So far, most people have responded fine when I tell them we're not finding out what the babies are until they're born.
Except 2. Who actually berated me, telling me I wouldn't be able to plan without knowing what they were. One was actually the father of twins.
Really? I mean, get real people! It's not like I'm not buying cribs or any baby supplies - we're just getting neutral big ticket items (which we would do regardless in case we have more children).
So basically the only thing I'm not doing is buying gender specific clothing. And THIS makes me a bad planner? Really?
BTW - this came from the same guy (who has b/g twins) who asked me if fraternal twins can even be the same sex
Re: Since when does not finded out the sexes make me a poor planner?
I didn't even need to read anything other than the post title to say, my thoughts EXACTLY.
But I did read the post, and that guy is an idiot.
Since ultrasounds became routine, and everyone thinks that everyone else should find out the gender, because it will make buying stuff for showers easier.
We were team green until baby decided, that we should know in NO uncertain terms that he was a boy! But we still are not telling anyone else...well except you lucky ladies!
Yeah, sounds like very intelligent advice from a very intelligent man
I would say try your best to avoid throat punching them if you get more comments like this!
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Eh, it goes both ways. Those of us who do plan on finding out get criticized that we are ruining the best days of our lives, etc etc
Opinions are like azzholes...
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I don't get that at all. You can be prepared with necessities! And having gender neutral stuff is good if you want future children! We are not planning to find out this time, and i can still plan. I know a lot of people who didn't find out and they had everything they needed!
How can you possibly be prepared for a baby, much less two unless you know whether or not they like sports or princesses or farm animals or ice cream?!
Oh wait. Preferences come later.
People are idiots.
I found out DD was a girl after she was born. Aside from diapers, I didn't have to go out and buy anything new for her until after she was 3 months old. Poor planning, indeed. And on the bright side, since most everything we got prior to DD's birth was GN, I don't have to do much to prepare for this new LO, either. I'd say that not finding out DD's sex ultimately made me a better planner.
It's really annoying. I am a huge, OCD-like planner and get that response all the time. People, I am PLANNING. I just don't have any desire for my kid to be born in a pink or blue world immediately, and I like surprises. And the gender neutral stuff will be awesome for more kids.
I would be scared of the tech being wrong. I know people this personally happened to. Nooo thanks.
UGH! I don't see why waiting to find out the sex is such a big deal. Get over it people. It's not like I have to have my Childs entire life planned out for them even before they are here! What's there to be prepared for? There's really not much difference between a penis and a vagina.
My Aunt asked me this weekend if I changed my mind yet about finding out the sex. I said why would I?
You're right, people think they need to know. We didnt' share with people with either of our first two even though we found out. My parents didn't want to know so it was fine. My IL's were awful about it and gave us a hard time. We are not planning on finding out this time,but both times before we saw without a tech even telling us-that's how not shy our kids were- so if we find out, we're still not telling anyone.
I went to my BFF's shower and she got so many blankets and clothing and hardly nothing she needed and had registered for, so that really confirmed our decision to not tell with the first one. People tended to stick with the registry since they didn't know what we were having.
Same here.
LOL..seriously.For thousands and thousands and millions of years no one knewbefore hand.
You are fine. Its weird how some people think that their way of thinking is the only way. DH's coworker was pissed that dh was going with me yesterday to find out the sex. He didn't so, why should my dh?
People are so self centered sometimes!
and that guy you mentioned is just an a-hole!
LOL..seriously.For thousands and thousands and millions of years no one knewbefore hand.
You are fine. Its weird how some people think that their way of thinking is the only way. DH's coworker was pissed that dh was going with me yesterday to find out the sex. He didn't so, why should my dh?
People are so self centered sometimes!
and that guy you mentioned is just an a-hole!
Seriously?
This is one of many decisions that is nobody's business but your own
And buying gender neutral is probably smarter, but really hard to do once you know the sex
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Everyone in my family that I have told I want to find out, has said "NO DON'T DO IT. Just because you know the sex doesn't mean you can be better prepared for parenthood!" I'm not taking their advice and maybe next time I won't find out, but I don't think not finding out makes you a bad planner.
to that guy. He sounds like an idiot
OMG that's crazy, I'm not big on surprises, but if I was...... I would defiently wait to find out the sex. Best surprise of your life I think.
People are idiots.
I actually had the opposite problem... 3 of my cousins all have 3 kids. None of them found out the sex, and when we told them we were finding out we were barraged with how could you, you ruin the surprise, that is so wrong, why would you do that, etc. Um, to each his own?
YES!! omg i got this too!!! we're team green and i was told "there is NO WAY you can be prepared if you dont find out"!! And this was coming from another PREGNANT woman! (who obviously is finding out).
I didnt know what to say!! But apparently the color of the crib bedding = TOTALLY PREPARED!! ughhhhhhhhhh