F/U to my super stupid husband
AmyDrinkie
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So after I posted that huge tirade earlier, I called him at work but he didn't answer. ?So I sent him an email saying we need to both make a list of what chores need to be done on a daily and a weekly basis, combine our lists and then decide how to divide everything up, and when we should do what. ?He called me back and said that was a "stupid idea" and said "well all we have to do is eat dinner, feed & walk the dog, feed & bathe the kid, done." ?Um, NOT done. ?What about dishes and bottle prep? ?What about cleaning up the new hairball the cat coughed up while we were at work? ?What about all the other things he comes up with that actually aren't important thathe ?thinks have to be done instead of bonding w/ our child, like rearranging the beers in the fridge in the garage, or BSing with your friends instead of whipping out that workout and getting home, or giving your wife a rundown of things she needs to do after she brushes her teeth while you watch The First 48 on DVR?
F him. ?He thinks I am an employee rather than his wife. ?Well I quit. ?I'm going to eat cereal for dinner and not cook. ?If he leaves laundry in the washer/dryer when I need to use it, I'm going to throw it on his side of the bed and let him deal with it. ?I hope the cat wallows all in it and covers it in hair too. ?And the next time he asks me what I'm going to do with the shoes under the coffee table that I JUST took off, I'm going to tell him BEND OVER AND I'LL SHOW YOU.
Why did I get married again??
Re: F/U to my super stupid husband
I went on a cooking strike one night because DH complained about dishes in the sink and then plopped down in front of the TV. We had a talk about responsibilities and I told him that even though I am home all day with DD, I don't always have time to complete everything. I also told him that when he complains about nothing being done he makes me feel worthless, like I can't do anything.
After that he started helping out more and we are doing things as a team, rather than telling one person to do the dishes.
Sure! ?Thank you for the offer.
I missed your earlier tirade, but can I just say, thank god I'm not the only who deals with this crap.
DH pulled this crap once and I cleaned up all my stuff and left his all over, so when our friends came over only his mess was out. After that he started helping me around the house.
I say give him a swift Kick as well.
I would get up really early on Saturday and leave DC with him for the ENTIRE day. Let him see how much work it is to take care of a baby and try to get housework done.
He needs to spend a whole day alone with DD and be responsible for all her needs as well as the whole house.
You should get him on the show Crash Test Mommy
I think a strike might be just what your H needs to realize how much you actually do around the house. Honestly, stick to it and let the house get messy and don't fix him dinner. If he still doesn't get the picture after that, then you two need to talk to a 3rd party to see if you can work through these issues.
I'm so sorry this is causing you stress. I went through something similar early on and had a few HUGE fights with DH. Thankfully, he's improved a lot. Still, I've had to lower my expectations. I was expecting too much from him and all it did was make me more upset. Once I made peace with the fact that I'm the primary caretaker of DD, it made everything easier. It also helps that DD makes it known that I'm her favorite person on the planet.
Sadly, my H will just continue to wear dirty socks.
He does do most of the cooking and remodeling projects around the house, so I can't complain too much.
You go girl! Let him have it!!!
This is awesome! I'm totally doing that to hubby....starting today!
And Amy....I actually live close enough to come over and kick his a$$. You've got my number girl!
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Yeah, I'm sure that's going to make him change his ways...lol.
Get that Martha Stewart *** outta here!
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Wha?
Way to let a DH continue to take his wife for granted. "Hmmm, I can do nothing around the house, have dinner each night without lifting a finger ever, and my wife even tells me she loves me after bowing down to my every whim. What reason is there to change my ways, this is working just fine for me".
Yup, he's being an immature jerk.
Let him take care of the baby alone. Seriously, it works wonders. DH started taking FMLA to take care of DD when I went back to work a month ago. OMG, it has worked wonders. He understands what it's like and is wholly invested in her now. It's great to have an equal partner now.
And then what? A big old BJ? Good God. You are a mess Ruthiebell.
"When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame