1st Trimester
jordans_wife
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kicking out mil
jordans_wife
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ok so i have thought a lot about who i want in the room with me when i actually start pushing. i'm fine with dh, my mom, sister, sil, and my bff (who will also be the nurse.) but i have a mil who will undoubtably make this somehow about her -not to mention awkward. what do you guys think about saying no to her being in the room even if i have those other girls and dh? she would make me horribly uncomfortable but i just know she'll throw an olympic sized fit if the others stay. thoughts? ideas?
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Re: kicking out mil
DS 1- 2010, DS 2- 2013
It may be easier not to have her if you don't have SIL. That being said, it is your choice! We are not even calling MIL to tell her we have had the baby until we have left the hospital. She is bat sh!t crazy, and no way would I have her around!
Good luck, you are in a sticky potision.
I think it is going to look really bad and end with hurt feelings if you let everyone but MIL stay. If that's how you want to come across, that's fine, but know that it will likely impact your future relationship.
I think the best thing to do in this scenario is kick everyone but your DH (and possibly your mom) out. I don't even see why you need all those people in there.
I think that if you're going to have all those other people in the room, she will get offended and it will just add to the drama you're already thinking she will create. I would think that your SIL (and possibly sister) would understand that it would help a lot with the drama level if they stayed out of the room and then your MIL won't feel like it's "just her." You'll still have the support you need and want and you won't have to deal with your MIL feeling singled out.
It's your moment! Do what you want...she already had her moment of giving birth. Also...if you have to "lie"...tell her there is a limit on how many people you can have in the room (which most of the time there is one).
good thoughts! i noticed lots thought the sil thing would look particularly bad. the reason i had wanted to include sil is that she has desperately been ttc since shes been married for almost 2 yrs now and i thought it would be nice to let her in on it too. but maybe in the interest of not causing drama i will rethink things.
one more point though, is that i could go on and on about this crazy woman- they make movies about mil's like her. think more people would understand. i can't help but to give just one example just to get you to really have an idea. at our wedding rehearsal night dh thanked his parents for the dinner and all for coming and then went on to also thank my parents for the wedding they where mostly paying for. she remarked loudly enough to be heard by most "this night isn't about them!" meaning not about my parents- it was her night she informed dh earlier because she payed for rehearsal dinner! ok- just had to give you guys and idea of what i'de be dealing with!