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MIL just invited herself into the delivery room.

Perfectly.ImperfectPerfectly.Imperfect
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No.  On so many levels, no.  How she arrived at the conclusion that I wanted her in there is completely beyond me.  I love her 9 and 3/4 days out of 10 but seriously...

 

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    SFNewzGirlSFNewzGirl

    Yeah... no.

    What did you say when she told you this?

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    MrsNnrMrsNnr
    I would had to have laughed. My mom said she didn't want to be in there, that she couldn't watch me give birth. I seriously said "That's good because we weren't planning on inviting you..."
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    SquishycheeksSquishycheeks

    Yeah...no.

    If my MIL tried to come in, I'd take a break from labor and beat her a$$..

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    Jessie0706Jessie0706
    Yea... Don't think I want even my own mother in there with me...
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    jhelly77jhelly77 member
    So. Not. Cool.
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    ladysingsthebluesladysingstheblues

    Nope.

    For the 34573457456th time, thank god for my awesome MIL.

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    lanabeth86lanabeth86
    My MIL, SIL, Sis, Mom, DH, and a midwife will be in attendance for the glorious event. I'm going to feel like a science experiment.
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    Perfectly.ImperfectPerfectly.Imperfect

    I told her that I just wanted it to be me and FI.

    Her reply was, and I quote, "Well, J (FI) can stay out in the hall with me and your mom can be in the room with you."

    Ah.  No.  He wants to be in there, despite the fact that you think you know him inside and out.  NEWSFLASH: You don't.  Go that way ----->

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    jayhawkgirl25jayhawkgirl25 member
    I would have to say HELL NO to that!?
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    lkichlkich member

    OMG I do NOT want my MIL in the delivery room! I don't even know if I want my Mom there. Yikes! Good luck!

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    SafetyWife07SafetyWife07

    I would not be happy by her trying to tell me who is going to be where when my child is delivered. I'm sure you and FI will handle her as you see fit! : )

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    jen-and-ryonjen-and-ryon member
    Ewww, no!
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    jessicaclarejessicaclare member

    I don't even want my MIL to know I'm in labor, much less be there. This is sort of funny because she's appointed herself as babysitter for DD while I'm birthing this one, which is just not happening because she doesn't drive.

    My BIL invited himself into the delivery room when I was pregnant with my first. DH and I were both speechless for awhile before we gave the big ol' HELL NO. 

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    Kflie83Kflie83 member
    I love my MIL too but HELL NO!!!
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    Perfectly.ImperfectPerfectly.Imperfect
    Yup...  I rolled my eyes and changed the subject.  She gets like this and I just don't want to deal.
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    jaxgevjaxgev member
    I'd just forget to call her when I go into labor.  But that's just me.
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    kmh2201kmh2201 member
    Yeah, I would die or beat my MIL up if she was in the delivery room.  I'm planning on just DH, and maybe my mom, but I think I would prefer if DH and I could just share that time together.  My MIL irritates me to death, so I don't want her anywhere near me until after I have the baby and have some time to recover.
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    thequeeenbeethequeeenbee member

    Ugh, no way. It was bad enough that she invited herself into the room, but to tell you who she thinks you should have in there... no way.

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    SharonWantsABabySharonWantsABaby member
    HA! I don't care if I have to hire security! My MIL isn't coming near that delivery room!
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    dimakedimake
    imageSquishycheeks:

    Yeah...no.

    If my MIL tried to come in, I'd take a break from labor and beat her a$$..

    LOL.  Is it bad that somedays I just hope she barges in, just so I can do this?  It may be the one time I'd ever get to really tell her what I think of her and not have to deal with any fallout...

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    SquishycheeksSquishycheeks
    imagedimake:
    imageSquishycheeks:

    Yeah...no.

    If my MIL tried to come in, I'd take a break from labor and beat her a$$..

    LOL.  Is it bad that somedays I just hope she barges in, just so I can do this?  It may be the one time I'd ever get to really tell her what I think of her and not have to deal with any fallout...

    I've thought the same thing lol...Embarrassed

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    allowryallowry
    Oh, no.  i don't even want my own mom in there but she has made it clear she would like to be.
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    jaxgevjaxgev member
    I'm considering letting my MIL watch just so that the sight of my vagina scares her into not wanting to stay for two weeks after to dictate how to take care of myself, my husband, the dog and the baby.
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    RachBRachB
    Oh god no. I don't even want my own mother in the room!
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    madameladauphinemadameladauphine member

    imagejaxgev:
    I'd just forget to call her when I go into labor.  But that's just me.

    This is EXACTLY what I would do!!! Hahaha!

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    LoveEeyoreLoveEeyore member
    imagejaxgev:
    I'm considering letting my MIL watch just so that the sight of my vagina scares her into not wanting to stay for two weeks after to dictate how to take care of myself, my husband, the dog and the baby.
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    LoveEeyoreLoveEeyore member

    imagejaxgev:
    I'm considering letting my MIL watch just so that the sight of my vagina scares her into not wanting to stay for two weeks after to dictate how to take care of myself, my husband, the dog and the baby.

    That's one thought.  But I'd bet that seeing your vagina would, in her mind, give her greater entitlement to dictate away. 

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    MuckDivaMuckDiva
    That is wrong on so many levels.  I told my Mom and MIL that they can wait outside and that DH will give updates. 
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    SFNewzGirlSFNewzGirl
    Ugh, people are sooo rude.
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    jaxgevjaxgev member
    imageLoveEeyore:

    imagejaxgev:
    I'm considering letting my MIL watch just so that the sight of my vagina scares her into not wanting to stay for two weeks after to dictate how to take care of myself, my husband, the dog and the baby.

    That's one thought.  But I'd bet that seeing your vagina would, in her mind, give her greater entitlement to dictate away. 

    I'm confused.  But really that's nothing new.

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    heidismithheidismith member
    Ya no way in hell will my MIL be is the room and I am going to make sure the nurses know that!
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    Ewww, no!

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    tigpomtigpom
    That is terrible.  I can't believe she just invited herself in.  I would be saying Hell No too!  I am lucky that my MIL wont be asking for that. 
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    mariec77mariec77 member

    I am just laughing right now! That is insane! I could not imagine! My MIL is just coming when the baby is born and is going to stay with us for a bit. But she is NOT going to be in the room. I dont believe she would even ask.

    That is insane. Just tell her its an intimate time for you and your DH and to back off!!! 

     

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    melissa1321melissa1321

    there is no way i'd want my MIL in the delivery room with me. I think if she tried i'd start throwing things and totally forget I was in labor till she left.

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    drpgirldrpgirl

    Wow, I would just laugh.?

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    If you need some backup, tell her that the Bradley labor book specifically states that distractions during labor can lengthen or completely ?stal labor. I don't know about your MIL, but mine, and even my own mom would be a disruption.?

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    Actually, my mom was a disruption.

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    Comments like, "I know it's uncomfortable" As my contractions were off the chart, come to mind. ?

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    DanielsWifeDanielsWife
    Neither Mom nor MIL will be there when I go into transition labor and deliver the kid. NO WAY. They both know this already, and the only exception is if things were to go fast and my Mom drives me there and stuff happens before DH gets there.
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