Every year it's a constant battle with DH's family trying to get them to set up a time to have everyone over for T-giving, and X-mas. DH dad is remarried to a woman with two daughters that live about two hours away and it always seems like we have to go by their schedule, noone ever calls and asks us what we have going on! We don't have anything to do with my "real" MIL, so thankfully that is not an issue. This year, my mom and dad are having lunch at 1, I specifically told DH this and told him I want to eat with them this year because last year I made his family the entire dinner at our house. Whoevers family calls the time, that's usually how we all plan it, it's easier that way for all of us. He wants to eat with his family, and doesn't think it's fair he has to eat with my parents this year and then spend the REST of the day with his family, who BTW he can't stand half of them. I think it's only fair since last year was his turn and so was Christmas! Am I wrong? When I suggested we spend it seperate he got all pissy and upset. I don't know what to do. I am beginning to not like the Holidays at all, and used to Thanksgiving was my absolute favorite Holiday of the year, not anymore
Re: I'm beginning to dislike the holidays..
for the same reasons you just described, we do not do thanksgiving in my house anymore, nor with either one of our families.
It's not like you are asking him to not see his family at all on that day. I don't think he is being fair. Last year the holiday was spent with his family - this year you guys should get to eat with your family. He is saying that it's not fair - but his solution is not fair to you either.
Sorry you are upset... hopefully DH will come around.