So torn about whether or not to get a cradle, co-sleeper, bassinet, etc. My hubby works long hours and gets up at 4 AM every day...so I am wondering whether or not it will be a good idea to have something in our room...or if baby should just go right to the nursery (which is right next to our room.)
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My friend sleeps downstairs with her newborn in a PNP to avoid waking her husband (who has a similar early schedule) and her DD.
We have a pnp in our room, but if this one is anything like our son, she will sleep on daddy for the first 2 weeks then go to the pnp, then to her crib at about 2 months...haha here's to wishful thinking!!
We will have the PNP set up in our room, but we are considering getting a co-sleeper this go around because DD never made it back into the PNP after the first night feeding. Plus , we're in a different house this time around and it is a 3 story townhouse, so we want a PNP on one of the other levels of the house as well, so we're thinking co-sleeper in our room with the PNP in our main living area.
Each person is different. I have a friend that has the baby in the crib the first night home, because after trying having the baby in her room with her first she decided that she preferred the baby in the nursery. She felt everyone slept better, so baby #2 and #3 went straight to the nursery.
any time you have to get OUT of bed makes life more difficult IMO... even if the nursery is close- it sucks if you have to get up just to put a paci back in, or just to pat a belly...
this is why i highly recommend a bedside cosleeper. We had a regular bassinet for DS and hated it b/c we had to get up so often... and it was in our room.
so we sold it and got a bedside cosleeper and it was great- i was able to reach over and pat his belly if he was fussy... put his paci back in, etc - all without getting up. He also started to STTN once we got it- i think he liked being able to see me, etc. (at 8w old).
we will have the twins in 2 bedside cosleepers... for probably about 3 months, like we did with DS.
We will put the baby in the crib in the nursery from the start.
We decided that a bassinet isn't worth the money for us because the baby can only be in it for a short time. A lot of bassinets have a VERY low weight limit.
Also, we don't want to worry about how the baby would transition between sleeping in our room and sleeping in their own room. The nursery is right next to our room, so it shouldn't be a problem.
Oh and also, my husband works 12 hour shifts, 6 am to 6 pm, goes to bed around 9:30 or 10, and is up at 4:30, if that answers your question a little more.
When I had DS he was in his crib right from the beginning because his room was just down the hall from ours & I could hear him without the baby monitor. THis time around the baby will be in the pack n play in our room until he's sleeping through the night. He'll be sharing a room with DS and I don't want to put the baby in with him and wake DS up every 3 hours.
Also we're using the pack n play with the bassinet top because we'll get more use out of it than a bassinet / cradle.
my DH has a similar sched. he is up out of the house at 5.
for DD i had a PnP in the room, but for the first 2 months i slept with her doen stairs in the TV room. she was up every hr or 2 so it was easier for me to feed her and watch tv.
then i moved her to the bedroom in the PnP when she was sleeping for 4 hrs at a time.
We have an Arm's-Reach Co-sleeper (Mini) in our bedroom. That's partly because I wanted to be very close to the baby in the night, but also partly because we're in a small apartment that doesn't have SPACE for a nursery.
I figure we'll be consistently re-evaluating things once the Bun finishes baking - maybe we're NOT getting enough sleep and will want the baby in another room, or maybe _I_ can deal with the up/down all the time in the night, but my husband can't, so the baby and I will "move out" for a little while or something. It's really hard to say.
It seems that current research suggests that babies are happier when their needs are met as soon as is possible. (I don't think they specify "one minute" or "ten minutes", so I imagine it's whatever works out for you guys.)