals don't allow you to rotate or only allow so many people etc. So check with them before you make any plans.
The OP is asking who will be in the waiting room, not the delivery room.
Evelyn (3.24.10), Graham (5.30.13) & Miles (8.28.16)
To my chagrin I am sure the waiting room will be filled w/ "our people". I'd rather just call them once LO is born & so would DH, but they would be SUPER offended & hurt if we didn't want them to camp out to support us. My SIL set a bad precedent for me b/c she had a very long labor & wanted everyone in the room while she was laboring & wanted waiting room overnight campouts, etc. So now we look like the evil ones if we don't at least call them while I'm in labor b/c they are all local except my dad who is flying in. Only DH in the room w/ me though. No exceptions.
DD1 born 5/24/10.
Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.
DD2 born 5/14/13.
Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.
I have a big family with lots of sisters that want to be involved in the process. They live about an hour away.
I've told them that they're welcome to come visit while I'm in labor or after the baby is born, but to be prepared for me to kick them out to the waiting area if I get cranky or need privacy.
[oh, and definitely check the hospitals policy. My hospital isn't allowing any extra visitors except for husbands/partners during flu season. We can't even tour the ward right now]
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The plan so far is not to notify anyone that I'm in L&D. Mainly, I don't want my mom to be in the waiting room. I know how she is, and she'd be overly worried about what would be going on. I don't want to put her through that anxiety. And she's probably would want to come in and check on me every now and then, which would probably add to my nerves. It wouldn't be a big deal if I knew the delivery would be quick; but who knows how long its going to take. Maybe I'll change my mind when I'm in the midst of the whole thing.
It might sound a little callous of me to want it this way, but I think it would be best for not only my sanity, but DH's and family's as well. I would rather just call her once baby arrives and let her know that she's a grandmother and come visit. At least it will be painless for her!
I was induced with DS and I had a whole waiting room full of people waiting to see us both after I delivered. It was just immediate family, but I loved that they were there.
And no, I didn't mind seeing everyone after I delivered (even after my induction, pushing, hemorrhaging, passing out, and remaining on Pitocin for 4 hours after delivery.) But I'm very close to my family.
In the actual room, it was DH, my mom, and my sister (last minute thing.)
Carter Robert 7.18.08 | Brynn Sophia 5.24.10 | Reid Joseph 9.10.12 | Emerson Mae 1.27.14
For the delievery room, just DH. But for the waiting room, I know that my BF will be there. I am guessing that my in-laws will be there even though they live out of town. I wouldn't mind other friends being there, but I do hope that they wait until the next day to show up.
It depends on time of day and whether it happens during spring break or not since my SIL is a teacher and my stepdaughter and neice are in school.
Most likely my mom, MIL, and FIL will be in the waiting area if no one else. ONLY DH will be allowed in the delivery room!
All of my family lives at least a 2.5 hr drive away, so if it's a quick delivery (please, God!) then they might arrive after LO is already born. I can't imagine anyone else but my parents and DH parents being there and they will stay in the waiting room unless I ask for my mom (I know won't be asking for anyone else). My DH probably won't be in the room the whole time, but I want him to at least stay outside the door. He's my "bouncer" lol.
Oh, and this is kind of weird, but I work in the hospital where I'm giving birth, so my co-workers will probably be in and out occasionally or at least calling up to the room for updates. I really don't mind b/c they're all nurses and most all are mothers. In fact, a couple work in Infection Prevention and I told them that their job is to stand at the door with my bouncer to make sure everyone performs hand hygiene upon entering the room!!
delivery room just me, dh and medical staff
waiting room: most likely both of our parents.
this!!!