was it planned?
someflower6
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today i told one of the managers i work with that i'm knocked up. i didn't really want to this early, but given the nature of my work, i had to let him know why i was on "light duty" and what that would entail.
his response was congratulations, that's wonderful, etc etc... followed by "was it planned?"
well, no actually, it wasn't. hubs and i wanted to wait a year before even trying and i was completely shocked when i got a BFP. of course, that doesn't in any way imply that it was an UNWANTED pregnancy... i was shocked, yes, but thrilled also. i am all in.
but it's not like i'm gonna tell HIM that. i don't even know how to respond when someone asks. i really liked everyone's posts yesterday about responding to "i didn't even know you were trying!" so... suggestions?
and also, since this is a pregnancy board and we share info like morning sickness and sore boobs... was your pregnancy planned?
Re: was it planned?
mine was definatly not planned.
I chose to be pregnant for my wedding-
(My boss asked me if mine was planned and I had said that exact response)
I mean really people?
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Planned and trying for 2 years! But a complete shock when I got the positive results b/c I was so use to getting negative results!
I was asked this today. I said 'Ofcourse, I'm not a spring chicken anymore' I just hate how people react like I got knocked up in high school or something.
Mine was planned, but it happend quickly.
eta: you can always give them a worried look and a tear and say "I don't even know who the father is"
This. We wanted a family since we married. The official TTC didn't start about 7 months ago.
Not really. We knew we wanted a third child, but we were planning to TTC closer to DS's 2nd birthday. Oops. A happy oops though.
I hate that question from people though. What would they do if you said "No, and we're devastated"?
(m/c 1.17.07, m/c 5.15.07)
DS - 03.15.08
DD2 - 12.03.09
DD3 - 3.28.11
That question is only slightly more annoying than... Are you excited?
Just burns me something fierce!
Yes this pregnancy was planned ttc for 19 months before bfp#2! First one was too.
Very much planned, we'd been trying for a year and a half and were on a break (for financial reasons) from infertility treatment with the RE.
As for how to respond to "was it planned?" I'm not really sure what i'd say. think I'd say (in my sweetest most innocent voice) "What an odd question! Is an unplanned baby any different from a planned one?"
After 7 years trying to concieve, 3 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs, my third IVF was a success!
My Christmas baby turned into a turkey bird! Dillon Richard was born at 34 weeks, 5 days on November 28, 2009 after 10 weeks on bedrest for preeclampsia.
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I would do this, too, except i work at the same facility as my husband. I'm not sure he would appreciate the sense of humor!
Ditto. After being on bcp for 10 years, we thought it'd take a while, but after 2 cycles...BFP!!!!
Yes, very much planned. I doubt we'll get that question, since nearly everyone knows about our loss in November and a fair amount know about our ectopic.
But if we did get it, I assume a raised eyebrow and death stare would be enough. If it weren't, I think I'd just continue repeating, "I'm sorry, I don't think I understand the question." or "I'm so sorry, I must have misheard you." until they let it go.
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You can actually answer with something like, "We are absolutely thrilled."
It doesn't answer their question, but it should suffice.
I'm going to say this when random people ask me if the baby was planned. "Why yes. We had sex every day, and I checked my CM all the time. I just couldn't wait for that egg white consistency! Thanks for asking!!" Can you imagine their faces???
(m/c 1.17.07, m/c 5.15.07)
DS - 03.15.08
DD2 - 12.03.09
DD3 - 3.28.11