3rd Trimester
MrsButterfly_Brooks
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Lets get personal...
MrsButterfly_Brooks
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How's your intimate life these days??? Are the behind bedroom doors activities still going on??? Just curious.. DH and I have always had a really good intimate relationship, and we still do to a point. I understand the big belly and changes in my appearance are/could be a hinderence.. It just seems like I've been catching DH looking at naughty stuff online, etc. more than usual.. I'm not one to really care, Men will be men, but sheesh.. I've told him that it kinda hurts my feelings because I feel that I can't satisfy him right now, so he looks at other women. He says thats not so...I guess I was just wanting some reassurance, is this normal?
TIA
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Re: Lets get personal...
Ever since the belly popped, mine has not even tried, even on our vacation last week. When i had a little belly, we were ok, but now that it's OUT THERE, i think he's freaked. I finally got him to admit that he sees me now as more of a "vessel of life" rather than sex object. I've tried to explain that i'd like to be both. So we're working on that. He's on the computer a lot, but i kind of don't want to know if he's checking out ladies because i know it would really hurt my feelings.
I have never really been into it. I can go for a month without and it doesn't bother me. DH was at least once a week so I would give it up to him. This was before BFP. We have done it about 7 times since BFP and DH doesn't ask much because he knows that I'm really really not in the mood because I have felt like poo since 6 weeks. I am finally starting to feel better so he has been asking more lately. I gave in last weekend and will probably have to again this weekend.
I have found the lube left by the bed. I asked him if he needed more lovin' and if I wasn't be attentive enough, (we are still are active but way less than before). It is getting pretty uncomfortable for me now that I am so huge and can't move very well. I am going to keep going at it till we can't because we will have at least 6 weeks after the baby of no naughty time and my mom will be here too so he will have little "lube" time as well lol.
My DH likes to take the edge off before he goes to work sometimes. Since I'm not awake early in the morning anymore to help him out (I'm a teacher and taking this year off to have LO), he looks at stuff on the internet. I don't care at all. I get to sleep, and sex is a lot more difficult and uncomfortable for us lately anyway. I'm physically uncomfortable, and he's worried about making me uncomfortable. I'm sure that, like my DH, your DH would rather be messing around with you, but until that baby is out, it's a lot easier to look at porn.
To answer your first question, yes, we still have sex, but it's a challenge to find a position that's comfortable. We usually have intercourse for a while for the intimacy part, but when it comes to us actually getting off, it's oral sex to the rescue! It's just too uncomfortable for me to have DH do the vigorous thrusting he needs to do to finish, and of course I can't finish if I'm uncomfortable. Sometimes we just watch each other masturbate. I can't wait to have this baby out and be able to have normal sex again!
I'm such a dude. I find myself looking at porn online more than DH.
We each have our needs but it is getting hard to do it together, so we tend to do it seperately. I can't wait for about 6 weeks from now though!!!
DH has been bribing me with his "cervix thinning" capabilities a lot recently. You should have seen his face when they told us that in our L&D class--he was like a kid on Christmas morning!
DD 10/31/09 - BFP 3/22/11 M/C confirmed 4/9/11 at 8w4d - BFP 10/5/11 EDD 06/16/11
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We were doing that everyday until I got a job out of state, then I'd only see him on the weekends, but we'd still make time for it everyday I was there. It was only when I started dialating at 35 weeks that it started to cause issues. Now I can't travel to see him, so the situation is a little different, but I don't think we'd be doing that particular activity now anyways. (i'm 3-4cm dialated and 38 weeks) I've read that it's ok to continue until you go into labor, but it just makes us both nervous and uncomfortable to think about it. It is hard to deal with being so big though, because he is still in college and I know there's all sorts of skinny, non-pregnant girls running around and I just kinda feel like a puffy penguin with a basketball for a gut. If you are into it, maybe you can look at it with him? Or maybe take that as a signal to initiate some intimate time? Maybe you should just ask more probing questions to find out what he wants/ what stimulates him now.