So I find out last night that my hubby's co-workers have been telling him that once the baby is born he might as well forget how good our relationship is. (These comments are even coming from his boss!) Apparantly I'm gonna fall so in love with the baby, I'll have to more time or use for my husband. The worst part is, I think DH believes them. Granted, if it comes down to nursing our hungry baby or rubbing his feet when he's tired, he's gonna have to take the back seat.
DH has been making jokes about how he thinks things are going to change for a few weeks now, but I'm pretty sure we're to a point where it's not really joking anymore. I really think he's convinced I'm just gonna forget he exists once we have a baby.
I know a lot of guys freak out a little bit, but good greif!
Re: DH is stressing me out with his stupid comments.
Well that's annoying of his boss to say. Not everyone does that. Have you thought about talking to him about it a bit? I had a talk with my fiance about this last weekend and asked him his fears and hopes. I found out the same thing your boss said. We decided that once a week we would have a date night like we do now just the two of us. Sometimes guys just need reassurance and need to get things off their chest.
We talked for a long time last night, because I really wanted him to know that he's not the only one who has concerns. I think I'm more worried than he is! I'm just not sure if he's convinced of anything though. He admitted to me that he's talked to his best friend (who just had his second baby last week) about how he feels, and he told him that it's made his and his wife's marriage better.
I know he's just stressed about the unknown, but his jokes about how bad our marriage might become aren't helping either of us feel more prepared for a baby!
I have always told DH before going to sleep that he is "my favorite". He said a few weeks ago that after the baby is born he won't be my favorite anymore. It was so sad and sweet at the same time.
I just told him that after the baby comes he will still be my favorite, only he'll be my favorite husband and friend. Kingston will be my favorite baby.
That seemed to do the trick.
Not related to your post--but I just realized not only does your LO have the same name as me (Audra) but she's due right around my birthday! Too funny!