I want to relive my labor experience. Those first 3 weeks home though- never! They were so tough. I'm thinking I had the baby blues or something because I was SO depressed.
For sure. I would have relaxed about things a lot more.
DD #1 passed away in January 2011 at 14 days old due to congenital heart disease
DD#2 lost in January 2012 at 23 weeks due to anhydramnios caused by a placental abruption
I would have gone home from the hospital and gotten into bed w/ my DD for the first week and not moved (and kicked DH out to the guest room too). Nursing was soo hard the first few days that I eventually gave it up, people give you all these ridiculous guidelines about how many minutes they should be on each boob, how often you need to change the diapers, and I kept trying to put DD down so I could sleep. What I should have done was co-slept with her, and let her be on me 99% of the time instead
I would have gone home from the hospital and gotten into bed w/ my DD for the first week and not moved (and kicked DH out to the guest room too). Nursing was soo hard the first few days that I eventually gave it up, people give you all these ridiculous guidelines about how many minutes they should be on each boob, how often you need to change the diapers, and I kept trying to put DD down so I could sleep. What I should have done was co-slept with her, and let her be on me 99% of the time instead of
I would have gone home from the hospital and gotten into bed w/ my DD for the first week and not moved (and kicked DH out to the guest room too). Nursing was soo hard the first few days that I eventually gave it up, people give you all these ridiculous guidelines about how many minutes they should be on each boob, how often you need to change the diapers, and I kept trying to put DD down so I could sleep. What I should have done was co-slept with her, and let her be on me 99% of the time instead of fighting
I would have gone home from the hospital and gotten into bed w/ my DD for the first week and not moved (and kicked DH out to the guest room too). Nursing was soo hard the first few days that I eventually gave it up, people give you all these ridiculous guidelines about how many minutes they should be on each boob, how often you need to change the diapers, and I kept trying to put DD down so I could sleep. What I should have done was co-slept with her, and let her be on me 99% of the time instead of fighting it
I would have gone home from the hospital and gotten into bed w/ my DD for the first week and not moved (and kicked DH out to the guest room too). Nursing was soo hard the first few days that I eventually gave it up, people give you all these ridiculous guidelines about how many minutes they should be on each boob, how often you need to change the diapers, and I kept trying to put DD down so I could sleep. What I should have done was co-slept with her, and let her be on me 99% of the time instead of fighting it and
I would have gone home from the hospital and gotten into bed w/ my DD for the first week and not moved (and kicked DH out to the guest room too). Nursing was soo hard the first few days that I eventually gave it up, people give you all these ridiculous guidelines about how many minutes they should be on each boob, how often you need to change the diapers, and I kept trying to put DD down so I could sleep. What I should have done was co-slept with her, and let her be on me 99% of the time instead of fighting it and tyring
I would have gone home from the hospital and gotten into bed w/ my DD for the first week and not moved (and kicked DH out to the guest room too). Nursing was soo hard the first few days that I eventually gave it up, people give you all these ridiculous guidelines about how many minutes they should be on each boob, how often you need to change the diapers, and I kept trying to put DD down so I could sleep. What I should have done was co-slept with her, and let her be on me 99% of the time instead of fighting it and trying
I would have gone home from the hospital and gotten into bed w/ my DD for the first week and not moved (and kicked DH out to the guest room too). Nursing was soo hard the first few days that I eventually gave it up, people give you all these ridiculous guidelines about how many minutes they should be on each boob, how often you need to change the diapers, and I kept trying to put DD down so I could sleep. What I should have done was co-slept with her, and let her be on me 99% of the time instead of fighting it and trying to
I would have gone home from the hospital and gotten into bed w/ my DD for the first week and not moved (and kicked DH out to the guest room too). Nursing was soo hard the first few days that I eventually gave it up, people give you all these ridiculous guidelines about how many minutes they should be on each boob, how often you need to change the diapers, and I kept trying to put DD down so I could sleep. What I should have done was co-slept with her, and let her be on me 99% of the time instead of fighting it and trying to get
I would have gone home from the hospital and gotten into bed w/ my DD for the first week and not moved (and kicked DH out to the guest room too). Nursing was soo hard the first few days that I eventually gave it up, people give you all these ridiculous guidelines about how many minutes they should be on each boob, how often you need to change the diapers, and I kept trying to put DD down so I could sleep. What I should have done was co-slept with her, and let her be on me 99% of the time instead of fighting it and trying to get her
I would have gone home from the hospital and gotten into bed w/ my DD for the first week and not moved (and kicked DH out to the guest room too). Nursing was soo hard the first few days that I eventually gave it up, people give you all these ridiculous guidelines about how many minutes they should be on each boob, how often you need to change the diapers, and I kept trying to put DD down so I could sleep. What I should have done was co-slept with her, and let her be on me 99% of the time instead of fighting it and trying to get her to
I would have gone home from the hospital and gotten into bed w/ my DD for the first week and not moved (and kicked DH out to the guest room too). Nursing was soo hard the first few days that I eventually gave it up, people give you all these ridiculous guidelines about how many minutes they should be on each boob, how often you need to change the diapers, and I kept trying to put DD down so I could sleep. What I should have done was co-slept with her, and let her be on me 99% of the time instead of fighting it and trying to get her to sleep
Now that I know what I should have done, what would have made it easier, I want another shot at it!
PLEASE educate me based on your experience. What would you have done differently?
DS #1 Born 5/19/2009 Sunshine in my life!
DS #2 Born 6/3/2011 at 26 weeks, 4 days; passed away 6.5 hours later
Transabdominal cerclage placed 4/16/2012
BFP 6/20/12!!!
We know so much more now about what to expect - but also, I got really messed up w/ BF at the hospital, and only made it with EBF until 3 1/2 weeks. (We're still going, but most of DD's food comes from formula.) Now that I know how to do it, I think next baby will be easier - still not looking forward to that first month, but I agree, if I could do it again knowing what we know now, I'd love to start over with DD.
then again... here she is napping like an angel at 7 weeks, after sleeping from her 1 AM feed until her 7 AM feed. So who am I to complain right now??
Re: I would really like to go back and redo that whole 1st week/1st month of mommyhood
You can always have another kid!
So do tell.....what is this secret knowledge that you have......
DD #1 passed away in January 2011 at 14 days old due to congenital heart disease
DD#2 lost in January 2012 at 23 weeks due to anhydramnios caused by a placental abruption
Agreed. It would have been MUCH easier had I known then what I know now.
I would also like to have another shot at labor. I'm looking forward to my next pregnancy.
I am with you. I don't see how changing anything would have made the first month better.
Q from 3rd trier:
So besides a pp saying relax more, what else would you all have done differently now that you know?
tia!
PLEASE educate me based on your experience. What would you have done differently?
This EXACLTY
We know so much more now about what to expect - but also, I got really messed up w/ BF at the hospital, and only made it with EBF until 3 1/2 weeks. (We're still going, but most of DD's food comes from formula.) Now that I know how to do it, I think next baby will be easier - still not looking forward to that first month, but I agree, if I could do it again knowing what we know now, I'd love to start over with DD.
then again... here she is napping like an angel at 7 weeks, after sleeping from her 1 AM feed until her 7 AM feed. So who am I to complain right now??