Pregnant after 35
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Did anyone NOT have problems conceiving?
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My DH and I want to TTC but he wants to wait until June to avoid having a winter baby. I think it's best to start now, as I assume it will take time. We do have a DS so I know there are no major issues, just age (will be 35 in a few months) and luck. I'm ready now and don't want to wait a few months to start and then however long it takes to get pregnant. I'm also concerned that if we decide to go for #3, it will take a while then. Did anyone get pregnant right away? I'm just wondering if I have the luxury of waiting a few extra months at this age.
BTW, I realize that waiting a few extra months or having a winter baby is not the end of the world, just wanted some opinions.
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Re: Did anyone NOT have problems conceiving?
I have PCOS so would have had problems i'm sure- we did get pg on our own once right when we started TTC- and m/c. We started to see an RE right after that and it only took one cycle with clomid to work to get DS... then at age 35 it took us 2 cycles with clomid to get the twins.
i have many friends 35+ who got pg in the first month or 2 of TTC without any help - so unless you are truly ready to be pg right away- i'd wait.
i'm with your DH- i could not deal with a winter baby- i think i'd get bad PPD and stress over sicknesses, etc - i already hate winter as it is- i would be miserable stuck in the house with an infant. I'm a big fan of spring babies
good luck to you!
I was knocked up 2 months after stopping the pill at the age of 37 1/2. I had a history of endo and fibroids so it was a surprise that it was so easy.
He is my first and possibly my only child. Pregnancy itself was tough - wicked m/s and GD. ?
I conceived on my 5th cycle off BCP and I'm 38 (will deliver at 39).
I was convinced that I would have problems (not sure why) but luckily I did not.
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I got pregnant in 2 months with DS at the age of 36. We weren't trying for DS#2, and I was 39 when we conceived.
I worked in fertility clinics for 6 years, and figured we'd have TTTC when we started. I was so convinced I'd have trouble, we started trying before we were even engaged. I think that trying to plan for trouble is just as difficult as trying to plan for no trouble, if that makes any sense. You can't predict one way or the other, so, eh, roll the dice when you're ready and hope for the best!
Good luck!
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I went on and on, explaining to DH that it was certainly going to take a while with #2, as I was 39, and I've got old eggs, etc etc etc.
It was August, BBQ time, I was drinking like it was my *job* that month between all of the end of summer parties, and the FIRST month we tried I hit it. No one was more shocked than I, and honestly - I was trying desperately to avoid having to cancel work in the spring, since I'm self employed and had a LOT of it then.... but to quote my favorite phrase.. "People make plans and God laughs."
Just be prepared for it to happen when it happens once you start trying!
Christine
It seemed like it too forever go get PG with #1. It took 7 cycles and I was obsessed w/ it. I planned it out meticulously and finally did Clomid and that worked. I was 34.
With these last 2 pregnancies, it happened almost miraculously. We weren't really trying, were not having sex regularly (if at all...it's been pretty dry in our house :-) ) and it happened very quickly.
I really do believe that the less you stress and worry about it, the quicker it will happen.
I went off birth control at the end of Nov. (our honeymoon). I got a BFP on Jan. 22. I turned 35 in last Nov. As my BF put it "see what you get for being healthy"
I was really banking on the fact that it would take a few months since I am in a midst of a career change and still working as an intern. But I was also afraid if we waited it might not happen so we rolled the dice. I am still hoping to find full time employment before I start to show. DH and I are very excited in any case and we'll make it work regardless of my job status.
Mary
I got pregnant the 2nd month I tracked my cycle & had "scheduled" sex, lol. Prior to that, I was just winging it for about 6 months & did not conceive, but after I started paying attention to my body & tracking my cycle for about a month, we got pregnant right away, at age 35, will be 36 at delivery.
We started trying when I was 38 and it took us over two years, including fertility treatments and then getting pregnant on our own! But.. we had essentially given up.
I've done a ton of research and seen lots of doctors (wish I hadn't) and there's lots of conflicting views. However, from everything I've found, unfortunately age is definitely the biggest predictor for how long it will take and if you will be able to get pregnant. in the 'wish i had known' camp, i'd say that if you know that you definitely want another, start asap as that's the best way to put the odds in your favor. if you're ok with maybe having another or would be ok if it didn't happen, then i'd wait until it was optimal timing. but, if you definitely want one, unfortunately the waiting period is behind us!
Good luck to you! And btw, having had a baby already gives you better odds than the rest of us.
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DS -- 3YO
We didn't have any problems. DS was conceived in our second month of trying. We didn't do anything special. DH calls it the saturation bombing method of trying.
Edit: I was 39 and DH was 35 when we conceived.
Ours was the first try and I was 38 at the time.
I was lucky and got pg the first month off of the pill and the first month of trying after the m/c.
Good luck!
Got pregnant both times I tried. First one ended in a M/C at 6 weeks and the second time was also successful and we're on our way.
I think that two factors contributed to our success. 1. I kept taking prenatal vitamins between the M/C and this pregnancy and 2. I put on a little bit of extra weight and stopped dieting/fiendishly working out and trying to be a size 4.
I would get your body ready these next few months to be host. It may not be trying per say, but you are. You are creating a fruitful environment to support a pregnancy. Get lots of sleep. Eat well. Walk every day. Take up yoga. If you aren't already active that is. ?
I didn't even worry that I wouldn't be able to conceive. I was confident, was not worried about my age (I'm 36) and well adjusted to the idea of adding a new person to our family. GL?
We had no problems with either pregnancy. With DS, it was my 5th cycle off the pill but first cycle charting. I had minor issues coming off the pill (an anovulatory cycle) and OPK's didn't work for me
This pregnancy wasn't planned. We weren't trying, but we weren't preventing either. I had only had 2 periods since DS was born and they were both wacky with long cycles. So we were quite surprised!
Oh I was 34 when we got pg with #1 and 2 months shy of 36 with this one. GL!
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