kids that is, and why? like how did you come to that?
I've always wanted 5, DH has said 3 max... recently he started saying he is leaning toward 2 because he has to take care of the kids about 8-9 hours a day. I get home about 4 and DS is in bed by 7:30 so he feels I have it easier per se... I still want 5, but would settle at 3, I dont know if i could settle with 2 by choice, obviously for health reasons i would...
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this is exactly why he says 3, because either we have a girl within the first 3 or we stop with 3 boys... he was 1 of 4 boys and he says they were awful lol...
2 or 3. Financially I think that's all that we could comfortably afford. Yes, I know it's not all about money but we don't want to be strapped for cash at any point in our lives and we want to have enough left over so that we aren't stressing about money.
I think if #2 is a girl then we'll be more likely to try for a boy with #3.
we just always agreed on 2. just talking one day and asked how many we want and we both said 2, but now that i am thinking the next pregnancy will be the last makes me sad, so who knows - either 2 or 3.
DH and I both want 2. He changed his mind for a while (happy with one) but I really wanted a second child. Partly because my friends who were only children said were lonely and didn't interact with kids as well as friends with siblings and partly because we're older parents and I want ds to have someone to share the burden when we're really old.
My sister definitely has middle sibling syndrome and I definitely don't want that issue- plus the cost of college and other financial aspects- that's why I'd stick with 2 and not 3.
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We talked 2-4 off and on. I had severe pree with #1... I told dh if there were any signs the second time, that would be it. I started showing signs of it late in my 2nd pg (very mild though). then dh moved us to nyc. so for health and $ reasons (private school is EXPENSIVE here)... I say we're done. He still seems to think we'll have a couple more later on down the road. I think he's smokin' a happy pipe. lol. maybe we will be able to adopt a couple one day...although it does make me sad to think I'm done with pg. I just don't think I want to go through another pg worrying about pree popping up. the 1st experience was rough. He didn't want anymore after that delivery (as he remembers the delivery). after ds was an easy breezy pg and delivery, he has a spark for more.
Two. To be honest, I'd be fine with just DD. DH is in his mid-40s and we don't want to have a newborn when he's 50. For financial reasons and for DH's age, I think we'll stop at 2 - though it does make me sad to think I'll only get to be a mom one more time.
It makes me so sad to think that this is it...
but probably 2.
I've always wanted 5, and DH wants 3...so we compromised at 3-4 lol. We have two boys right now, who I adore!, and some days I think a newborn is too much work and we should just stick to the two we have. DH really wants at least 3, so we will try for #3 in a couple of years, and then we'll see from there.
I always wanted a little girl, so we've decided if #3 is a girl, we are done. If it's a boy, we will adopt a girl later on.
we are supposed to start trying for a 2nd in Oct. but after days like today, i am DONE!!!
If your DH is the primary caretaker, I would think if he felt he could not take care of more, that would have to weigh in heavily on the decision to have more.? just my thoughts..
M/C 1/6/10
DH and I both want 2. I want DS to have a sibling. If we had more than 2 I don't think I'd be able to handle being outnumbered.
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I want four (or more!) and DH wants two, so we'll probably compromise and end up with three. But I'll still push for four!
I am one of four, and he is one of three, but he definitely takes a more practical view in terms of finances than I do. Who knows, in a few years, we may find ourselves in a position to provide well for a whole brood of kids.
I would like at least 3. DH would like at least 2. Unfortunately, it depends on money and my age.
Just last week, DH said, "If we were rich, I'd have 5 of them!" I always wanted 5 kids when I was younger. Time and money will probably not allow that. So I'll settle for 3....hopefully! lol.