DH is a jerk
blendedfammama
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So, yesterday we went to pick up the crib and to the mall to get my shower dress. I proceeded to tell him at 5 o'clock, before we left, I was hungry, then again when we were on our way I mentioned stopping to get something, then when we were leaving the mall I made a comment about how this child is going to be starved to death if he depended on his daddy to feed him. He then goes into this huge lecture about how I'm the one carrying this baby, it's my responsibility to eat if I'm hungry. He can't read minds, he says. I pretty much broke down and started crying hysterically and screaming at him telling him how I hate that it's just my responsibility and he couldn't possibly think he HAS to be a mind reader because I said something TWICE. That's called listening, not freaking mind reading. Ugh. I sometimes wonder why we are doing this. 
Now I'm upset all over again.
Re: DH is a jerk
Men are babies. Seems like he is having some Jealously - or feeling that he needs to cater to you or something - which he does!
My dh frustrates me when I feel like he is being needy lately...men.
Next time you should just stop at one of the places in the mall's food court, order yourself food...sit down and start eating...without saying anything to him. If he says anything, be like, "What? It's MY responsibility to eat when I'm hungry, right?" LOL....men!
I killed my back on Sunday, and on Monday night I asked dh to pick up groceries on the way home because I knew I would not be able to hobble around the grocery store. He brought everything in and dumped it in the hallway and flopped on the couch in front of the TV. He didn't even say hello or ask how I was feeling. Eventually he asked me if it was up to him to make dinner, too? I felt like kicking him in the teeth!!! I can barely move, and he wants an f'ing parade and medal of valour because he picked up a few things at the grocery store???
I can't wait until MY parade....
My DH can't stay awake long enough to feed me. I'm on bedrest and I have a debilitating hip problem. When he gets home, after dealing with the girls all day, I go to bed to ice my hip and get my "bedrest" in.
One night, I asked him if he could make me mashed potatoes. This was at 7pm. I waited. And I waited. I figured he'd do it when the oldest went to be at 8:15pm. Waited some more. He put her to bed. He came back in our room and laid down. I waited.
The loser fell asleep. I was so angry, I wanted to pound his face in. Instead, I sat there and cried because I was so hungry and felt so alone.
The next day, I said something and he said I should have "reminded him". What, when he was asleep????
I'm so over him. I've decided he's useless and have learned I can't depend on him for anything. Thankfully, I have a doula to get me through my delivery.
About two weeks ago BF and I had a bit of a tiff, I asked him why he seems so distant when I tell him how I am feeling regarding being pg. He came back with a comment like: All I ever hear is how miserable you are, or that you can't breathe or that you are swollen. NEVER do I hear any joy.
I did not speak to him for the rest of the day, and now when he asks me how I am feeling I tell him "joyful" It makes him feel like ass and he deserves it! Ahole
I have started to realize that my DH is a jerk too often but I never paid attention to the fact before. I hormones are a good thing for fighting back and showing him how I really feel.
Good luck!!!
I guess mine isn't as bad as I thought after hearing some of yours. But....I always thought he would be the best when we got pregnant, so I was disappointed none the less. He complains that he is working so much, which he is. But he doesn't get that the stress on our pregnant bodies is totally different than standing in a court room for 12 hours. I just remind him that there is just so many weeks left and I need to be spoiled during that time, so don't complain when I asked to be massaged or ask for a drink and a vitamin. Just do it and shut up.
I'm sorry he upset you! Argh. Men.
Maybe he just needs you to be more specific. My DH doesn't always get the hint if I just say "I'm _____". Most men are not subtle creatures. I get that "I'm not a mindreader" comment a lot from my DH - never in relation to food because he is always hungry & the mere mention of food will send him straight to Subway, but in many other areas. He tells me that hint-dropping doesn't work, I need to just come right out and say what I want/need, as directly and specifically as possible.
Next time, if you say, "I'm hungry" when out and about and he doesn't respond to it, be more direct, and say, "I don't have any snacks with me. I am starving. We need to stop NOW and get something to eat, or I am going to pass out." Hopefully that will give him the message!