So, I have coworkers (not friends just coworkers) who ask me how much weight I have gained so far. I have put on weight slowly and have remained active so I am not worried and my doc hasn't had the "weight talk" with me yet...notice I said yet! :-) But, I just think it is rude of them to ask that...I want to say back....well, how much do you weigh? Just to make them realize it is a rude question but maybe I am just being hypersensitive? I just always say..."oh, I am not revealing that!" with a laugh if I don't feel like answering...what does everyone think?
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No, they shouldn't ask, but people are dumb and rude and don't think.
I had someone ask me at my shower while I was opening gifts in front of everyone...I just responded with 'not a lot' and moved on.
It amazes me that people ask this! I got it a lot more with my first pregnancy for some reason. I never gave an answer. I would say I didn't know or "a lot!" My mom recently asked me and even though she is my mom, I hated that she asked.
Most people didn't know how much I'd gained with DS until after he was born AND I lost it all. Then I could finally talk about it.
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Thats definitely rude to ask. PG or not... IMO
no one has really asked how much i weigh i did get a few how much have you gained questions from my co-workers but i just say not much or enough or...my all time favorite its Why does it matter?
Bc if you really think abt it.. why does it matter to them?? they shouldnt be asking you that anyways.
I've been asked this too, mostly by DH's extended family - and I find it incredibly rude. I just sort of laugh awkwardly and try to brush it off, though one time DH's cousin wouldn't drop it, and insisted I tell her. When I told her I'd gained 20lbs (this was at 28 weeks), she said "Whoa, you should probably stop eating. I only gained 20lbs the entire pregnancy, and you've still got 3 months to go." I just looked at her with a shocked expression on my face.
All I can say is that I agree it's totally inappropriate, though I tend to be sensitive about the weight topic even when I'm not pregnant. Some people are more open about this stuff, I guess....
I think it's a personal thing where some people care and some don't. Personally, I don't care to share. If someone asks, I'll tell them, but it's not a big deal to me. I'm pregnant, and don't see it as the same as when people ask non-pregnant women how much they weigh. I think it's interesting to see different symptoms, weight gain, cravings etc. for different people. But wouldn't ask anyone about their weight gain, unless it's my sister or best friend It's the comments and advice about how much I don't know or that I'm not prepared, that I'm not a fan of.
I have seriously been SHOCKED at how many people actually ask this.
My family asks. My clients ask. My coworkers ask. It's the rudest question ever.
& I just smile & say, "My doctor is happy with it."
and then I get a lecture about how I don't want to have to lose all that weight after the baby arrives, so watch what I eat.
gee, thnx.
I say "the baby's about 6 pounds now" or whatever it is, and leave it at that.. do they also want to know my boobs went up 2 sizes too??
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I'd respond with "well you don't want to lose your conversation privileges with me, so you better watch what you say." Morons.
I was asked this by one co-worker but she's never had kids and I think she was genuinely curious and wasn't being rude. Coming from other people, I might have taken it differently.
My almost 92-year-old grandmother keeps asking me this. I tell her I'm right on track... even if I'm a bit over. I don't want to be compared to my younger cousin, who is a dancer and probably only gained 20-25 lb with each of HER pregnancies.
Otherwise, nobody else has. Thank goodness!
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