3rd Trimester
marital problems while pregnant
please tell me i'm not the only one
you so don't have to go into details, but it's like you would think this would be a wonderful time in your life, but it's so not that way...
just having a little pitty party
at least i see my therapist tonight 
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Re: marital problems while pregnant
Pregnancy can induce a lot of stress on a relationship. A new baby can bring on even more stress. I hope things work out and start looking up better before the baby arrives so you both can concentrate on the new baby and new family.
Stay strong and work together. Good luck.
i'm not married, but my SO and i have had some issues too. mostly in the beginning when we were trying to plan everything out and when i was super hormonal.
i think a little disputing is good in a healthy relationship. it shows that your care enough to fight about it
Ditto, DH and I had a blow out this weekend because I was upset we don't hang out w/any of our friends and it feels like we have no life. His response was pretty much..."Yeah, Duh, your pregnant." I already think back about how stupid it was, but I was seriously upset at the time.
theres been numerous times Ive debated packing up and going to my sister's. But then he does something very nice for me, or I get a good night sleep, and I feel compltely different the next day. I dont know your history, but for me, its mostly hormonal.
Ive got a month left and my DH is JUST NOW starting to realize Im not as capable at doing things as I used to be, which has been extremely frustrating. It took him this long to do a load of laundry and a load or 2 of dishes. But seeing how excited he is now about being a daddy, its all worth it.
I really hope things work out for you, hang in there!
I love that picture with the letters showing the age of your boy..so cute!!
Yeah. Basically I'm a psycho, I hate it.
Also super stressed about money stuff... I mean does he really need to go out to lunch and stop at a gas station for a coke 3 times a day? I'm cutting back as much as I can and putting half my pay check into savings... I take care of all the bills so he doesn't realize what he spends and it's ANNOYING lol.
We're having disagreements about a few baby issues. So, instead of talking about them, we avoid them.
I think it's just a very stressful time. Hope your therapist provides some input.
There have been changes we've had to adjust to since I've been pregnant that have been a little stressful (like me not being "in the mood"...ever) but we knew when we got into this that things would be different.?
That being said, he has been absolutely wonderful about everything and we're more in love than ever. I hope things work out for you.?
That was totally us. DH just couldn't understand how all his little impulse purchases add up. Thankfully, I think he's starting to get the point.
For us, it's been same ole' problems, just a different day. We were going to some intensive counseling but it seems like there's been tons of stuff going on with the baby coming and my hubby's schedule at work has gotten crazy out of control...Hopefully we'll be able to start going back a couple of weeks after she comes...Which reminds me, I need to call our counselor...
I'm sorry you are having some problems. As you can see, lots of us are. It's great that you are seeing a therapist. I have been thinking of seeing one myself and should probably make an appointment soon.
Our problems are basically the ones that we've always had, but being pregnant just makes them worse. Plus, before I was pregnant, I would be able to do things that I wanted to cope, like have a drink, or go on a trip or just lay around drinking coffee and eating crap. But now, even when I'm depressed, I try to eat healthy and exercise.
Some days, I just wish I could take the baby out, just for a day, and then put him back in. *sigh* Or I wish my husband could take over for a little while. Maybe he would understand how i feel.